do you feel betrayed if your friends are friends with your enemies?

India
February 7, 2007 7:36am CST
Well...i have a friend who is now a friend of someone who used to be my friend, but now is my enemy. Actually i dont mind it, but sometimes it annoys me tht my friend would wanna be friends with someone though she knows that someone is my enemy. How far can you tolerate this? Is it ok for you!..As for me, am just ignoring it!
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@cultoffury (1283)
• India
9 Feb 07
It is OK for me as long as that person does not get into our friendship. Because, you got to respect your friend as a person and his decisions. If your friend is really loyal to you then I don't think these problems would happen and moreover, I would wish my friend not put this friendship with another person just because, I don't like it, because that would show my inability to respect my friend.
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• India
9 Feb 07
thats very nice thinking..the best tribute one pays to friendship..keep it up!
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• New Zealand
8 Feb 07
This has happened to me, and I ended up just ignoring it and letting them be friends. I still stayed friends with my friend but I stayed away when my enemies were around. This girl isn't my friend now though. She just suddenly stopped talking to me... but thats ok. Life goes on.
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• India
8 Feb 07
ok..its pretty bad of ur friend to have abruptly stopped talkin..i mean...gives an impression as though she had been pretendin all the while!!..anyway, thnx!
@vdhill (65)
• United States
7 Feb 07
"Friends" who are friends with your enemies are not your friends. In fact, friends who befriend your enemies are your enemies as well. Make no mistake about that.
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• India
8 Feb 07
lol..but she is still my friend!!..how can we call that?
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• India
7 Feb 07
It feels like being betrayed. It clearly suggests that your friend gives more importance to himself and there is no justified reason to betray a friend .
• India
8 Feb 07
Well..its not that...my friend likes me a lot..probably, she dint find anything wrong with my enemy too:)
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• India
7 Feb 07
Hmmm.... I think I really dont mind if he or she is with someone whom I dont like unless the relationship between us doesnt get affected! What do you think??
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• India
8 Feb 07
ya..ur ryt!..but the problem comes when all the 3 comes to b in the same place..lol
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@nitsy_s (1031)
• India
19 Feb 07
I have a very small circle of friends, so everyone knows each other very well. And i have no enemy that i am aware of. Even if i had an enemy and my friend was friends with him, that is fine with me. There will be a reason for me to hate my enemy, but its not necessary for my friend to hate him because of that.
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• India
19 Feb 07
absolutely!!..it may b quite hard to figure this out..but it has to be done!
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@nitsy_s (1031)
• India
22 Feb 07
Hey thanks for choosing best response :)
• India
22 Feb 07
ya..dont mention it..it deserves it!!
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
19 Feb 07
I know how you feel I have been in this situation and have felt very betrayed but I guess that is my problem and have no right to expect anything of anyone else....
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i agree lilaclady. you can't expect your friend to feel the same way that you do for everyone is unique. and whatever they do is beyond your control. it doesn't mean that if your friends is friendly with your enemies, that doesn't mean that they are bad. as long as they don't make things complicated for both of you like saying things that will provoke the situation, that is another matter.
• India
19 Feb 07
yeah..u guys are ryt!!..i guess we'll have to come to reality and accept such things!!..thnx anyway!
• India
19 Feb 07
and one more thing be patient in these type of things because don't keep any grudge on anybody because it is not good for health and to your studies also..ok and another important issue is that be confident of yourself and don't neglect studies and love your neighbours as yourself..and that's it as a friend i can tell...best of luck
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• India
19 Feb 07
thanks a lot 4 ur advice..yeah..i dont like to keep such things on my mind..i know its not healthy..thnks again!
• India
19 Feb 07
i think you have to think once why your friend left you and gone to someother because he/she might be having great help from other person..and i think he/she might did a mistake that leaving from your friendship and going away..anyway now you come to know....about him/her..it is also good because he/she might do anything under friendship cover..right!.thank god that my friend(you) is out of problems(that may arrive in future if you continues frienship with him/her)...
• India
19 Feb 07
lol..no chandu..my friend did not leave me and go to her..she is still friends with me..but she is also friends with her..dat is..she is being friends with me and my enemy..she's not bad though..anyway..thanks a lot for wt u feel abt me..:)
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• Oman
19 Feb 07
It would upset me a bit although I dont think I would call them on it. Im very loyal to my friends and if anyone does anything to them i tend to get more upset than my friends. My friends sometimes dont tell me if someone I know has done or said something mean to them because they know i will support them and probably stop talking to the person who wronged them. So considering how I am and how much i stick up for my friends, i would find it pretty upsetting if they stayed friends with my enemy.
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• India
19 Feb 07
ya..dats pretty much wt everybody feels, no matter what they tell out...but am always frank with my friends..and if i feel someone deserves to b treated differently, i do it..