How long should a couple wait

@sherinek (3320)
United States
October 11, 2006 5:16am CST
to have their first child.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
13 Jul 07
Not more than 2 years. If they wait for long, there is a saying that they cannot have a child for 7 years (7 year hitch). The sooner the arrival of first baby, better for the couple, so that the newborn will bring the bondage between the husband and wife closer and life is even more joyous.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
16 Jul 07
My friend's son had first child after 11 years. The problem is either the girl or the boy after marriage they do not go to specialists for a general check up. According to lastest technology, except the failure of womb, all other problems can be fixed. My neice is a specialist in artificial insemination and she is now working in new york.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
16 Jul 07
'7 yr hitch?' Hmm, first time i heard of that. It must be true. I have met couples, use different methods to postpone and then when they want a child, its simply not possible. I think we mustnt try to adjust the nature, so the problems will come.
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@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
11 Oct 06
It all depends on when you think you are ready, I think you should at least give a year or two after you are married, so you can have some time just the two of you.
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@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Yes. But in our culture, if the wife doesnt become pregnant it is one of the headaches for people around her. All the time, "why, no change as yet". I hope people would find another way to spend their time (LOL)
• United States
12 Oct 06
I agree, they should be no pressure to have a baby.
@Brooke3 (610)
11 Oct 06
As long as they think is neccesary. It depends on how much time they want to themselves before they have to share each other, how financial able they are to support a child, how soon they will have somewhere for the child to live. Some couples may not ever want children, some may feel it is time to have them within a year of being together, some before marriage, some after.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Good comment. Thanks
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
13 Oct 06
Isnt it a little too long. But I know it depends.
• India
13 Oct 06
3 years
• United States
11 Oct 06
How ever long they want, as long as they realize they will always have that connection of a child even if the relationship fails in a month. If they can accept that responasibility they can have a child whenever. I had only been with my husband (then fiance) for 4 months when I got pregnant. We were married 3 months later. Our oldest daughter was born just a little over a year from the time we got together. We have been together 7 years now and have 4 kids (will be celebrating 7 years of marriage in January).
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks for sharing. Congrats on your 7th anniversary.
• United States
11 Oct 06
I think it depends on each individual couple. some should wait longer than others to have their first child. I think whenever the couple feels that their relationship is ready for the new addition to their lives, and for some people that takes longer than others.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Agreed.
• India
12 Oct 06
nice thanks for sharing
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
i dont know but what i know is there is no minimum and it depends on you and your wife. if she got pregnant easily then within 9 moths you can already see your child. :)
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@sherinek (3320)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Agreed. Some use control methods to postpone. A friend of mine, tried the natural method, still got pregnant within 3 months (LOL)
• India
12 Oct 06
1 year
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Hmm.... Thanks
@psmohan (1877)
• India
12 Oct 06
They should get married at right age, enjoy for 2 years and try for child after that. some peple hurry up because of their parents who insist on having child immdly after marriage. I was one of the sufferers in this aspect. It happens with many in India.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
I agree with you. Its the same in my country. Only the relatives and others have the itch, not the couple themselves. Anyway, what to do, we are born here.
• India
14 Oct 06
before discusing this subject i wish u a happy " ead and diwali "....
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
18 Oct 06
Same to you. Have a nice day.
@netizen (534)
• India
12 Oct 06
After marriage, one to two years are sufficient to get a first child.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Agreed
@katyzzz (2897)
• Australia
12 Oct 06
Depends on circumstances. Wait for 12 months is my idea. Get used to each other first. If you wait too long you'll find it very hard giving up the life pattern you have established and then finding you need to devote all your attention to the new baby and eventually other childre. I hope this helps.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Yes. you showed a new way. Thanks
@Betso221 (1699)
• India
12 Oct 06
I f they r married a couple shiuld have a talk abt things make a family plannin nd see what they should do. Cause each nd every couple vil have their own plans in de mind.i Feel after de marriage a couple should wait for 1 or 2 yrs nd thn go for kidz. That's ma suggestion.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
And thanks for it.
@anand20 (214)
• India
12 Oct 06
for one and half years
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Exactly???? (LOL)
• United States
12 Oct 06
no wait.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Whoooooo......... (no chance with you lol)
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Until they are both ready for the child, children are beautiful but they also require alot of attention, care and love.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Agreed
• United States
11 Oct 06
There is no waiting period. It is the couples choice of when to have children. With the responsiblity of a child becomes less one on one time with each other. It is just weighing the pros & cons of when is right for each couple.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks mrsjumppuppy. I agree with you.
• United States
12 Oct 06
It's different for every couple. Some want to wait a few years to get settled and have some time for just the 2 of them. Others can't wait to start having kids and they start right away. I was 3 months pregnant when I got married.I had my daughter exactly 6 months after we got married. I would have liked to had more time alone with my hubby before we had kids, but oh well!
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Thanks mommydearest. I agree with you.
@Bulafj (109)
• United States
12 Oct 06
I know I didn't want to wait until I was in my 30s to get my first, I was 7mnths when we got married,so the faster and younger you are the better.Still active to run after them, even when they get to their teenage years. But really...really have to be ready with resposibily is a must.......Be prepared responsibilty wise....top priority...everything else is bottom....I think Kids nowadays should go through the natural financial struggle and everything else to know that that's part of life. We think that we need to be financially stable and all that other stuff......but responsibity is what I find lacking with a lot of parents that I know, I learn very quickly...Still learning....I'm 31yrs with 4 kids, they know when how to prees our buttons....
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Its a very good response thanks
• Philippines
12 Oct 06
As long as they think they are not yet financially & emotionally ready. Having a baby at home entails many expenses. That means a couple has to stretch their budget and give more percentage of their income to the babies needs. If a couple is not yet emotionally ready, this kind of balancing act would be hard on them and would cause disagreements between the couple.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
I agree with you. Thanks.
@britishyip (1609)
• India
11 Oct 06
its totally depeding on their decision, as per me min one year..
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Ok, thanks