"I tell you, you tell me"

February 6, 2007 9:05pm CST
"One rule of thumb which I have found helpful for myself is that in any continuing relationship, any persistent feeling had to be expressed. Suppressing it can only damage the relationship. Only if it is a significant continuing relationship and only if it is recurring or persistent feeling, it is necessary to bring the feeling into the open in the relationship. If this is not done, what is unexpressed gradually poisons the relationship." - CARL ROGERS *the title of this post, and the quotation was taken from an unpublished master's thesis of the same title.
3 responses
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
just as long as it works for your relationship then go on with it then as you mature in your relationship towards the future with other people ,learn to tweak some of it to make better.it may work today and it may not work in the future. there are no exact rules on how to have a better relationship, that is the reality .but if you think you can make it better then do so but learn not to control it but learn how to mange it.
@rinsvs (13)
• India
7 Feb 07
This is very true. I think we need to be really open to our friends and loved ones if we need to build trust among us. And, it is necessary to accept the other person no matter what s/he is.
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Feb 07
I agree. Our feelings are our internal guidance system. Ignoring it is like ignoring the 'check engine' light in your car. You can pretend it's not blinking, but the engine will eventually fall apart if you tend to it. I have heard that couples should be 'brutally' honest with each other. I agree, though I will admit that I still have work to do. It's hard to be totally one hundred percent honest with someone totally one hundred percent of the time.