Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?
By ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
22 responses
@Choggles396 (31)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Well, I'd have to say it's definitely possible but highly unrecommended!
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
11 Feb 07
LOL.. good advice. Could cause a lot of damage to your personal goods and body if the other person finds out! LOL
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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9 Feb 07
hahaha this seems to be the standard male response my friend, yes it is possible but only if you can get away with it. Blessed be
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@TAURUSGIRL (735)
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5 Feb 07
yes i have come to realise you can love more than one person at the same time, I used to believe that you could only love one at a time. Love is a word that is too freely used, and to tell someone you love them is really the hardest thing in the world I mean i love chocolate cake is totally different to telling one or more people that you love them, but tell me this if you can what is the difference of loving someone and being 'in love' with some one or are they the same thing tx happy posting
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
big plus to you. I think the difference is a cop out when someone has been caught out and are trying to back out of a relationship. You know the scenario, yes yes yes I love you but im not in love with you, usually when you have been caught with your knickers down lol.
thank you for your response, blessed be
keep on posting
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 07
I am not to sure about this one, there are different types of Love, there is the one you have for your Partner, then the one for your Kids, then the one for your Parents, Friends, so there are different types, I guess it is depending really, but when it comes to your Partner no he/she is the only love.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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11 Feb 07
hi gabs
yes i was meaning the love you have for your partner, its odd males seem to think its possible, females say no, wonder why that should be?
@sweetpinks (284)
• India
9 Feb 07
no i dnt think so its possible to love 2 persons at a time....coz when u luv sum1 truely u cant think of anything else...
@pooja_111 (51)
• India
9 Feb 07
i dont about this but i would like to tel u if a person loves more than one girl then he is sure flirting or just time pass and seriously i dont like that kind of attitude to b fralk i hate such guys who will not only cheat many girls but also themselves
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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9 Feb 07
thats a plus for you too, if someone says they are in love this must exclude all others or it isnt really being in love, thats how i feel
@Astarte (812)
• Italy
5 Feb 07
Love means a lot of things. You love your parents, you love your friends. But I think you can love of true love only 1 partner. You can like other people but true love is for one, not two. I love my boyfriend since 3 years, I've never loved anyone else. I can't.. I can like someone but it's not love.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
yes, i am beginning to realise that this is a genda issue that varies between each person
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
I love many people. I dearly love quite a few people and I greatly love some, but I am, and only ever have been "in love" with one person: my husband.
I do not believe, as do some people, that love just happens. I believe that two people can be greatly attracted to each other, and that attraction may, in time, develop to being in love, but this takes time. I think the most essential qualities that determine love are friendship and respect. Without these, love would be impossible. As the friendship develops and the two share philosophies, ideals, likes and dislikes, and show mutual respect and honour towards each other, love may develop and grow.
When this happens, the two would be ready to make a lifetime commitment to each other, and to each other only, and this love would continue to grow, and grow. There would be NO thought or opportunity for anyone to interfere with that love.
Am I just being romantic? No. It happened to me and to my husband.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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9 Feb 07
yes i think you truely have found your life partner, when that happens there can be no room for anyone else
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
ok, does this apply to everyone? or is it just for you as an individual?
@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
I think it is possible to love more than one person - more than two even. What I don't think is possible is being actively 'in love' with more than one at a time. The difference is - being actively in love means thinking about, caring for, and working together with one person towards a better life.
Having said that - I know there are a lto of people in the 'poly-amorous' community who would disagree. So let me ammend it to say, I don't htink it is possible for ME to be actuvely in love with more than one person at a time.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
thank you for thinking deeply about this question. If you are right (and i happen to agree) then monogammy is simply a social construction, if this is the case then is enforced monogammy injurous to mental health
@mccybernan (104)
• India
5 Feb 07
Why not!! It is. Until you can manage both without knowing one another, you can fall in love with as many people as possible. Time consciousness is too important in such cases.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
good response i think. Yes you certainly do have to be time conscious, in case her husband catches you lol
@chuva_chuva2005 (96)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
i think so...i think that it's possible to be inlove with two people at the same time since we are only human...even if we deny it, it's still possible...the difference is the intensity...you may love the other one more and the other one lsss but still you're inlove with two different people at the same time
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
ok you seem to be suggesting different levels of love. For me, love is a constant state not a variable so im not sure about intensity. but thanx for your addition to debate
@Bizziebod (3497)
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5 Feb 07
I think it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time, you may be full of guilt at the same time but you also love alot of other people at the same time like your family, there are no rules saying you can't be in love with two people at the same time tho!
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
Absolutely my friend, i agree. I think to some extent we are socially conditioned not to think in this way, but i also think such conditioning can have a detrimental impact upon our mental health
@VAnnasamy (426)
• India
5 Feb 07
It depends simply on the definition of the word 'love'
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
ok, but you do not give us a deffinition, should you choose to come back and enlighten us, i think it would add more to the debate, thank you for your input
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
5 Feb 07
In the sense that love is not a finite thing, I don't see how come it wouldn't be possible. Just because you love one person doesn't mean that there is no love left in your heart to fall in love with someone else. Of course, I am not in _any_ way condoning that someone fall in love with more than one person and go around cheating :( I am just saying that I really think that love is an infinite thing, we all have an infinite capacity to love! ^_^
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
yes i can see how love is infinite and how therefore we must be socialy conditioned towards monogamy, but is such supression of feelings injurous to mental health?
@rubininidhish (567)
• India
5 Feb 07
ina life time u can have love with some person but not at the same time.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
why not? most of the other respondents seem to think it is? what makes you think we cant be in love more than to one person?
@inflamation (866)
• Pakistan
5 Feb 07
Yes is possible. You can get attracted with more then one person also at a single time and nothing is bad in it if this happens with you.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
thankyou for your imput i just wonder if families are generally strong enough to cope with it
blessed be
@cherrysant (199)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 07
yes, why not ? remember! you are a man! you can love 2 or more at the same time, and me too..:)
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
hahaha im the female end of this particular coupling actually but never mind. I think they may well be a genda division on this subject. But then again there are communities where polyandy is normal, so maybe not. I cant get away from the idea that monogamy is socialy constructed
@ciennabelle (90)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
i am speaking for myself (on behalf of my husband's opinion too) no it is not possible. we are not dogs. we are human beings. logically speaking granted by the Supreme Being to love only just one person. that is why we have a word "family". if you happen to experience this one - falling in love with 2 persons or more, then that's not love at all. i don't know how you call it but you're not serious. because if you really love that person, you don't want him/her to get hurt.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
ok, i feel it is simply social conditioning that makes us feel this way, but thank you for your addition to debate. In the case of someone in a partnership dying, is it not possible to love agaIN? and what about people who live in poligimous or indeed polyanderous societies, do they not experience love?
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Feb 07
It is expected in polyandric and poliginic societies. Particularly in pacific island states and parts of east africa. In the mormon church i think it is also allowed to take more than one wife.
@ciennabelle (90)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
oh yeah i remember. here in our country, there is a religion called muslim. the men are allowed to marry more than 1 woman to be their wife. they are given options only, i think, if their first wife agrees that he marries another woman again. but the wives are not allowed to marry again only their husbands (hmm pretty much unfair to women isn't it? lol)
but if you don't belong to these kind of communities, then loving more than 1 person is not appropriate. in my point of view, i would still insist the essence of a family.
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