Would you DATE or MARRY a single mom?
By steney
@steney (1418)
Philippines
February 5, 2007 2:54am CST
I am a proud single mom of a beautiful and smart 5 year old kid. From where I come from, it still stirs quite an issue as to whether a single guy dates or even considers a serious relationship with a single mom. They say it's a guy thing to be "the first" especially to the one they'd be exchanging "I DOs" to. I know it's the digital age, but I'm just curious to know if it really matters a lot to a single guy if the woman he'd be dating, and/or will eventually marry, is certified single with no dependents whatsoever. It would be helpful to know how you guys think about this. I'm sure all the single moms out there would also like to know. Your inputs are very much appreciated :)
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@wenkinnoc (482)
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5 Feb 07
yes, i suppose for some men it would be of relevance. e as well. But that is not out of shallow priorities, I would want to know as much as I can about a potential lover, and if she has a child? Well, i will have tom try my hardst to support the both of them!
Bottom line is, if someone is truly attracted to you or wishes to make a commitment to you, then they have to take and your child as a package.
I am a guy btw. Hope this helps! We are not all total pigs!
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Hats off to you, my friend. Some would think that an instant child is a liability. But if you truly love someone, you have to accept the whole package and the works! :)
@lucgeta (924)
• France
14 May 07
Guess not, there are many re-marriages those days with people taking in children from previous relantionships.
Local habits are tough to break, so single people living in places that don't see well divorce always have more trouble.
For me, there always a reason to meet her. If she can't go out and might go play with her kid. Children are never a problem.
Some people say that single moms can't concentrate in the date or keep talking about diapers, baby food and so on but at the age of 5 that should be fine.
The most important is tha there is a connection between the two, everything else can be sorted out :)
@earthsong (589)
• United States
21 May 07
I don't know that any person sits down and thinks they do want to date someone with kids. I think a lot of people are afraid of taking on someone else's baggage, disrespect from a step-child, things of that nature. But I think when it comes down to it how someone feels when they are with a person, and how they come to feel about that person's children, have far more to do with a relationship deceloping than whether or not the person they are interested in has kids.
I met my hubby when he 20, he had only one serious girlfriend and he is seven years younger than me. I had three children from a previous marriage. I really didn't think he would get serious about me, or that the relationship would go anywhere. We have now been together nearly 10 years and he has adopted my kids from my first marriage.
Guys do date women with kids, even if they don't think they'd be willing to. It takes a special kind of guy, strong and mature, to deal with another man's kids. But those guys are out there.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I am inspired with your story and other stories as well of women who had a successful marriage with someone who took her children as their own. I agree that it takes a special kind of guy, strong and mature, to deal with another man's kids. I also know those guys are out there, and I hope I end up with one soon. Thanks for sharing and best of luck to your family! :)
@joey_matthews (8354)
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15 Feb 07
I got one for you!
If i was single, then my wife would be too. (we have a child) so i would date or re-marry her. does this count?
No? oh well.. can't blame a guy for trying, no i wouldn't marry anyone else but my lives very much with my angel =)
Kudos!
~Joey
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
8 May 07
in my case, i'm also proud to say that im a single mom of a cute and witty 2yr old kid..and i'm in a relationship right now..he is a foreigner living in Canada, he new about me and my child and it's ok with him..infact, he is giving me some money for me and for my kid..and i'm happy that he's always there to support me in many ways, that he love and respects me..i think, it doesn't matter if we are single mom because what's really matter is the love between you and the guy..
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
8 May 07
It's good that you have found someone who accepts you as you are. I have yet to entertain the idea of having someone new in my life. They say I can meet a lot of good men online but I don't have much time right now to know other guys (especially foreign) because I'm too busy at work. Anyways, I know when the time comes, the right one will find his way to me. Cheers to the both of us! :)
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@Giabelle (59)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Nope! because I am already married and I am a female (ha-ha-ha). Kidding aside I don't see anything wrong with guys dating single moms like you. If someone gets attracted and in the long run will love you, he has to love you with all his heart and your daughter is included in the package. Love knows no boundaries, no ifs and buts, no conditions. Yes, not all men are pigs, in God's time I know someone good (good looking with a good heart:) is out there reserved only for you. Goodluck:)
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