Your partner reading things you write online?

It doesn't bother me that my husband reads what I write online. I don't say anything online that I can't say to his face, so I don't have a problem with it. He checks out what I write on Epinions and Myspace, as he has accounts, as well. He hasn't really looked here, but he is usually home and we sometimes discuss topics I see on here before I reply to them. I usually don't get to Mylot until he is home from work. I just don't keep anything from him. If he did something that upset me, he knows it. We talk about it. I don't vent online. I might call a friend to get some perspective, but he always knows about it and we talk about it.

lol i dont have a problem with reading my posts but since we met online in 2005 he checks my email and my messenger and he still does to this day and we have been married for almost 8 months. it doesn't bother me in the since that im trying to hide anything because im not. it just bothers me that he doesn't trust me or know me well enough to know id never do anything to hurt him. i love him WAY to much. but on the other hand i say more power to him because hes only wasting his time lol

i guess if you really are involve with someone, you can't help but feel not to have that privacy you once have... i also feel that way sometimes with my husband. so try to look for some sites he won't have any interest in looking... like mylot for me. he doesn't like to write or to read much. especially if it will show his sensitive side. so i don't worry much. but sometimes he checks on my email and looks on who always emails me. he even checks on my cell. he is not the jealous type but he just wants to know who i talk with... it annoys me most of the time. so i think he does it now in secret...

I also like writing online because like you, I can write with all honesty without worrying about repurcussions. I can say things easily when writing rather than expressing it by speaking it. Recently though, I myslef encouraged my husband to come in mylot and check out all the interesting topics. At first, i was hesitant ebcause I talk about relationship topics here and I often mention my own relationship as well. But he didnt mind. He even comment though why I can easily say whats on my mind in mylot especially with certain things that we argue about. I told him, its just easy to vent here without fear of being criticized or be defensive. And so, he just browse through topics, stop now and then and comment... we ended up discussing it, not arguing... Later on, he went and shared his own opinions in discussions I made. I think its good anyway that he knows what I feel even at mylot. :)

LOL Well its nice to see that my husband isnt the only one that does this. He actually gets a little irritated that I talk about everyday things like my kids and him and things that are going on he says thats private. I'm like who the heck cares these people don't know me and besides it saves me from venting on you lol

it doesnt really bother me,and it sounds like you have a lot of love between you. he just needs to understand your posts are your feelings and perhaps a way of venting and getting things out of your system and that doesnt mean you dont love him anyless. I would continue to be your honest self, reiterate to him you love him and keep the good topics going! Hugs to you sweetie!

sometimes I actually write things hoping one day he'll see it, a little message or heads up (lol)..

It might bother me, but we don't go on the same sites. We tend to just stick with whatever we do. I post a lot on here, myspace, joehorror, and livejournal (plus a couple of writing sites). He will stick with the interests he has. He doesn't seek out mine and I don't seek out his.

I can't blame him for being curious. I think he should be able to respect your privacy. As long as you are writing honestly, you have nothing to hide from him. If it was me, I might want to know what the site was about. That is as far as it would go. I don't think you have much to worry about. If you are always worrying about what your husband might say to one of your posts, you will likely not say what you are truly feeling.

It doesn't matter to me either way. Because good or bad, there is nothing I write online or in email that I wouldn't say to his face. So read away!!!

Oh, how cute... Well, I have to say it woudn't really bother me. My husband knows I'm on here, doesn't know too much about it, only what I've told him. He's not too comfortable with me chatting online with others, which I've never done. But he sees it as a good thing because I'm doing it for the money and its not a bad site. So, I wouldn't be surprised though if he did look through my posts but it woudn't bother me though. I think I'd be a little curious to know what he was posting if he was on here. Not that we don't trust each other but I'd be curious and I'm sure he has been but he says he hasn't looked at the site yet, but who knows. I've posted things about him too but they're never bad but I don't think you should worry if he knows your reasons to being on here, even if it is just to talk about things, or vent, like you said.

Yes, I will be very bothered if my partner will read stuff that I post on online forums. Like lecanis, I post stuff online sometimes to vent. There are some mundane things that aren't worth mentioning to my partner that need to be said somewhere. I wouldn't like to censor my posts just because I am worried that he would react to whatever I say. But I use online posting to my advantage though. Like, if I know that my partner will be able to read my blog, let's say, I drop hints about how I really feel about certain issues and topics. Hehehe, passive agressive...

If I post something in a public forum then I couldn't/wouldn't get upset for my hsuband reading it. I have an online journal where I post both publicly and privately. It doesn't bother me if he reads what is public but he does not read the private stuff because that is just like a handwritten journal - personal and private.

No it wouldnt bother me. I wouldnt write something online in the first place if it was too private for them to know!

If you are posting on a public domain, you have to be aware that the subject of your post could very well be read by them. So it does not bother me, not that it bothers me if he reads something private, because I have nothing to hide from him anyway.