Who hates it when you lend things to friends and don't get the item back?

United States
February 7, 2007 10:10pm CST
Or you finally have to ask them for it? It seems like I lend a few things out to friends, but I am never asked if I want to borrow something they know I would like, so I'm currently on a no-lending kick!
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@KwokFist (73)
• India
18 Feb 07
I hate it especially when it comes to books and when i lend it to my friends it comes back in a deteriorated shape or in an unacceptable way are the times that i really get pissed off. So im very skeptical about lending books but even more so when it comes to my motorcycle and a few other things that i never lend to anyone.
• United States
18 Feb 07
Well, MONEY is the one thing I will not lend. That could ruin a good friendship.
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• India
18 Feb 07
Well same here, infact i totally forgot about Money, i normally dont lend money to my friends and i never borrow from anybody. Money simply breaks up friendship especially when it comes to lending and borrowing.
• India
18 Feb 07
I never lend or borrow anything especially if it is money.
@taurean (171)
• United States
25 Feb 07
During my early hostel days it used to really annoy me when i used to find lots of things borrowed by friends when i needed them.And I not able to refuse them when they asked.But gradually i learnt to give them when they needed and at the same time asking them to retun later.Some of them used to return, but from some i had to collect myself, or forget about it.
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• United States
26 Feb 07
Yes, it annoys me also that sometimes I'm unable to say NO, lol.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
8 Feb 07
ohoh, did i borrow something?!!! let me know-i cant remember what day it is lately!
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• United States
9 Feb 07
No, don't worry, it' not you, roflol.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
This happens to me sometimes, especially when they borrow things that are of special meaning to me. Seems like they get instant amnesia whenever I ask them about the things that they borrowed from me. I would more understand them if they told me that they want to have it, then I could've easily gave it to them. Right now, I choose people who wants to brrow something from me..
• United States
8 Feb 07
I think sometimes people have the item so long that they are just embarrassed to give it back a year later and figure if you haven't asked for it by now, you don't want it back...
@emquinsat (1059)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I hate when this happens. There are still some stuff that I lend my friends and hasn't been returned yet. I love those things back so what I do is borrow something from them to and won't return it until they return my stuff. That makes us equal.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I don't think I would go that far, but thanks for the reply. ;)
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
My old ex-friend borrowed a lot of expensive electronic stuff amounting to $50k worth. He never returns it unless I ask it back. Some of my stuff even "mysteriously" disappear in their house and they say they don't know where it is? To put it this way, my ex-friend has been borrowing stuff from me since 1998. It was okay for me because he's one of my closest friends but my other buddies didn't feel the same way. They didn't like the facts that when my ex-friend would borrow stuff from me it was I who had to deliver those things to his house and to also pick it up once he's done with it and the second, most of the stuff he borrowed were never returned and the few that got returned were all broken. That's what happened all my friends against our ex-friend. It's ok to borrow just be responsible for it, he didn't have to pay a dime for it.
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• United Arab Emirates
12 Feb 07
Borrowing and lending are an intricate part of the human equation. Your emphasis, however, should always be on lending. Those who borrow in a timely manner, or return borrowed items in disrepair complicate their own lives and the lives of others.
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Most borrowers do not return the things they borrow and if they do, it's not in the same good shape. I am talking from experience. So I go to get them back from the borrower. There are times that even if I do so, I still don't get them back for so many reasons offered. This is the reason why I lend things only to a very select few. If there are some things you may be needing and you know a friend got them, try asking. They may allow you to have it, knowing you. Always remember then to return the items right after using.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Yes, it is hard to have a soft-spot and want to make friends happy but they don't really reach out in return. I went through this once and now everything is alright. Stay on course and they will realize you deserve respect for your actions :)
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