Breaking Up... Through phone, text, email, or personal?

I am sorry to hear about your breakup. It's definitely the sign of the times. It's funny, my husband and I don't own cell phones (we can't afford them). Plus we've never sent a text message. Well, you saw your boyfriend's true colors. If he was a MAN, he should have done it in person... He's a coward...

yes it is cowardly... i would probably do the same thing... its just not for me to come to a person and tell him that we are breaking up.... email is also not a good way.... for me atleast the best is to call :)

i think her boyfriend was a jerk i think breaking up is something personal which should be front to front not through phoneor mail

you should do it personal. i personally think it is no good,breaking up,with e-mail or sms. and then you will look like britney spears. she broke up with just an sms.

Wow. That's really cowardly alright. That's worse than breaking up with someone by email or instant message. I think messages of that nature are important enough that they should be said face to face, or over the telephone at the very least. I hope they didn't have a lot of time invested in their relationship and that your friend is not too upset. I'm sure she deserves much better than that.

I admit, breaking up over the phone, e-mail, or text message is pretty sad. However, it's better than not ever hearing from then again and being left wondering what happened. It is much easier to get your point across and all of your problems/issues when you're not face to face with someone. I think the best solution to that is to write a letter or a bunch of notes and read it directly to the person, face to face. Give the letter to them, and then leave. Let them think about what you have said, and they can respond how they would like.

Your friend is better off without that guy. What a coward. He is not a real man. I do not buy the excuse that breaking up through a text message is done to avoid seeing the other party being hurt by the breakup. Only cowards break up through e-mail, phone call, or text message. This kind of guys are afraid to have a confrontation. A real man would be brave to face a girl, look her straight in the eyes, and tell her he wants his freedom. He will be gentleman enough to explain his reasons and give the girl a chance to air her side as well. That way, they could end the relationship in a nice way. They could even end up being friends or at least they could be civil to each other when they see each other around. Even if it is a girl who would initiate the breakup, I still believe it should be done by personally telling the other person involved. That for me is a way of showing respect to the other person who had been a special part of your life.

I really don't see the harm in doing it long distance. I feel it is unreasonable to be upset over someone using technology to break off a relationship. There are times, especially when you know there may be a scene, that it is wise to deny the other party a chance to speak with you face to face. Ending the relationship using technology is a way to maintain the distance that already exists in the heart, and is much safer. I have always felt that people who insisted on speaking face to face, wanted to exert pressure or to be extremely manipulative, using physical presence as a form of intimidation. It is best to deny them that opportunity.

The boyfriend of your friend is really a coward. Why do some people do that. Maybe they are afraid of what will that person do. Another reason is guys don't want girls to cry. Some guys are really soft hearted when they see there girls cry and they wil not pursue what they are planning to do..to break up..

Or maybe he really hates her and does not have time for her. Who knows why people do it. Sometimes the partner will not want to meet up so one has to do the electronic way.

I think the person who does this doesnt have the guts to face the reality and his/her lover

it is much better if you would break up a relationship personally so that you can talk whole heartedly with sincerity...text messages are messages that can easily forget or erased..

It is a cowardly way but when the conversation in person is going to get heated maybe it is better! I think that if someone did that to me I would be happy to break up with them, if they do not have enough respect to speak to me in person then they are not worth bothering about. I'm sure your friend will get over this and find a person more suitable, so maybe it's a good thing to happen!!

yah sometimes it is better to talk through e mail text or phone because we are ashamed or too depressed to talk in the front of the ppl who have we spend too much time

I like it personal though it can be hurtful but at least it is more personal and you can ask questions why the breakup?

If a relationship meant anything to a person you would think they would want to be present when ending it...I suppose if the partner was the violent type I would not want to do it in person...but other than that it seems only respectful have a face to face...and if I had to vote for a second choice it would have to be the telephone...guess I'm old fashioned...

i'd say its better to break up personally.. so that both of you can fix things up and be good friends afterwards

GAD! Okay I may have never dated anyone yet but if they were gonna break up with me, or I was going to break up with him, I'd want it a bit more personal then such a thing! There are TWO ways I think are very impersonal: emails & text messages. Those are cute to use and fun to when your chatting it up. But for something SO IMPORTANT AND PERSONAL as a break up please DONT use those! I dont think phone is so bad, but still... best is in person. It might hurt but in the end you wont leave yourself thinking huh? I've heard of people getting fired by phone. That was stupid too. Phone maybe, in person YES, but text or email NO NO NO sorry its just what I think is true and best!

i'm a guy and i'd already been into a break up through text message, but mine is different coz' my girl was on the other side across the sea and she can't really come back due to family reasons which i consider. there are so many reasons why a guy would have broke up through text message, phone or email. one is that he really is such a coward person. Your point is right. It's really quiet hard to discuss such thing in front of your lover. You tend to lost control of yourself such that you can no longer organize what to say or do to the point you'll gonna made up your mind. Another hit reason is that probably the guy found someone new for being such an unfaithful, and afraid of being scolded or blamed by his mistake. And also it's a bit scary for us guys of what might the girl do unto us due to being hurt or whatsoever by such a surprising break up. But the best reason is we don't wanna see you girls cry in front of us coz' it's somehow activating our conscience. Anyway, we can't judge that person unless we know what was really going on among the two of them, and i guess you'll agree with that. have a nice day! God bless!

An ex actually did this to me in high school. Sure we were 15 and mobiles were cool and new. I was devestated at the time but now I look back on it and laugh. Personally I would break up with a person face to face. I think they deserve that much. Probably during the day and not late at night, when you have no means of getting home. Happened to me once but I'd rather not talk about it.