Sleeping with a partner - which side of the Bed

@pinklilly (3445)
Australia
February 7, 2007 9:28pm CST
Which side of the bed do you sleep? Is it the side closest to the Door? I was reading this Book and it said that males will sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door... And when I thought about it my partner so does.... When we used to be downstairs when we first moved in (we were still finishing off the house) he sleeped on the right side which was closest to the door and then when we moved upstairs he sleeped on the Left side which was closest to the door. Also when we stay at a Hotel he does the same thing... I thought it was amazing.... They say it is a males instict to protect the woman from harm(intruder) but they say if you asked a man why they would say because it is a quick getaway from the woman.... What are your thoughts? Do you find this True?
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I always sleep on the inside, away from the door. So it's true for me!
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Great Thanks for your response
@fizwan (63)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 07
I don't think all of the men out will chose to sleep at the side that closest to the door. But, i'm also think that they want to protect the women from intruder because the intruder must go through them first. Men are invented to love and protect women right?
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Yes Perfect very true...
• Romania
8 Feb 07
always on the right side hm i don't know why.its really good question.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
So is that closest to the door?
@inked4life (4225)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I sleep on the side furthest from the door. I've just always slept on the right side of the bed, can't explain why. Even whern I sleep on my own I tend to gravitate to the far right side of the bed...taking all the covers with me in the process
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yes its true and I hate sleeping further away because some times I have to climb over him to get up to go the bathroom. iIt can be a real pain for me.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
8 Feb 07
i dont mind if my side is closer or not to the door or the window...i usually sleep on the right side of bed no matter how the room is...the reason is that i like to sleep sided to that side of bed, and if i sleep on the left side of the bed i would have my head over the partners back, and i like to sleep freely.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
I sleep like that too no matter what side Im on unless I'm snuggling :D
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
17 Feb 07
thats a funny question. it is amazing how you get used to one side of the bed. i always sleep to my husbands left. don't know why-just started out that way and 25 years later, we still sleep that way. funny.
@babystar1 (4234)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I sleep closest to the door, and my husband sleeps furthest.So I guess I am the one to get away from my husband faster.lol. I always sleep the closest to the door even if we stay in a motel.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
8 Feb 07
may i know why is the door relevant in the position in which you two sleep? just trying to figure out why so many people have the door in count in order to decide where they sleep. thank you
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
haha babystar.. Lighteningstrike I read in a book that generally a male will sleep closest to the door as a internatal instinct to defend. I"m seeing how people do sleep and respond to this thought....
@chuan89 (18)
• Singapore
6 Mar 07
yes i agree to this alot. because most probably door is the way to enter and exit. if a robber come in front main door he also walk in roon from the only door and can link to more rooms after walking out. when you want to protect someone you will automatically sleep closer to the door. normally with my boyfriend he will want to sleep closer to the door because i am afraid as well actually. but when i am with my younger sister i will sleep closer to door. this let her sleep more better at night as another side is the wall. she will feel very safe. this is normal people reaction even in sleep. while sleep our brain also know where we are and how we sleep is react like when you cannot sleep well then you know.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
12 Mar 07
Very well said I agree with you too.
• United States
5 Mar 07
that's really cool. my hubby sleeps near the door
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
6 Mar 07
Really thats good it does seem that there pretty spot on with that conclusion although there does seem to be a few that don't....
@Pigglies (9335)
• United States
28 Feb 07
What if you have a bedroom with a door on each side? Does that mean you're both guys? ;)
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
2 Mar 07
hahahaha No...
• United States
28 Feb 07
Your book is right on the money. My hubs is the same way, totally. Unfortunately, his side is the warm side and I'm by the window--ironic thing is, he sweats & I freeze. Anyhoo, I whine and he insists he is sleeping by the door so he can protect me in case of robbers. When we move the bedroom furniture around, he will swap me sides to be closest to the door. To answer your question, yes, it's true.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
2 Mar 07
It is so true I think in many aspects I never really thought about it until I read it and it was like yeah that is true, even when I asked my partner he said to protect you... I thought that was sweet....
@mstay4 (69)
• United States
25 Feb 07
This is true. I thought about all of the places we have slept and my husband has always slept closest to the door. I think that is strange. I have never noticed that before. I asked him why he slept where he did and he said he had no idea. The funny part is it wasn't always the same side (like always on the left or right).
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
I never thought anything of it until I read it myself and was aahh yes that is true....
11 Feb 07
Wow that is actually true! I always have to sleep on the wall side and my man sleep on the outside- near the door.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
16 Feb 07
hehehe That's great you agree
• Australia
9 Feb 07
I think it is an instinct thing. When I walk down the street with someone I always walk the road side. So I guess it's the same thing.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
16 Feb 07
oh yeah That's great Thinking, Your right What a great person you are.
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Me, i sleep near the door so that i can know if my husband were going to wake and walk out.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
hahahaha good one so he has to wake you first before he runs away :D
@apky12 (775)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I wonder what this syas about me because I'm a woman and I sleep closest to the door. That's interesting. I can't remember but I think I was the one that picked the side of the bed I wanted to be on. I think because it's closest to the bathroom and I always have to go in the middle of the night.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
That would be a good reason but maybe you feel very safe there??? or you are the defender???
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
9 Feb 07
my husband is also the same way. i thought it was just him or a couple of men ya know? i never thought of it being almost every man. every once in a blue moon if im lucky ill get the end lol
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
It does seem that man do sleep closer to the door but some seem to only sleep on the right side whether close to the door or not... I am very intrigue by this theory
@Evacuee (1148)
9 Feb 07
I've always slept on the bed closest to the door I suppose its the old protection thing, but now we live in a bungalow I'm at a loss as to which side to sleep coz an intruder could possibly come though the window which is the other side of the bed....!! But they have got to get pass our little Jack Russell first!!
@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
hehehe... That's great
• Netherlands
9 Feb 07
Well it certainly isn't true in my relationship. I sleep on the side closer to the door. It wasn't like I insisted upon this side, it was his idea. I think it is because his preference is for the right side of the bed no matter what it's close to. Even when wwe go t a hotel, he wants to sleep on the right side of the bed. Strange how that happens.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
Yeah I find it strange if for someone to favour one side over another even if not related to the side closest to the door...
9 Feb 07
My husband always sleeps on the right side of the bed, in every house we've lived in he makes sure that the right side is closest to the door... I've never really thought of it before though. After a man came in and tried to take our baby from our room, I'm glad he was closest to the door!
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
oh How scarey to have someone come into your House / room and try and take your child, that is bad.