How to get him to talk?

i am in the same boat as you. We have been together 4 years, married 2 of those. we talk....i ask him what his fantasies are..he says nothing...i have none...which kinda hurts me because here i am spilling my guts about mine..and hes just like okay...makes me feel stupid for sharing. he is a shy quiet guy. so ANY suggestions you get posted i might be using too....it is just so hard to talk to someone who is not talkative cuz you feel like your hitting a wall

Oh I don't think it's impossible to not have fantasies. I don't really have any.

Getting a man to talk? You must be out of your mind. ;) Kidding. I really wish I knew the answer to this as well. It would be nice to find a way to get mine to tell me anything really. Good luck and if you find a tip here that works, please pass it my way too.

hmm guys wont tell a gurl about their fantasies cos they dont wanna a gurl to misjudge them.. so always men try to have an image before some one with whom they share their life.. so even if u r gonna pesster he is not gonna say it out and ur gonna end up as a frustration.. so i suggest u not to ask him any more questions.. rather try your fantasies so that u will know if he enjoys it so that u can improve urself on those guide lines.. gud luck.. take care

I really don't think you should push him or anything, but I'd try by bringing up the subject by telling him about some of yours. Keep up this process, you might get him intrigued enough to talk!

Now this question is the other way around for my husband and i. I don't know why but i feel embarassed to tell him. Anyone have any sugestions for me. Good luck with you and your hubby. Maybe you can help me out.

what a excellent discussion... unfortunally I dont have the answer.. I'm in the same boat, my husband just keeps telling me he has none even after Ive told him mine.. Ive tried everything I can think of, so now Ive left it up to him... the worst thing about it all is that I feel stupid for telling him and him not having anything to say back, for some reason it made me really uncomfortable that I had told him. So I wont bring it up again its his turn to start that discussion if he wants to share.. I really hope someone knows a few little secrets that I might not have thought of.. thanks for the great discussion I thought I was the only one with the problem.. Good Luck and Have a fantastic day

To get my husband to open up to me about his fantasies, I just played out my own on him. Then he got the picture and had some ideals of his own. Men are weird they always say they don't have any. They are liar's. If he won't tell you his act out yours and let him know he don't have to say his fantasies out loud, he can just do them.

try telling your fantasies first to him lets see if hes gonna open to you...or you can open the subject and namedropped some friends of yours that he doesnt know and make a story of his fanstasy...maybe he will add something to it..although not directly though...

May be it is true and has no such things about what u think. so just forget it and go ur way if it has to known by u, then you will for sure know it. Now dont force ur husband about this all the time, he may one day tell u all the crated stories. All the best.

im a husband too but im shy on devulging my fantasies to my wife..our relationships , intimate one are treated in a silence and mutual understanding..

i think some time not opening to other is the best thing for both of them but if u think to be open with him so go for it but be cairful dont hart him

dear he is shy for a batter reasion so do not interfair in the privacy to him it can hart him too

Get him drunk! Haha, that's when the crazier stuff seems to go down in my relationship.

In the world of dating and men in general, it is always hard to get them to talk. My best advice, ask him questions? You have to ask him what he wants?

it is possible that he really don't have any outrageous fantasies. mine doesn't...he just wants it with me and thats great on my part. i just stick to asking him what he's already done...which is a lot...so i just try to top it. not all guys are buck wild wanting a full room a woman for themselves or other things. some men are honestly just interested in being with you. try to create a fantasy with him. its something that you both can share together. something that would be comfortable with him as well as yourself

He may have been taught that having a fantasy is "bad"-- many parents teach this as children. It is a hard cycle to break, just keep loving him and he will eventually come around. Best of luck

hey do this tell him about your fantasies while you make love.....i think he may open up during that time..........good luck

Get him drunk lol, that always work for me =). Maybe try writing how you feel in a diary and let him "accidentally" read it. Or just casually bring it up in a convo, good luck

i used to act all shy with my previous partner when i was asked whether i had any fantasies... that was until she told me hers! sometimes us men just need you ladies to lead the way lol.