Is it me, am I just sensitive or is it him?

February 4, 2007 7:55am CST
I know sports is very very important to my hubby, I do also share the love of the sports with him. But is it me, am I just sensitive or does he show lack of interest in my professional career and or academic acomplishments? I was looking on line yesterday and found my thesis, I though that was the coolest thing ever. He said, "thats nice". But our friend who plays college basketball shot a 3 pointer and he called everyone and their mother to brag about our friend. I maean the man was on the phone (all while I am looking at my academic acomplishment online) for 30-40 minutes. Let me preface my sourness... When I was looking for a grad school to to (big decision) he was not involved, at all. But when our family friends was looking at colleges to play for, he was involved or he made himself inolved. And he is not even that close to this guy, its our friends little brother. I got accepted "full ride" for my MA, and he was like, "thats good", but I hear him say "he has acomplished alot", "he is great", "unbelieveable, he can play that good and still do OK in his studies". I got out of a 2 year grad program on a full ride and straight As, and he not so much as took 2 pictures at my graduation. But a basketball game, he used the whole roll. Am I just sensitive or?
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I don't think you are being too sensitive. Maybe it's easy for your husband to talk about sports, and maybe he is intimidated by your academic accomplishments. Maybe he really has NO idea that his behavior seems to place sports as more important than your career. Have you tried to talk to him about this? one thing I have learned about my husband is that he has NO IDEA what his actions mean to me sometimes. I can hear it now, my husband would respond by saying "BUT I TOLD YOU IT WAS NICE, WHAT ELSE WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY?" So to your husband, maybe he thinks he has recognized your accomplishments and doens't even notice that he makes a bigger deal about sports. It's worth mentioning to him to see what he has to say. He can't change if he doens't know he's doing something wrong.