Dilemma: Truth or Mercyful Lies?
@LightninStrike (5915)
Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
February 5, 2007 5:20am CST
I suppose that most of you have been in the following situation: you have someone you care about (friend, relative, bf, wife etc) and you know something they don't know, and you also know that if they know the truth it will hurt them big time. So there comes the dilemma: would you let them know the truth no matter how bad it hurt them, or would you go for a mercyful lie so that they never went through that bad moment?
I've wondered this many times and i haven't reached a firm conclusion yet, i contradict myself all the time so i hope your opinions can enlighten me a bit. thanks all on advance.
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@michelledarcy (5220)
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5 Feb 07
I think it depends on what the information is. If it is going to make a big difference to their current life and in the end make them happier then tell them.
If it is something about their past or something that won't make any difference whether they know or not then its better to keep the secret.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
interesting point of view. What would you tell me if you knew that your friends bf or gf had cheated on them only once, and they had confessed it to you, telling you that it was only once, and a big mistake, that they love their other half and want to spend all their life together. If you thought they really meant that, would you still tell your friend about it knowing how much it'd hurt? I ask you this considering that the cheater has repented from what he or she did.
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
a past truth is often best left in the past unless it affects today or tomorrow. i am a firm believer in truth at all times, but in regards to yesterday i am a bit old fashioned.. let sleeping dogs lie...
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
lol yep brat, exactly my thoughts.
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
This is one of those moral dilemmas. i am a firm believer in truth though. i would rather have the blunt truth than a sugar coated half truth. When my friends start to tell me something and they're hemming and hawing and hesitating, i usually get frustrated and just tell em to spit it out.. no need to think of a nice way to say it.. truth is truth.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
you're right but not completely in My opinion. Sometimes people just blurt the truth to feel better themselves..Ithink that's just selfish. if you cheated 2 years ago and your partner never noticed and it was just onced and meant nothing....why the hell would you tell now? to feel better with yourself, but that would hurt your other half immensely...if you do something wrong then face it and assume the consequences...don't you think?
