dose this MODERN life had a bad effect on ur family life too?
February 3, 2007 8:34pm CST
well i see people they don't or they cant even,kiss and cuddle their own kids,to the min they are over the age of 10 and some even younger,me, i kiss and cuddle my mum, dad sister, brother and if you think it is wrong try not to come to my house at all cos as foreigner,i was brought like that,we respect our guests that way,but how it comes to a little boys mind thats so gay,even to hug your own family,for little girl,huh that's wrong. mum saying i love you son/daughter but stay away from me don't come too close. dad, he is the evil,how can he say i love you god knows, well it's better not to say it.if my dad turn up to my door and hug me, to my friends and neighbours even if they know he is my dad. he is a bit of sissy,well id on't give danm about things like that and if and if one day i'm going to have kids i like him/her to be just like me in this issue.how do you feel and act with your kids and your parents?
• United States
4 Feb 07
Some people are demonstrative with affection and other aren't. We don't hug alot however we do touch one another on the shoulder or hold an arm while standing along side. My kids will give me hug from time to time and we see nothing wrong with it. There is a decent amount of public affection that should be maintained though some do not. It is all about what you are familiar with. Repecting boundaries is also a factor to think about when someone new is in your midst.
4 Feb 07
i am turning 29 this year, i have brothers who are 26 and 19. we are adults already but we never forget to tell our parents how much we love them. since we live with our mom, we always kiss her goodmorning and goodnight. we tell her the words i love you. and we love to go out with her malling even if she's already 53. our love for her will never fade even if how modern time may be. my dad lives in another city away from us. but everytime we call him, we make him feel we love him and says the words i love you and i miss you to him. i don't feel embarrassed about being sweet to my parents. i love them and i don't care about what people say.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I grew up knowing my family loves me but we didn't hug and kiss alot nor say I love you much. My husband's side are not ones to ever hug or even say the words I love you. Together, my hubby and I are always telling each other and our daughter 'I love you'. We hug and cuddle alot as well.
23 Feb 07
I was brought up by my parents that believed in hugging and kissing, they would always tell me that they loved me before bed and give me a kiss and cuddle whilst my husbands family never kiss and cuddle. This was a major obstacle in our relationship earlier, I was too affectionate and Peter wasn't. I will bring my daughter up to show affection too. At the moment, she is only 5 months old but we always hug and kiss her and say I love you while we tuck her in at night. The good thing is that Peters family have now started to give hugs and kisses when leaving, its a major hurdle that we had to overcome but it worked.
6 Feb 07
In our family, we show respect to our parents and elders, however, we are also the kind who calls each member by first name and don't hug or kiss each other. Not too showy type. That was how we were brought up, That's why when I came to socialize with my co workers who cuddles and kiss for greetings, I like the gesture but am not too comfortable with it. I am not so sure if the modern life has something to do with it.