How do you deal with depression?

@Dask1221 (160)
United States
February 7, 2007 1:03pm CST
I have not had the greatest life, and I'm still going through a lot of stuff that is making life pretty hard at times. I have a lot of good things, but sometimes the bad just really feels like it's weighing me down. I feel like I don't know what to do or how to deal sometimes, and sometimes I just feel like hiding in a corner and crying. I've been to a therapist before, but I couldn't afford to keep going, and I didn't have the time due to work. I was kindof forced into going in the first place by my ex-husband, and not for a good reason. A lot of times I smoke when I feel stressed out, but it only helps for so long, and I know I really need to quit again, especially because I want to be around for a long time to see my son and daughter live out a good deal of their lives before I bite it. I have my family, my son and my fiance to talk to and help me through things a lot, but there are times when I am home alone during the day and things happen, and everyone I usually talk to is busy, and I end up getting depressed because I don't know what to do about how things are going in my life. Any suggestions on how to deal with depression?
5 responses
• United States
9 Feb 07
Hi!!! I am proud to say that I am a happy survivor of depression. It is not curable, though it is very treatable. Many people need the help of medication, along with support. Sounds like you have quitte a bit of support with your fiance qand family... Many depressions are caused by an chemical imbalance that is NOONES fault!! thats where antideppressants come in. I have a tri fold diagnosis:bipolar.ocd and depression. Feel free to request me as a friend.. I'll be happy to talk to you anytime!!! I have been in the hellhole of depression- I KNOW how discouraging the feeling is! lovemycats
• United States
9 Feb 07
Talking with people really helps too. I have kept a journal for years! Sometimes, time goes and I do not write, then something pops up bothering me and I turn to those blank pages knowing that once the words are in front of me, they are not swirling in my head anymore. Just a suggestion...
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
7 Feb 07
A lot of people are facing these kinds of things in their lives and it seems as though you just can't overcome them, no matter what you do. I have found that all we CAN do is to take care of the problems we CAN take care of and refuse to dwell on the others. Get involved in something that makes you feel worthwhile, like tutoring a kid in a near-by school, or taking meals to seniors, or just joining a phone line that checks up once a day on shut-ins to make sure they are okay. My brother-in-law was a quadriplegic for 35 years, and spent most of his later life in his bed. Yet he was one of the most uplifting, joyful people I have ever met. When I get to feeling sorry for myself, I remind myself, "If he can live a happy life in spite of his problems, so can I." I know that you can, too. Don't give up. Just get determined to put your problems away and live for the good things today.
@Dask1221 (160)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yeah, the good things in my life are the only things that help me stay positive at all, and I try to keep my mind on them and hope for a bright future. I submerge myself in my music. That's my passion, besides being a mommy. I idolize your brother for keeping such a bright outlook on life despite his condition. Thanks!
• United States
7 Feb 07
I usually like write or somthing thats makes me feel betta it makes me feel alot betta actually it keeps me from not killing my self lol but yea thats wat i do i have always been a person to write my feelings never speaking them verbally cuz im not that type of person
@Dask1221 (160)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yeah, I write a lot too. Poetry and song lyrics. My music is my creative outlet. I think the biggest thing that saves me most times is looking at my son. He's the best thing that ever happened to me, especially out of a bad previous marriage, and he can be a little pain at times, but he makes me laugh and smile, and he's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. And I keep my feelings bottled up a lot too, because sometimes I don't know how to voice them. I think that's why a lot of my poetry and lyrics are of a darker, more emotional nature.
• Pakistan
9 Feb 07
well well ever em in a bad mode i just start thinkung about the greatest and the most happeist monents in ma life if i dun get it ten i just start listening music like ROCK , R& B, and most one is desi stuff
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations