Is a marriage an assurance of a lasting relationship?

Philippines
February 2, 2007 2:48am CST
Most of the girls dream of a grand wedding it is like a fairy tale come true wherein at the end there is this line "they live happily ever after". If this so why there are married couple that end up separated after 2 or 3 years of marriage? Is it really the wedding that binds the couple or the effort of both party to nourish the relationship especially on the hard times? Do people get married for the sake of making their union legal and blessed by the church or are they getting married because they believe or thought that if they married this person they would have the authority or the right to be with that person? I know people who are not married but they stick together through good and bad times sometimes they are more like couples than those who has a grand wedding years ago. If this is the case what is the significant of getting married aside from getting the blessing of the church and the legality of your union?
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126 responses
• India
2 Feb 07
well i dont think marriage is an assuarnce of a lasting relationship...once should remember that any relationship be it marriage or friendship involves a lot of understanding or give and take....no realtionships can last or survive without the above......marriage usually break up after some years when the people in it realiase that their interst do not meet and that happiness is not found...one has to underrstand and not make marriage a means to solemnise his or her relationship only...but one should get married when they want to spend the rest of their life with each other
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
I agree that marriage is not an assurance in any way, shape or form! That is so true that without understanding and give and take then it is not very promising! Along with communication, love and trust!
@yanple (164)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
marriage and wedding are 2 different things. marriage is the relationship and commitment between two people, while wedding is just the ceremony that binds the couple in the eyes of God and people. wedding is important to make everything legal, but a grand and an expensive one doesn't definitely guarantee a lasting marriage. the marriage or the commitment is most important and what really matters.
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@talisman (1306)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I like that you stated the difference between a wedding and a marriage. I agree completely with you! So many people put focus on the wedding when that isn't what matters at all. It's sad.
• United States
2 Feb 07
i don't think so;even though u think r a guy and poor;if ur girl wants u to give her a big wedding;to me if that person really love u;doesn't matter how big or small wedding will a guy give it to his girlfriend;both of them will be happy forever.
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@apky12 (775)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I don't think that getting married assures that you will be in a life lasting bond. A lot of people get married b/c they want a family and they want the children to be under that legal bond of the marriage too. I also think that people don't think about marriage as they are doing it for the legality and blessing of the church. I think they think that that's what you do when you want to take the next step. It's just so ingrained it us to just do this if we want to have kids and grow old together.
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@rosie_123 (6116)
2 Feb 07
Well personally I don't think it is at all. Lots of people get married for the wrong reasons, for example, because they are young and "in love" for the frst time and don't really know their spouse well enough, or perhaps because of parental pressure. As someone who has been married and divorced, and then met my "soul mate" who I have lived with for the past 19 years without marriage, I tend to say marriage means nothing more than a piece of paper. It doesn't mean you love your partner more than someone who lives "in sin", it doesn't mean yoy can't have childrem together, it doesn't mean you can't have a joinr mortgage and financial commitents. I know in some countries and cultures things are different, but here in Europe the statistics show more people are lving together than getting married, so to many of us, marriage is just a piece of paper and nothing else.
@Rana_2007 (235)
• Bangladesh
2 Feb 07
Marriage is a social contract to live together. But it is not assure lasting relationship. Bcz some time ppl maintain this relation for social purpose, not mental purposes. Trust and love is the main things to lasting relatioship. Absence of these the relation will not sustain.
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@ajay22 (300)
• India
2 Feb 07
No marriage is no insurance for lasting relationship, many couples who happens to stay together for a long time breaks up after marriage. I think its because after marriage we start taking other for granted thinking that now we are together forever so nothing will happen. apparently the reason why we marry is also the reason why many of them fails.
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• Nigeria
2 Feb 07
marriages are supposed to be long lasting but due to divorce this days they do not even last for a year i think that before anyone goes into marriage he/ she should consider the fact that marriage is sacred and should be long lasting
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• India
2 Feb 07
Marriage is important in everybody life. But the amount spent for this function is depends on their financial status. There is not meant that to spend more amount for their marriage live long time sucessfully and other are not. The life is based on the under stand between husband and wife.If we spend more money for that function the loss is ours only.
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@hermanica (390)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
theres no assurance that you will "live happily ever after". A lot of marriages especially in USA are failures since they have divorce...to live happily ever after requires a lot of effort for a couple...
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• India
2 Feb 07
Yes sometimes it is saying marriages are happening in heaven. but todays situation is different. Marriage parties are going on grand basis. But after 3 or 4 years these couples will be separated. How can be it happened?
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• India
2 Feb 07
yes it is the best policy to gt married as it provides u physical as well as social security in the society ....india is the country where marriages r the the most sucessful way to live.....
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• India
2 Feb 07
yes with marraige u can have trust that ur better half wont leave u so dont go for jus relationship have marraige which is best assurance of lasting relationship...
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@ichurn (611)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
Marriage is never an assurance of a lasting relationship. I believe that marriage is just a formality to the community and to the people. Lasting relationships come from real love and respect to every person. There are no external things that would make up a lasting relationship.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
I think that you need to believe there is that assurance when you get married. But I know that some people who get married these days think that they will get married and BAM, all their relationship problems are fixed. Marriage is just like a non-married relationship. It's an ongoing process and it takes work. But the difference is that you SHOULD have that great foundation built, that trust firmly in place, and that love should be grown more every single day.
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@DigWeed (225)
• Romania
2 Feb 07
Yes is it ! you better think about that !:) beacouse when you are married you can`t do what you want to do !You are starding to be a parent and have kids !
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• India
2 Feb 07
Marriage is no assurance of a long lasting relationship, but mutual adjustment is. We have to be really patient and mature when dealing with the ones we love and care for. Many things can't be acceptable for us,but then we have to look at this with a broader perspective... the ego taking a back seat when it comes to relationship.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
No. Marriage is not an assurance for a lasting relationship..now adays "annulment" is known..there are lots of cases with that. We girls search for a lasting relationhips but we are dissapointed with them. guys are two timers, a liar. if we will be going into a relationship we should mean it..hold our relationship, strive for it..and we will love each other..we are blessed n the Name of Love and in the Eyes of GOd, so we have to live forever...if we got a problem it should be solved in both of you, u should talked for it..and state the consequences..
@RedEyes (77)
• Belgium
2 Feb 07
I have to say that mariage is not an assurance, there is no assurance that a relationship will last.It all depends on the people involved in the relationship
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• India
2 Feb 07
Marriage has just become a ritual....merely a custom.....and it is not at all an assurance for a lasting relationship.......for a long lasting relationship there should be mutual understanding and caring in the couple......the effort of both persons is required.......and there are relations that last even without marrying.....it is not always necessasy to marry.......these days we see more divorces than marriages......so marriages are not assurance of a lasting relationships...it is the trust and faith that the couple build up.
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