why?

United States
February 6, 2007 2:33pm CST
Why was my sister's life taken and not mine? What does God have planned for me? These questions run thru my mind every day! Why am I here? The only answers that I come up with are: - to be a good mother to my 4 children - to teach others about child abuse What I really would like to do is start an organization in Memory of my sister and help aid and rescue other children that fall victims of abuse! I just don't know where to start? Any ideas?
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@Springlady (3986)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I am so sorry about your sister. That has to be so hard. God does have a plan for you. The fact that you are still here proves that. The ideas you posted are great and they may very well be God's plan for you. The best advice I can give you is to pray about it. Ask God to guide you to where He wants you to be. He does have a plan for you. Again, I am so sorry about your sister. May God comfort you as only He can.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you! I have started a memorial page in my sisters name, please take the time to look at it and light a candle not only in my sisters memory but for those who fell victim to this horrible crime.... http://marla-rose.memory-of.com
• United States
6 Feb 07
You can start by making a free website tribute page to her. Many places offer free website like geocities/Yahoo and perhaps you have one included with your ISP provider. You can put photos of your loved one on the tribute page. You can even add a donate button through Pay Pal if you want to.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it!
• Canada
6 Feb 07
Have you tried talking to another councellor at a clinic near you ? Maybe someone there would be able to help you and tell you how to go about what you want to do. I really don`t know how to but ,I DO WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD. I am so sorry about your sister and I hope you find out all you can to help you with your journey. GOOD LUCK
@nicky35 (747)
6 Feb 07
thats very sad,what happened to her?how long ago?im so very sorry for your loss
• United States
9 Feb 07
Marla was killed by a horrible monster! Her father, and child abuse! This happend 19 years ago! Please view her memorial page and light a candle for those who became victims of this horrible crime! http://marla-rose.memory-of.com
• United States
9 Feb 07
Marla was killed by a horrible monster! Her father, and child abuse! This happend 19 years ago! Please view her memorial page and light a candle for those who became victims of this horrible crime! http://marla-rose.memory-of.com
@stateroad (730)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I am sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you. I understand YOU and questioning GOD. I do that myself at times. Just a simple one word question ... WHY ?? I really wish I knew sometimes the answer to WHY certain things happen. The only thing I can say is if we knew the answer it still would not change things. You will still not have your SISTER back. I think it is a really great idea that you want to start an Oraganization like that in your Sister's memory. Maybe that is the answer to WHY. GOD needed an organization to be started like this by a strong person. That is why YOU were saved to help him do it. My best to YOU.
@HCCC45 (16)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Believe me when your time comes you to will die to. It was your sisters time to go, not yours.
• United States
6 Feb 07
could it be that God thought your sister would have a better life if he brought her home to him!we who are left here miss our loved ones butwe must also remember they are in a better place where there is no more pain no more worries no war or bad weather nothing but complete love and happiness!
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you! Please view the memorial page in my sisters memory and light a candle for not only her but for those who have been victims of abuse! http://marla-rose.memory-of.com
@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
7 Feb 07
Yes your decisions are fine and try to keep them up. See we did not come to this life with anyone.We established the relationships when the awareness came into our mind.We don't know why we take birth in this world.We don't know when and why we die.Hence with all such uncertainties, you have to comeout and learn to live whatever is our lifetime.
@Hamlet333 (724)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 07
U begin with ur idea whtevr in ur mind and then see how God will help U...like to help needy ppl or children by making an organization or any trust...May Allah Bless U....
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
6 Feb 07
why? my believe is that we are on earth to learn. we all have to learn some lessons. and everybody has a different thing they have to learn. but i like the idea to start up an organisation about child abuse. get the information and just go for it! sweet idea to do in in memory of your sister.
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you!
• United States
7 Feb 07
There's a reason why God still has you here. Any you'll soon figure that reason out. And maybe it's to tell your story. that way other people will speak out and tell theirs too. and that way you'll end up saving children from this type of behavior.
@healer (1779)
• India
6 Feb 07
AWA! it seems that you have gone through a lot in life. Feel sorry for you, i respect your feeling. Be brave and wish you all the best in life. May your dreams come true wish i can help you but i think i am too young for this. i mean i got no idea
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you! You are NOT to young...you can make people aware of child abuse in your every day life!
• India
7 Feb 07
i have sympathy with you my dear friend, but what can you do? all these things which happens depends upon god.. believe in it and believe in today.. try to enjoy your life.. thanks!
• Canada
6 Feb 07
Hello. First I want to Give my sympathy to you. I know how you feel I ask thoes same questions everyday too except I lost my dad when i was 14 and my mom when i was 20 and now im 23 and i still ask why... why take them and just leave me that was my life my family... so whats so special about me to keep me here? I dont think i'll ever know... it just wasent my time and all i can do is keep living and just enjoy the life i have and learn from the experiences its given me... I think all the obsticles and pain that i've gotten through so far in life has made me a really strong and knowledgable and great person... I love who I am and its because of things that happen that i am who i am and im sure when God is ready to let me know what it is i am here for he will tell me... untill then i just keep rocking on! keeping strong! and happy! I know my parents are happy and are still with me because i feel them... not saying they are floating around me i just feel them in me you know??? so i feel like im living for them because i am a part of them both... As for the Organization you want to start up I would try searching like family services places and asking them if they know where you could start or where you could get some information about it .. Anyways hope I helped. and again my sympathy to you and good luck with everything :)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thanks for your respose! I know where you are comming from!
• India
7 Feb 07
may your sister's departed soul R.I.P. Really liked the you want to start an organiation in her memory. very few think like yoiu. go ahead. best wishes
@toonatoons (3737)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
there are things that we don't understand, and we could bombard outselves with all the whys in the world, and still we could never fully understand the designs of god. but from my own experiences, god always makes good things out of unfortunate situations. if he takes away something, he's sure to replace it with something more beautiful. if i can remember correctly, there is a site here called memory.com wherein you could make a sort of memorial for your loved ones. i suggest you visit that site, and maybe you could get some ideas on how to start your organization. good luck!
@rubypatson (1841)
• India
7 Feb 07
I am sorry about your sister, there are many things in life where we have no answer, we cannot question god, he is a just god, his thoughts and ways are a different than ours, but we know that he loves us and we need him and the bible says we need to come to him like little children
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
7 Feb 07
I am so sorry to hear about your sister. Loosing someone you love is never easy and I am sure that all people think like you, but you have to keep in mind that u are probably here for a reason and the reasons you menchion sounds like good and important ones. To set up an organisation in your sisters name is a beautiful idea...
@dandpani (161)
• India
7 Feb 07
well it depends on ur thoughts what u want to do just go for what u want but giving some thought .and rest u can leave on ur destiny and live in ur today.
• India
7 Feb 07
lite theesuko... inlantivi jaruguthu vuntaayi.......
• Australia
7 Feb 07
Hi You could get a web site going speak to your bank about a special account for the organization, or you could speak to an organization that is already around and doing something in your sister memory, as for what has god got for you. In his time he will show you, yet you will need to be ready within yourself before that will happen.