February 7, 2007 6:38am CST
What if? you're husband or husband of your friend or other family member got involved with another woman... will you give him a second chance? When will it be his last chance? What would you consider in giving him the chance? As for me... I think, it would be based on how involved he would be with that woman. If their just starting, might be given another chance. If it's for the longest time... my oh my..I think its buh bye!
11 Feb 07
Well, second chance? I think.. if you really love your husband, you'll give him a second chance especially if you already have kids.. just for the sake of the kids because they're the who will suffer most. You have to listen to your husbands side.. let him explain.. yeah that's right.. you have to listen to him. Don't just close your ears from him.. if it's that so, how can he defend his side, what if he really is innocent and it was only the other woman's plan..then all of the things the you have made up with your husband would be put to nothing.. always think about your kids..
• United States
7 Feb 07
I was in this situation and we worked through it. There were a few main factors though. For beginners, he was honest with me about everything and he was extremely remorseful. He was harder on himself than I ever could have been and I knew that he wouldn't do it again. He had learned his lesson that it's not always greener on the other side. It was also only a one night stand. He answered every question I had no matter how hard it was for him to replay it in his head. He did everything I asked, like getting tested for HIV and STDs. He allowed me to be mad, sad.. etc and he dealt with it because he knew he had caused it. He knew that he was lucky to have me and that I would NOT stick around for a second time if he strayed again. He also knew he almost lost the best things that ever happened to him, my son and I. Had he not been sorry and had it been more than a one night stand, I'm not sure if I could have stayed. It's been almost 8 years and I believe our marriage is stronger now because we went through that situation. But, if I ever found out that it happened again - I would pack up my stuff and leave. I couldn't not stay around for a second batch of pain.