Would you leave your boyfriend if his parents didnt like you?

wel actually, it happen to me once. what did I do? I have no choice but to leave or cut out my relationship as early as possible. But nevertheless, If you truly love that person wel I guess you have to find some ways to pleased the parents.

no i wont i will prove to them thati can stand on my own and that even thou at young age i can manage to hanle a relationship

First of all i have to scrutinize my boyfriend's behavior. If he's the kind of man who's dicision can easily be influenced by the people around him then i have to take precautionary measure. If he's the man who's strong enough to fight for the love we have then i go and fight for him. After all its us who will be living together. But beware coz, family will always be family....If you can't accept things like this then better go and try your luck with others. And to do this, you have to have Acceptance and everything will be fine. Remember you are making your life and not others. Therefore its only you who can have the dicision.

I have the same situation with my guy friend now. He has this girlfriend for nearly 4 years and his family has grown to accept the girl but the girl's family doesn't accept him. I told him to try and gain their trust but my friend is too afraid to confront them. He said that "my gf told me not this time." Of course I said "So when? 2 years? 4? Till you secretly get married?" What my friend doesn't realize is that it's not about her girlfriend and her family that's at stake, it's about him and the girlfriend's family. So, here he is, they're still on.... secretly. To tell you the truth I feel dishonored by the actions of my friend. If I were the brother of his girlfriend I'd expect my sister's man to show some backbone and courage. If you love her, you have to stand up for your relationship. If you can't get her parent's respect what more to the other people who are close to them?!? I guess he's just content by sulking around like a thief in the night. Ever since he had his girlfriend there were too many conflicts I heard about their relationship and the family of the girl. My dude would cry over it and I don't know weather to offer him a shoulder to lean on or just slap him to his senses. Well, it's his life. I already told him the right thing to do, the question now is that if he is man enough to do it? After nearly 4 years I'm still waiting for his answer.

Its always really tough when your significant other's parents dont like you. Tough it out, and who cares what they think? Its much better if you have their approval and support, but if your significant other treats you well and you love them, it does not matter what anyone says. Ride it out...they wil eventually learn to like you, or they wont.

If this is enough to break them up then yes. There will be much worse things to happen if they do get married and if they can't deal with this they wont be able to deal with those problems.

I think that they should stay together. He should really talk to his parents and tell them this is hurting his girlfriend. He should stand up for her.

no. because who cares what they think? you're a grown man and with someone for 4 years and you still obey mom and dad. if i was with a guy and his parents acted like i didn't exist then so be it. i still will love him. i'm not marrying his family. i would just ignore his parents. sooner or later they're going to have to acknowledge her. it may take a long time as it already has but give it some time. i would tell him to talk to his family with me there and sit down like adults to find out what the problem is.

He is a wuss!!!! And a wuss is one of my pet peeves. How did she stick it out for so long? It is time for him to show his manhood if he has any to show. My husband would never let anyone say or do anything like that to me. Including his parents.

It all depends on the bonds between your friend and her boyfriend. If you are very concerned of your family, its status,dignity,etc then yes you can take the ill-treatment of the parents of your friends boyfriend,serious or just forget it, for your love's sake (provided he also equally loves you). Its tough to find true love and once found treasure it

Do his parents have a genuine reason for not liking her? This seems a bit strange to behave like this especially if they've been together 4 years. Do the parents have someone else that they want their son to marry? This situation can only get worse if they did marry, so your friend will be better off leaving him, if he hasn't stood up to his parents by now, he never will so he's not much of a man.

I would consider it. If she has been with him for 4 years and they treat her this way, do you think they will change after they get married? Does she deserve a lifetime of being treated like dirt? NO! Her BOYFRIEND should have stood up for her years ago and told his parents they were behaving badly. HE should have intervened to stop it. If he didn't have the nerve to get them to stop, he never will, and she'll be treated like this forever. If I were her, I'd leave because HE doens't have the guts to stand up for her and he never will, and in a roundabout way, HE is disrespecting her too.

I'm very sad to hear your friend's situation. Contrary to her situation, I have invited my girl friend several times, but she is a shy girl and fear of coming my home.

If I were in her shoes, the first thing I'd be considering is how my boyfriend is taking all of these. Is he trying to defend me, or at least show to his family that he is really going to stand by her no matter what? Because if he'll keep on making excuses for his family's behavior, then I don't think it's worth having a future with him. It will just be one vicious cycle. It's not as if marriage can make the family accept your friend. If they've set their minds on ignoring her, then it's gonna go on, irregardless of the situation. If her boyfriend can't stand up for her, then maybe she should reconsider if she really wants a life with him.

Well it sounds like she either needs to force the issue or cut her losses. Confront the family and her boyfriend on it. Make them either tell her why they are being that way or leave. If they aren't willing to accept her after 4 years they might not ever unless she gets her boyfriend to stand up for himself and her. If he can't do that for her then he doesn't deserve her at all. She deserves someone who will be there for her and stand up for her.

in my place i wont but i would make a try to fight our relationship in his parents and if he can fight for me at least in the end i wont regret anything eventhough we cant be together in the end at least i was able to fight for him. my boyfriend which is now my husband experienced it through my family they didnt like my boyfriend at first but what they saw to my boyfriend he shows to my parents that she really loves me and can stand for me in the end they began to like him and our relationship lasted for 2 years and we got married 2 months ago^^

i think she should leave her boyfriend! because it hard to be not close to your future in laws! it affects the relationship now it will even more when they are together! i hope for her to have more strength in telling her boyfriend about her feelings about this situation because her happiness depends on it!

no i wont coz i will fight for my love

yes,I will

If this happens to me, I would only break up with my boyfriend if he can't fight for our relationship and let his parents keep ignoring us. I will talk to my boyfriend to tell me the truth if his parents really didnt like me. And I will ask him if he still wants me even if his family didnt agree to us being together.