How do you get husbands to stop being lazy?

United States
February 5, 2007 1:03pm CST
That is the question. My husband and I have been married for over two years now, and he still uses the excuse, "I'm tired after working 8 hrs." You see I can't work because I am paralized in the right side, and I'm getting sick of that excuse. I just want some help! It's hard for me to do laundry, dishes, clean house, and cook by myself. Even on his days off, he still just sits on couch and watches TV or plays his video game. I need help! Is it going to be like this forever, or can I change him? Give me your thoughts on the subject please, I need them.
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@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
7 Nov 07
to tell the truth I don't know. the thing is I can't say he does a good job when he does help so might as well I do it myself. he goes home, eats, sleeps, wakes up and work. there are times I am tired and so I just don't do anything, and he doesn't seem to bother either LOL I guess he knows that's bad your husband doesn't help in your situation but changing him doesn't sound like a possible thing to do. I'm sure he knows your condition so I wonder why he doesn't help. but anyway try to think for your own sake when doing the house chores. whatever you do, do it little by little and take enough rest. nobody can blame you, certainly not those who do not help a paralyzed person.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
13 Mar 07
You should sit down and talk, he needs to help around, men think because they work outside the home they dont need to work in it when they come home. Mine thought that and i said, this is our home and i need help,we have 2 kids and i cannot work 24/7. And he needs to see thats what you do, our jobs never stop. Changing him might not work but getting him to help with some things might work. Do the dishes together. Ask him to help with the laundry when you have washed it, carry it to the room so you can put it away. I bet if you stopped doing his laundry he will help you very soon as he will not have anything to wear, hahah. bets of luck with your man. your not alone
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• United States
18 Aug 08
Yes, I know exactly what you mean! My husband is soo lazy. I have 2 kids and a job and I have to do laundry, cook and clean for 4 people and he doesen't even rinse his dishes for me or take out the garbage when I ask him. He never does anything for me. He always says that he will do it later or when he feels like it and it never gets done. It is so bad that it has caused alot of arguments between us, and I will even cry about it sometimes to him and he just doesent care. His whole family is like that. They are all slobs and lazy, even his mom. It's like they raised thereselves. They have no manners or anything. It's getting to where I don't even want them over because they pee on my bathroom floor and just go through my coupboards and spill stuff all over my carpet, just rude disreaspectful thigs like that. Lol I could go on and on about them.
• United States
18 Aug 08
WOW! I can totally understand why you don't want them over! That is totally DISRESPECTFUL! They don't have any respect for you or your things that you worked hard for! If I was in your shoes, I don't think I would have stayed married to my husband very long because of his and his family's laziness and disrespectfulness. Thanks for sharing.
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@Starwulf (43)
• United States
10 Feb 09
Break every TV (it's called an idiot box for a reason) in the house, then shoo them out the door, or wherever, with a broom to get them off their lazy back-side.