Dating a Non-Christians

@phyxius (3464)
United States
October 10, 2006 10:08pm CST
Is it OK to date outside your faith?
3 people like this
86 responses
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
11 Oct 06
I do not see it as a problem at all because if the couple love each other, then they will reach a compromise of some sort that they can both live with. There are many different Christian religions just as there are several branches of other non-Christian religions. It just take work, compromise and a willingness to each other.
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
11 Oct 06
Different denomination in christianity and a Faith of a person outside christianity are 2 different things.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• United States
14 Oct 06
My daughter, at 21, met a charming young man from England and fell in love. She had recently had a real spiritual awakening after straying from her upbringing by seriously dabbling in astrology and some other things while living with a girlfriend in a big city. The man she met was agnostic, being of a very scientific mind, he had/has a very had time grasping the concept of a God. Although he says he does believe in a higher being?? They talked with more than one minister/counselor, who brought up what the Bible says about being unevenly yoked. A well known TV evangelist prayer line person told them they definitely should not marry because of this, which caused much distress and many tears. My husband and I talked to both of them endlessly, trying very hard to help him understand who God is, to no avail. In the end my daughter said, what if I am the only Bible he ever reads, the only opportunity he ever sees God work in someone life, what it's like to have faith. They have been married for 20 years now, he hasn't changed, but she has. She says she still believes in God, she just doesn't believe in organized religion. That the Bible and Christian books are just some person's interpretation of their beliefs, and that she would rather form her own opinions. So you see it worked the opposite of what she planned, he didn't change, she did.
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
11 Oct 06
If you're a Christian its not a good idea to date someone with other beliefs. If you do plan to get married someday, it will become a huge problem in your marriage, especially when children come into the picture. I know how you may think it would be ok, their good people and treat you right, but when it comes down to it.... Life is about your relationship with Jesus and if you can't share that with the one you love, what do you have? I've known a lot of people that start out one person is Atheist & the other is Jewish, once the children were school age they divorced. The Jewish person wanted her children to learn their Jewish heritage and had hoped that her husband would follow along. I also know of a Catholic Woman and Baptist Man that got married in the Catholic Church. The man had to become Catholic first to do that. Are you willing to give up what you believe just to be with a person? Your relationship with Christ needs to be first in you and your spouses life to have a better chance of making things work. Marriage's struggles are hard enough without the difference of faith. Your faith should be the strength of both of you.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Exactly what juls2me2 said she deserves the best response couldn't have put it better myself! But of course that my opinion. But If you are serious about someone and want to get married i think it would be better to talk the situation over before the marriage proposal because if someone is not going to convert to the others religion ohboy big problems .....might as well not even get married because as she says it will eventually end in a religion struggle and divorce!
• India
11 Oct 06
ok
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
11 Oct 06
yes ofcourse. it's okey to date non-christians if you are a christian. for as long as there's respect, religion does not matter. not all christians are "holy" and not all non-christians are disgusting. remember, never judge a person without actually knowing the person first.
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
11 Oct 06
I really liked the part of your comment regarding not judging people. Although we have a different opinion on this subject you made an excellent point!
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
11 Oct 06
Jesus warns us, "No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other, or else he will hold to the one and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon" (Matthew 6:24). Yet, in a religiously mixed marriage, one partner is serving one master and the other partner is serving a different master. Such a spiritual separation will certainly result in problems. Amos 3:3 asks, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed? No, they cannot for there is a serious spiritual separation between them. CHRISTIAN COUNSELLORS counsel young people in this manner: (1) Do not date a person who differs with your commitment to Christ. If you fall in love with such a one, it can lead to heartbreak either before and after marriage. (2) If you are already in love with a non-Christian, lead that person to Christ or do not marry him. To do otherwise is to invite trouble, and it will surely come to burden your life. (3) If you are already married to a person who is not a Christian, set the goal of your life to lead your loved one to personal faith in Jesus Christ. Ezra required the men of his nation to put away (divorce) their wives who held to the pagan religion around them (Ezra 9, 10). The great religious leader knew a pagan mother would have great influence on the spiritual lives of the family. So he protected the family by removing the person with the perverted religion. There will be a continual spiritual division in the family where either partner in the marriage is not a Christian. That is even reflected in the divorce statistics. It is true that "the family that prays together stays together." Shortly,I feel it is not okay.
• United States
11 Oct 06
that is true but maybe you can both sit down before you get married and talk about it besides before you get into a relationship with that person you should already know what you are looking for in your relationship and what kind of husband or wife you want before you both decide on getting married so that way you both would be on the same page.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• United States
11 Oct 06
I agree with you, nishdan01! Well spoken! Kimberlyc29, it seems to me that you are working very hard to justify doing what the Bible clearly says not to do. Please read 2Corinthians 6:14-18. Read it in several different translations, if possible. Now what part of that is not clear? IF you are a Christian, you are not to be "yoked," or married, to a nonbeliever. It is that simple. I have known several Christian women who married unbelievers, and could never really be happy because of this area of division in their marriage. Now if you are a nonbeliever yourself and are married to a nonbeliever, then become a Christian, you are not free to leave that person. However, if that person is so unhappy with your choice to be a Christian and leaves you, then that is ok. (See 1Corinthians 7:12 - 16.)
@acdc0805 (979)
• United States
11 Oct 06
It is okay to date outside your faith. People are people no matter what religion they are.
• Madagascar
11 Oct 06
could not have said it better.
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thank you
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• United States
11 Oct 06
The Bible says not to be unevenly yoked. If you decide to marry that person your marriage can face alot of problems if they aren't believers also.
• United States
11 Oct 06
your right but not everybody was christians all their life and you know that so I think it's alright because who's to say you can't bring that person closer to GOD you might just be what that person needs to bring him/her closer so nobody can really say that and just like we christians aren't suppose to have se x until married which is true but how many of us listen to that? not to many even the Preacher on Sunday mornings preach on that and alot of them did it their self so like I said we can't even judge a person on them being a christian or not it's whats in them that will bring them out and you might just be that person who can bring them closer to GOD. AMEN!
• United States
11 Oct 06
I agree with you callalily that is missionary dating.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• India
14 Oct 06
before discusing this subject i wish u a happy " ead and diwali "....
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
15 Oct 06
yes, why not. If it is ment to be it will. You don't marry everyone you date.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@mohit2006 (793)
• India
11 Oct 06
what's wrong in dating someone outside your religion in fact people often tend to change the relation if things get right and u marry later
• India
12 Oct 06
tell me what is ur idea about dating a non christian
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@kiwidipa (2852)
• United States
15 Oct 06
i am non-denominational so I believe so, but it seems that many don't
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• India
12 Oct 06
If religion doesn't bother you its perfectly allright.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• United States
12 Oct 06
I was born and raised Cathloic, but I don't believe in any greater being once so ever so yes, it's ok to date a person that's not of my religon.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• Australia
15 Oct 06
You can! My aunt is a christian and my uncle is a budhist and they do great!
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@lotmama (15)
• United States
15 Oct 06
if you make a true effort to try and understand their religion then it shouldnt be a problem.they should do the same for you.as long as you both respect each others faith it shouldnt be a problem.i dated a muslim and im a baptist.although id never be a muslim i studied his faith to understand his points of view and he did the same for me.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• India
12 Oct 06
No
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@rakleen (565)
• India
12 Oct 06
no probs..........there should be understanding first.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@dlufel (423)
• Australia
11 Oct 06
no, in terms of communication .. you will have arguments a lot more than usual couple.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
• United States
12 Oct 06
yes
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@cmen72 (84)
• United States
11 Oct 06
Dating is fine out of your religion. It is fine anytime for that matter. The couple must realize the hardships they will go through especially if they feel very strongly about their religion.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!
@somesh1984 (1295)
• India
12 Oct 06
ya no problem .........
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for the reply!!!