Need Advice

Dump him and find a real man. That would be my advice. Why doesn't he have a job??? He needs to be the one paying for stuff for you! NOT the other way around!

Tell him to get the bus, at least some of the time all the best urban

Not So Dopey girl, You are a very smart young woman and my advice to you is if you want to see him that often, can you not go to his house and visit? That would only be one trip back and forth. If that is not possible, then my suggestion would be for you to tell him exactly what you have told us. It should not be embarrassing to state the facts. If you keep doing it, you are eventually going to get resentful of him, and that's something that I think you are wanting to avoid. Honesty and trust are the two most important things in any relationship. I hope you can work this out ~Donna

Hi girl. I've been in that situation and I know how you feel. For now you can see this as a little problem but later on you will realize that this little problem will cause the big turning point in your decission about your relationship yo him. I hope you will not take it against me. But if your having a problem with the time, contribution for the gasoline and effort from him just to make your relationship to work. I think you should find a better man that will treat you better and give you what you deserve. Having him around you will make your life difficult. And I guess your family will not approve of him seeing you suffering ang letting you drive all the way to his place. You take care of your self girl. Remember you have to protect yourself.

Hon, he's using you. its as simple as that. Ask him to start paying for gas and just see how fast he ditches you or starts saying how you don't love him. Do yourself a favour and dump him. You can do better than a useless leech.

I think you need to explain to him that you don't have enough money for him to visit every day. I am the same with my boyfriend, we would love to see each other every day, but neither of us have much money and we both have kids to look after. Sometimes it is a couple of weeks before we can see each other, but that just makes your feelings for each other stronger. Plus we chat on the internet every day because its free.

Find a real man. You don't want someone whose a bum using you and bumming things off of you. It's not right. He should be the one who has the stable job and wants to take care of you. You don't want to be the one whose pregnant and having to work because your man doesn't want to. It's not right!

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Maybe try telling him you can't afford to be going and getting him all the time. Tell him you need the money for bills and other things and gas is too expensive. Either he needs to contribute or find another way to get to your house. I know it will be hard to say and do these things and actually stick to it but you have to. Maybe tell him to get a job to take up some of his spare time and then when he can help you out with gas then you will come and get him other than that tell him you will only come and get him 2 or 3 days out of a week. If you can afford that if not tell him 1 day a week.

I'd suggest you just stop going to see him as often. If he really wants to be with you, he'll find a way to get to you or get a job.

advise him to find a job or help him find a job,

My advise is :say him first get a job.With out doing any work how can he earns and spends money.If he is doing any job,he will take care of u. 30 miles is not a problem.u have a car so u go two times and ask him to come one time by bus.he is your boy friend he will understand and try to get u.

Hey... Its not good idea to drop him or asking him to take a bus. If you really like him and love him, ask him to get a job at the earliest. If you are not intreasted on him just drop out. I'd never suggest anyone to drop, b'coz it hurts people plenty. I'm saying with my own experience. Once you love or feel you are in friendship with somebody try to continue the relaiton ship as much as possiable. Now he may not be having enough money, but its not that he will be in the same possition till the end. If other day he gets good earning then you will be the looser.

I think its time for him to get a job. You shouldn't be having to spend all of your money on gas to drive him around. If he can't get a job to contribute then he should find friends to give him a ride or figure out how to make any available public transportation work for him. He shouldn't be expecting you to be his chauffer!

Will getting him over to live with you work out? :P

well the best advice i can give you is be honest and open from the start. i know that me and my hubby where just the oposit but he was 35 and i was 18 still living with family. but we understoud the situation. so be open and tell him hey i love being with you and love seeing you but we are going to have to do some changes with the situation.

very tough problem..is is possible that you asked your boyfriend to move to the place where you are living now. and let him try to find a job in your place?? because your boyfriend does not have a job now...I think it doesn't matter where he live if he is out of work.. I think this is the best way to solve your current problem...

Tell him he needs to pay for half the price you spend in gas. Since he doesn't have a job, and has no money, he won't be able to... So DUMP HIM!

hunny, this is bad news i have been through this before, what is going to happen is that he is going to want to live with you eventually, can you handle him has a burden? its up to you.. how much doyou think he is worth? is her worth the hour you spend picking him up and dropping him off? is he worth the gas money? are you sure he isnt' dating you just to get out fo the house? there are alot of questions you need to ask yourself and examine them in all aspects

Tell him to take either the bus or lett him take his bike to ja I used to bike about 25mile's to my X Gf so its not that bad