I am hurt.

Marymarj2002, try not to be too sad about this. Just wait and see if her grades are effected by her working and that may be a good way for you to get through to her that she needs to let you continue to support her. I think you are doing a marvelous job wanting to support your sister and should be commended for that. My daughter is in the last year of high school and has taken on a part time job. At first, I thought it would effect her grades also. I told her that she could only keep it if her grades didnt suffer. To my surprise this is her best year in high school!!! Her grades are WAY UP!!! It could also just be a phase, she is getting older and wants to be a little bit more independent. That is understandable. Just try to take it easy. Let her know that you don't want her grades to suffer and that you are more that willing and able to continue to support her - even now that you are married and both you and your husband are working, so she has nothing to fret and that she can concentrate totally on her studies. Nevertheless, I am sure she is an extremely smart young lady. Being on the honor role she may be quite capable of handling both. She may just need a chance to "spread her wings" a bit. Best always... Andre'a

you dont need to worry about it. the reason why she took a job without telling you is that maybe she was just afraid to ask and doesnt want to be a burden to you. she understands your situation that is why she has chosen to get a job. i know it is hard for you to see her get a job when she should be concentrating on her studies. all you need is a heart to heart talk with your dear sister. there is no need to argue over this. tell her how you can continue to support her even though you are married now. i know working can be a sign of being independent. explain to her that it would be hard to both go to school and work at the same time (believe me, i tried that). just try not to scold her from taking a job. let her know how you feel and i am sure you will both agree on something.

well its nothing wrong in doing so.actually she thinks more maturely at that age.and dont wory about her studies,she can balance them both because she is such kind of girl.so she can have success simulataneously in her studies and her work.its nothing wrong because many of them r trying to do like this.but really we should encourage such ones.so they can achieve more and more at their early ages.

U SHOULD NOT BE SAD HENCE YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD THAT UR BABY SIS HAS GROWN..... SHE DSNT WANT TO BE A BURDEN ON U...... JUST TRY TO UNDERSTAND HER MIND ENCOURAGE HER AND REST EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE....1

she just respects u...n dont want 2 be a burden on u...!! u should be pround that ur baby sister has grown up now into a mature sensible adult...who knowz her responsibilities...!! hav faith in her...she ll do fine...!! dont stop her from workin...tell her if she wants 2 she can...but say she can work only fewer dayz..like weekendz or something...!! workin outside..will give her experience n boost her confidence...!1 u dont want to take that novel exp. from her do u??!! she ll be fine trust me...it seemz that u guyz were close....remain close to her...u dont want her to feel that shez lost a frend do u?? more tthan money..she needz the emotional support n only u can provide her that...!!

Be proud to your sister . . . Just support her decision. I thought she's really an intelligent person.

Don't be. Look at it in a positive way. =) Your sister may be more mature than you think. In my point of ciew, I think she is trying to support herself to be able to lessen your burdens. Now that you are married, your sister knows that one day, you'll have your own kids. She just tries to make it up for herself. She doesn't want you to worry about financially supoprting her studies. You can still help her out every once in a while. Give your sister a chance.=) She's trying to grow up. =)