Is it ok to smack your kids?
By babykay
@babykay (2131)
Ireland
February 4, 2007 4:20pm CST
Or is it ok to beat your children. I personally do not agree with any form of violence towards children. I have no intention of ever smacking, slapping or beating my son or any other child that I may have.
But I would be interested to hear other people's point of view, for example those that may believe "spare the rod/spoil the child" Or for those who think that a smack on the bum might be ok. Also I know that some people may not agree with smacking but may be driven to it by extreme stress!
4 responses
@HawaiiGopher (1009)
• Belgium
4 Feb 07
I'm with you on this one, I completely disagree with any acts of violence on children. Usually a strong voice can get the point across. Even if the child continues to bicker then simply threaten them with a 'time out' or something of the sort.
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@dradelelassy (1208)
• United States
4 Feb 07
violence against kids not desirable in general but we have to guide them to right way
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
4 Feb 07
We have to guide kids the right way to be sure. But by violence or under threat of violence? I don't think this is guiding them the right way. You are saying to them that for those that step out of line, it is an appropriate reaction to use violence. What way do you think a kid is going to interpret this lesson? In the schoolyard, in their home with their siblings and in later life. No, this cannot be good.
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
4 Feb 07
I personally think that there is no harm in a small slap to a child who will not listen. Small children have not got the mentality to listen to logic. When I say this, I also have to say that my own children got very few slaps, probably half a dozen each at most, and they're 9 and 14 now. But I know there are other children that wouldn't be as reasonable as mine are. I don't mean that in a "My kids are better than anyone elses" kind of way, just that all kids are different.
While I believe that there is no harm in a slap, I don't think there is any reason to give a spanking. One small slap is enough I think.
@TAURUSGIRL (735)
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4 Feb 07
NO it is deffinately not ok to smack your children, in this day and age there is no need for such punishment. I believe taking away prevelidges from a child is a more effective way. W e have a naughty step where the grandchildren have to sit and think about what they have done wrong and then come and talk about it to one of us. My grandaughter is three and she understands this way of treatment and she comes back and tells us shes sorry and we talk and talk untill she understands this works for us but not everyone tc xx
