When should you say "I love you?"

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Australia
February 7, 2007 7:57am CST
I've been with guys who have told me after a couple of weeks that they love me. Guess what happened to them? They never heard from me again. A friend of mine had a guy tell her the first time they kissed that he loved her! I think it's ridiculous. You can't possibly know that early if you love someone. Even if you have really strong feelings that this person could be the one, surely you should hold it back for a few months so as not to scare off your lover?!!Is there a time limit before you should say it?
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't think there's necessarily a time limit to say I love you but I do think that a lot of times guys are just telling girls that because they think that's what the girl wnats to hear. It took me a year to tell my husband that I loved him when we were dating but we were really young. I think you should at least wait a few months. I just don't see how someone can truly love someone else after a few weeks and definitely not after one date. Strong feelings, ok. Love, probably not.
• Canada
7 Feb 07
You should say I love you when you feel it. It doesn't matter when, or how long into the relationship.... if you feel it, then say it. Obvioulsy you're not ready for the kind of relationship that love brings. You can know from the first minute you meet someone that you love them. Sometimes feelings don't know a time limit.
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@paulnet (748)
• India
8 Feb 07
Love speaks by itself when you love someone you know it but the expression is necessary and when you get the other ones signals that he/she also in the same boat then you must express your feelings.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I understand your feelings..however not everyone is the same. Perhaps some people fall in love quickly...and that is sometimes thier downfall but that doesn't make them scary..it is just how they feel. I do however think that there is an appropriate amount of time that you should spend with someone before forming that kind of a feeling. I would say at least a couple of months...
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Ha,ha, my friend boyfriend proposed on second date. Same thing. Love have its meaning and some people are just confused between love and attraction.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
8 Feb 07
I think one doesn't need to say in words, any thing like "I love you" This very well can be read through the eyes & look. You some one utters this through the "words", then there is something going wrong in romance. Love is a feeling, should be read by heart, should be learnt by heart only. The you need the help of lips to utter about, You are failing to love. When there is a demand behind once approach like this, It's not the "love" but a "deal". One should not go for such deals in life.
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't think you should say "I love you" until it is true. Love is more than that butterfly feeling you get in your stomach. Love is a committment to that person. I don't remember how soon my husband and I said "I love you" to eachother but I know it was sooner than I was expecting and he said it for a few weeks before I was ready to say it.
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• Thailand
8 Feb 07
If you really love him, and thinking this is a right one, NOW is the good time to told him that you love him, but if you still not sure about your feeling or him, wait a while, see you feeling for a couple of week, I think then you will know when is the right time for you.
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@mkeanel01 (974)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
it really doesnt matter when do you want to say it..as long as you say it with your feelings are real..me and my gf knows our real feelings just with one kiss.. that one kiss tells us everything we feel for each other..can you believe it it comes with a kiss first then followed by a nice warm hug and then last the words "i love yo".. that's how we became partners in life..and we are 3 yrs and 2 months now and we are getting stable and stroger everyday..
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8 Feb 07
i think you should say it when you feel it...it was only a few weeks until me and william realised and told each other we loved each other. we were really embarassed when we told each other, as we thought it was too soon. but if your in love, why shouldnt you shout it from the rooftops?
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
my policy: say it when you feel it for real and if you're sure that by saying it you won't hurt the person who you say it to.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 07
if you feel in love you feel different into that guy,shall I say a spark..If you see that the guy is dincere then go for it...
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• United States
8 Feb 07
when you know its true. dont just say it cuz they tell you say it when you are really sure thats how u feel
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@dragutelu (216)
• Romania
8 Feb 07
wen i love that person
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• United States
8 Feb 07
i feel that there is a time limit that should be followed before you decide to say i love you. I waited almost 2 months after i started going out with the girlfriend to say that i loved her. You can no instantly love someone, its one of those things that slowly develop and if you feel that way about someone then you say it to them. you shouldnt just say i love you when you cant really say what love truthfully is.
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@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 07
thats good opinion, even so some of people really like an early say of "i love you". while me.....i didnt say it oftenly nor even my husband. when we meet only takes 1 day when we decide to have a relationship but...no "i love you" words come out from us. since me and my husband believe that love is not only a words, its something you shows to ur partner by attention etc...so its really take me+husband a quite long time to say it
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• United States
7 Feb 07
I knew I loved my girlfriend the first time I kissed her, the first date we went on. I can't describe how I knew, I just did. We're coming up on a year together so far now and we're still as in love as we were the day we started going out, so I know I was right. Sometimes you just have to realize that you really can fall in love that quickly, y'know? That said, if you don't love someone, and they love you, you shouldn't force yourself to believe it, either.
• United States
7 Feb 07
Personally I dont think there is any set time frame to say I love you. I know when I met my man I totally felt those feelings within a few weeks, as crazy as that may sound. But nothing ever felt so perfect & right before. So I knew I couldnt be wrong. He said he also felt it to. I couldnt resist it one day probably about 3 weeks after we got together & I told him over the phone haha but he didnt say it back til a week later as he was kissing me goodbye at the train station. He said he couldnt tell me over the phone because he wanted to see my face as he said it :) cheesey I know :) but thats totally how we are! and next week it's going to be our 7 year anniversary so i think we are doing something righT :)
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@archiee (322)
• India
8 Feb 07
i too think that saying i love at a time after seeing for the first time or kissing whatever. one can't decided that its true love or know. for me true can happen only when you understand each other very well. you like each others behaviour much. and accept with each other
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• India
7 Feb 07
It's never too late and it's never too early to say that you love someone . We can love someone just anytime. It is not necessary that for you to love a person needs a lot of time . When you feel you are in love with someone find a good oppurtunity and tell .
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I think its just what you feel in your heart. Maybe they did love you. Some guys say they love a girl just to get them in bed. (not all guys)But you dont need to say you love them unless you do.
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