My dad's girlfriend is younger than me...
By mayin0320
@mayin0320 (1)
Philippines
February 7, 2007 11:26pm CST
Late last year, my dad suffered a stroke. on the day that i came to the emergency room while everything was chaotic. i noticed a girl nearby my sisters, and she was crying and i looked around and there's no other patient there but my dad. It wasn't a moment for me then to question who she was or what's her role in my dad's life. It seems my sisters don't know her neither. It was the first time that we got together for quite some time.
As days passed in the ICU, that same girl always came to visit and cried in her own little corner. When things started to get calm, I began to ask around to friends and relatives and finelly reality set in... She was my dad's girlfriend. she was younger than me. By the way, I'm 28 and she's 24.
How do I deal with this? Do we just keep her aside and forget her since my dad won't remember her anymore? Should we welcome her to our home and maybe she'll bring some smile in his face?
She seemed genuine...What would you do?
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40 responses
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
8 Feb 07
You did not mention what his prognosis was, so I have to say...evenif he can't remember her, it's not going to hurt him by allowing her to visit. She must care about him, if she was visiting your dad in the hospital and crying for him. I don't believe it matter's that she is younger then you. My mother had a boyfriend that was younger then my older sister and they got along great. If she treat's you dad right, then allow her to visit, it might bring a smile to his face, and in the end, your father's happiness is what matter's at this time.
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@mummiahmayin (8)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Right. at this moment it's hard to entertain more bad thoughts. We need all the help we can get to make things better.
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@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 07
dont decide anything yet.i think u better get to know her 1st, talk to her, have a light conversation with her, so then you know how much ur father loves her, and how long they have been together.i know its not easy becoz she's younger then you, but lets put age matter to a side.I hope ur father get well soon.
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@MGjhaud (23171)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
really? thats interesting. i assume you and the rest of your siblings live away from your father because you don't know. but that's sweet, your father now is ill and she's beside him and maybe she knows herself that you and your sisters dont know her but she stand though its possible that you might not accept her. thats courage and love, i guess. let yourself know her, take a chance maybe she's that worth it for your dad and someday when y'all gone away there's gonna be that someone that'll take care of your father.
@xelissa (776)
• New Zealand
9 Feb 07
In your situation, if he is in love, age does not matter, love conquers all in my opinion. How long has he been dating her, how did they meet, are they really in love? These are all important questions you need some answers to (if you already haven't) then decide how to move on from there.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
8 Feb 07
If she was your dads girlfriend it means he loves her or likes her alot. If it was me , I would introduce myself and and welcome her to the family. She is proably very upset about your dad and needs someone to give her a hug. Tell her you understand and you accept that your dad and she had been close. I think your dad will remember her. Even if he cant tell anyone. She probably does bring a smile to his face. I think she should stay as a part of the family.
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@mummiahmayin (8)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Yeah, I appreciate her sincerity of coming and being there inspite of rejection that she may encounter from us.. It's human nature to be judgemental in a way but a little openness won't hurt. right?
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@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I would approach her and comfort her and introduce yourselves. She means something to him and he definately means something to her since she is always visiting. Dont ignore her and do not assume your father would not recognize her. Invite her into your family circle. She's harmless.
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@pradesh13 (287)
• India
9 Feb 07
As per her age of 24 she seems to be mature enough for caring her loved one during his illness. Its totally not her fault to love somebody who is aged, its 50% her role and other 50% your dads role. so if she is showing concern and care, just accept her , but be aware of any financial issues in future. I think you all should accept her at this point of time.
@ajaykumarmeher (815)
• India
9 Feb 07
How it is posible. Hoiw can ppl fall in love with some one who is of his daughter's age..isths noy weired?? I cant even think of such a realtionship.....
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Well, my advice is to welcome the girl. Basing from your story that she visits your father and stay with him then I think she is true to your dad. Let her stay in your dad and let her care for your dad. About the age. Well, I think age does not matter. As long as she is true to your dad then she is no problem at all. You should be happy atleast your dad has someone that truly loves him despite of his age and situation now.
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@joperman05 (45)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Things like that happen. I mean, It just so happened that you're a bit older than the girl. As the saying goes, "Age does not matter". I think you should let her in the familty. Your dad, who is supposedly in love with this girl, would love it if she'd be welcomed by the family. This also might help in your father recover faster knowing that all is well with her and the family.
@pcteknisyan (43)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
i think she really love your dad, she would not have wasted a time visiting your dad or rushing to the hospital is she got no feelings for your dad. A good talk to her might clear things up and who knows, you might get along well in the end.
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@serialmommy (639)
• United States
9 Feb 07
do you know for sure that your dad won't remember her? will he be able to remember his own family? how long has he been dating her? i think that should play into it a bit. after all, he was involved with her, and she felt that it was serious enough that she should be with him in the hospital. have you talked to her at all? do you know how she feels about all of it? i think you should start there.
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@djbtol (5493)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Be kind to her and help her. Do not treat her as the enemy. If she was important to your Dad, then maybe you should at least try to understand her. If it was adultery, then a firm goodbye may be the better option.
@nw1911guy (1131)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I would go ahead and accept her. Just because she was your fathers girlfriend doesn't make her any less of a human.
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@rainsong7 (124)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
this girl obviously cares very much for your dad to be at his side in his time of need...age is not a factor when it comes to love...welcome her..and if she makes your dad happy that is all that really matters.
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@dj_udin2002 (166)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 07
i thinks your father have od taste heeheheh cause like your girls ehhehehe
except under 17 its bad huehueu
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@goskiisapimp (1)
• United States
9 Feb 07
well this really shouldnt be a problem unless you want it to be a problem you should just let them be cause if she cares about him then they should be together..
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