Would you ever date outside your race?

United States
February 6, 2007 9:10am CST
I am noticing more and more people dating and marrying outside their race. Would you ever date outside your race? Why or why not?
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@Ravenladyj (22920)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Of course in fact I usually have...I've dated one black guy and thats it taht I can remember...actually there is another guy I dated who was mixed of black and Egyptian come to think of it...other than them I've dated all sorts of races When I'm interested in someone its not their race I'm interested in..its their personality...race has never been an issue for me...
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@loved1 (5332)
• United States
6 Feb 07
If I loved the person their race would not matter. What is more important is that you agree on the important issues in life and have similar goals.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
I agree with what you say here. I remember when I was dating, something that really mattered to me was that the person, should we date seriously and consider a long-term relationship, have similar goals for what the next 25 -30 years would bring. I could not be in a serious relationship with someone who lived day-to-day, never worrying about tomorrow. For some people, that is fine, but it just won't work for me! I also couldn't date someone that didn't have a similar sense of humor and intellectual level. (not that mine is anything to brag about)
@loved1 (5332)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I would be least likely to date someone who had different religious beliefs than I do. To me, most other things are details that can be worked out.
• United States
8 Feb 07
I would have if I ever found someone outside my race, but i never did. My sister is married to a black man. They ahve a child together. I see nothing wrong with it. You fall in love with a person, not their race or their gender. To me, I don't care what color you are or your nationality...if you are nice to me and take care of me...if you are great father...if you work hard in everything you do..why do I care if your skin is different than mine?
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Very well said. There is nothing I can possibly add to your statements.
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@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I have a mixed family anyway, so if I were to date somebody outside of my particular race, well, it wouldn't be that unusual. Not that there wouldn't be somebody making comments, but it wouldn't be completely out of the norm, either. That being said, I am not sure I would date or marry somebody outside of my race. Not that I have anything against doing it, but I probably wouldn't.
• United States
7 Feb 07
Just wanted to add, I have very limited experience in the "dating scene", pre-marriage. So I don't even know if I could answer that question fairly, anyway. :) There are some very hot guys from all races, but I've never really had a chance to know any of them in an intimate way.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
What attacts me to people is their personality, not their race, so I would never see this as being an issue with me. If I find the person to be kind, caring and compassionate, I'd certainly consider dating/marrying them. As long as we got along with each other, there would be no reason not to.
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@kate1356 (697)
• United States
9 Feb 07
You couldn't have put it any better.
23 Feb 07
yes i would i am a white english lady who is soon 2 marry my partner he is from pakistan and was born there, we have been 2gether for 2 half yrs and cant wait to marry
• United States
23 Feb 07
Yeah I would. It's not the color of the skin that matters to me. It's what's inside.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Well I wouldn't have an issue with it. To me it's about what interests me. Race has nothing to do with it but how the person is, how they act, how they treat me, their interests etc. The problem would come in my family, in particular my parents. They are not very open minded and they would cause a problem not only for me but for the person I dated. I don't think it would be fair to expose someone else to their idiocy. It's a shame but right now I would not purposefully go looking for someone of another race to date. If I found some one by chance I wouldn't turn them down but like I said I wouldn't initiate it due to my family and how they can be.
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@tentwo67 (3382)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I never would have sought it out. There was a time when I would have thought I just wouldn't date outside of my race period. But then I developed a little crush on a guy outside of my race at work and I re-evaluated my position on the subject. I never actually did go out with him, and I'm married now and will therefore (hopefully) never go out with anyone else again, but I think it's about the individual overall. If you say no on principle, or say yes because you want to make a statement, then I think you miss out on a lot.
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
definitely yes! race would not be an issue as long both of you gets attracted or in love =)
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I personally do not find anything wrong with dating people that belong to a different race, cause bottomline is it is all about the person, the personality and how the two of you deal with each other. I believe in individualism rather than taking everyone on a general categorical aspect. But then, parents, oh yes, my parents have preferences alright, of course they would prefer somebody that's also Chinese, I do too but all I know is that we can never really tell, I am open to the thought of having someone of another race if he's the one meant for me..
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I would, and I have. I've dated a Mexican, a Korean, a guy from Thailand, and a guy from Lebanon. A person's race doesn't matter to me - what matters is who they are on the inside. And it doesn't matter what color their skin is if we relate to each other, have similar goals, interests, etc.
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@Catkin (480)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I would have no problem with being involved in an inter-racial relationship or marriage. As it is, I am currently in a relationship, but perhaps under different circumstances, I would be with someone of another race. Just my two cents. :)
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't really care what race anyone is. I respect people as people. To me it makes no difference. I see every one as equal. I have no problem dating outside my race. In fact I have dated several people from different race...to me it's just someone I happen to like..I don't care what color skin they have or where they come from.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I am currently dating outside of my race...I am dating the most kind, sweet, intelligent, adorable, cuddly Spanish boy in the world. He is wonderful. Personality, not race. When will people learn?
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• Canada
9 Feb 07
Yes of course. I would date someone of a different race. I am attracted to personality and smarts. I would have a hard time dating someone who had a different religion though. That would be very hard.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I did before I was married, even though I married into my own race. My only issue would be that I wouldn't want to move out of the U.S. if her were from another country.
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@bethmt (419)
• United States
9 Feb 07
When I was dating,I dated outside my race but honestly it was never a conscious choice. I mean I never looked at someone of any race and said that I wouldn't date them because of their race. What was attractive to me was their personality, character and the things we had in common. There were a couple of times when I dated men who were outside my race and my parents weren't very happy about it. But I knew that these were issues with race that my parents had to sort out themselves and after they saw that I was happy in dating these men and that I was an adult who could make my own choices they began to keep quiet about these issues.
@apky12 (775)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I'm married so I wouldn't date but when I wasn't married I did date outside my own race. To me, it doesn't matter what race a person is as long as we get along, I'm attracted to them and they have a great personality.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Sure I would. I don't date for looks but rather for personality and if I think it is someone I want to be with forever. It doesn't matter now because I'm married and not planning on doing the dating game any time soon.
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