Do you ever feel taken for granted?

@apky12 (775)
United States
February 5, 2007 6:38am CST
I love my kids and my husband but a lot of the times I feel like I'm totally taken for granted, especially b/c I'm a SAHM. Sometimes I feel like they don't think this is a job and I'm just supposed to give them everything and do everything for them. Does anyone ever feel this way?
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• United States
5 Feb 07
Oh my goodness yes, all day every day, I break into tears spontaniously cause I cant handle it any more. My childen are still very young so they are very needy and my hubby is spoiled (yes I did it to him when we first got togther and I ahve told him that I just cant do it any more but sometimes he askes without asking for the extras like cookies and brownies, he has such puppy eyes its hard to say no). I used to bake home made cookies and brownies every day for my hubby until we had our third child who ws only 10 mo behind our second. I am so tired. I need a vacation all to myself where I can be spoiled like my family is !I wouldnt change anything though (unless I hit the big lotto ! Then I would hire a maid !
@apky12 (775)
• United States
5 Feb 07
how about a maid and a nanny so you could get out whenever you wanted but still be with the kids most of the time ;)
• United States
5 Feb 07
absolutely, great idea. maybe then I can get some alone time with my hubby !!!!
@hellboi (662)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
That's what my mother always complains about; that we take her for granted. Little did she realize that I do appreciate her dedication as a housewife mom. She literally made us into what we are right now and I am so thankful for that. Likely your kids would realize that when they grow up so you'll reap those rewards when they're mature enough to understand how lucky they are. For now, just hold on to them and be a good and caring mother. What you can do though to let them realize little by little how important you are is to take a day off during weekends. Like you assign the chores that you do all weekdays to your kids on weekends. That way they will have an idea of how hard it is to run a house by yourself. As much as possible, express your frustrations and feelings to your family. Cause who else would listen to you and help you out but them.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I've actually been trying to do that every Saturday. I think it's a great idea to get out even if it's for an hour by myself. It really does make me a better mother. Thank you for making me see the bright side of the housewife mom and showing that you really are thankful for your mom. I guess women just need to hear it sometimes :)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I totally understand,lots of men dont understand that taking care of a child and home is a 24/7 job, and they get to leave their job at the end of the day when our work continues. What helped me was to sit down and talk to my husband and tell him I how I felt and what all I did,and why I was so tired. He then realized what all I did do as a SAHM..Good luck to you hun!
@apky12 (775)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thanks! My husband always asks me what I'm going to do for the day and I feel like well, do you want me to list out everything I do or just something out of the ordinary? I know he's not trying to be mean or take me for granted. He just doesn't get it.
• United States
5 Feb 07
Yep, I hear ya! A SAHM job is one of the least appreciated jobs out there. I feel it's the one that requires the most stamina. We are all underpaid and unappreciated at times. Our job is 24/7. I feel like it all the time. LOL And my kids are older.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I agree with you. It definitely takes a lot of time and energy.
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
I understand. I think I've felt that way before too. I know my mom felt the same way too. I remember asking her why she feels so tired at the end of the day when she spent the whole day at hoem anyway. I didn't even consider the tons of work she has to do at home. I really am sorry about what I said and I felt like I was too bossy and was too inconsiderate. I have been treated like that too and I absolutely understand. My boyfriend did that to me once, I guess too much familiarity and too many assumptions cause these troubles. Try talking to your kids and your husband about it. Don't let them believe it's okay because it never is and no one deserves to be taken for granted especially someone like you. Mothers are the best and being a mother and a wife are the most difficult professions of all time.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank you! You almost brought tears to my eyes.
5 Feb 07
I can totally understand how you feel. I used to feel like that after I had my first daughter. I then went back to work as I felt that we should share in the jobs in the house then, but I still ended up doing everything in the house and a full time job. Now I'm a single stay at home mum its much better. My eldest daughter says she loves it that I'm home with her after school and not at work, and all the work I do in the house is for my benefit.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I hope one day my children will understand that they were really lucky I could stay home with them for the amount of time I did like your daughter.