kids and step parents

ack! the proverbial "rock and a hard place"!! if its a new marriage, then hopefully time will help with this problem. time to get to know and understand what each others limits and expectations are. if this isnt a new marriage and you have tried to sit everyone down together and flat out tell them how much this is hurting you, and STILL nothing has changed...then maybe you should try family counseling. family counseling wont hurt, and it might actually help. a lot of ppl feel ashamed that they turn to counseling, but you shouldnt...it shows that you are willing to do whatever it takes to keep your family together, because you love them all, and they matter more than anything to you. like my mother told me...there isnt a "choice" to be made...your kids should be told that he is the man you love and if they love you and want you to be happy too, then they need to learn to live with him. your husband should know that you and the kids are a package deal. cant get one without the other. i hope this helped at least a little...give the counseling a try.