My stepdaughter lies and steals

@celray (141)
United States
February 3, 2007 9:41pm CST
I have a stepdaughter she is 14, since she was very young she used to take stuff without permission from the teachers at school she will take crayons, from the stores she will take candies, now she is 14 she takes money from me , my husband , her brothers,not only money but she takes anything, then you find this stuff in her room and she swears that she don't know how it got there, if any of the other kids buy something to eat and put it in the fridge for later she eats it without asking, when you ask her why she does this things she says that she doesn't know she just do it.Today my son end up missing $20 she was desperate to go outside , my husband told her that no one was going outside until we find out what happened to the money then my husband went outside to do some errands, so she went out the door without permission, when she got back to the house my husband asked her why she left the house she said that I was telling her that i wish she die and that I should've never married my husband, this was all a lie i didn't say that. to me she just used that to go outside and spend the money.
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
Wow this is a tough situation to be in. I think it sounds as if your step daughter needs some counselling. She needs to be punished for stealing and I'm sure you have punished her in the past but maybe she needs something else. If I were you I would make an appointment with my doctor and see if he/she could refer me to a specialist for her to speak with. I hope things start looking up for you.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
jeezu, your step-daughter needs some therapy. is your husband as upset and worried about this problem as you are? maybe you should go to family counseling..all of you, since you are all dealing with her theft, etc. this problem is going to get her thrown in jail. petty theft of even candies will eventually start earning jail time if she is caught more than once. perhaps something like that is what she needs for that matter. the next time she steals something and then flat out lies about it, (saying i dont know is bullsh*t) tell her she is a liar, then punish her. she is 14, knows right from wrong. and should learn that there are consequences to her actions. take away privaleges, her phone, computer, tv, dont let her leave the house..this means sleeping at the doorway if neccessary. she is ruling the roost by being allowed to do whatever she wants. it sounds like she has never had to face any consequences for any of her behaivor..that is just encouraging it.
@celray (141)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Actually i have punish her many times before for this at the point that nothing seems to work anymore , my husband in another hand tends to feel sorry for her.She was going to therapy and end up been terminated because she will leave to go there and end up somewhere else intead.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Feb 07
I agree with the above persons advice. I would also suggest adding a lock to your bedroom door. Putting all your money or valuables in a safe. Even if it is one of those fire safe portable ones you can get for about 40 or 50 bucks at Wal-mart. That is what I had to do. Keep all money you can in the bank and you your debit cards or checks. This will stop your money from coming up missing.