NO, we dont send grandparents or old people to homes for the aged because....

Philippines
February 8, 2007 8:20am CST
we dont send our old folks in homes for the aged because they mean a lot to us. im asian, one time i talked to an american and he told me they send their old people to these type of place, and i felt really sad. our grandmother is very old and that would be cruel to let her spend the remaining years of her life in a four cornered house when she spent the best years of her life taking care of us and nurturing us since we were young. how do you guys feel about this? my friend actually pondered for a minute and i think he wondered why the He.. is he sending his parents to these homes when they could live with him and his family. that would mean more guidance and words of wisdom for all his children..yes or no ?
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@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
8 Feb 07
That is great to hear that you guys totally care for each other within the family!!! I tend to agree with the fact that in my opinion there are way too many people who just seem to take the easy route out by sending their older folks to a nursing home just because they don't want to take the time to care for them!!! That to me is wrong especially considering how much they have done for you!! And I agree that by taking them into the family home is a much better option for the whole family - especially the kids who can learn so much by just spending time talking and listening to them!!!
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
lifeisindeedgood. thanks for being with me there, u see i work so far from where i live, but i need to earn money, thats what people do to live better, but when i think of my grandparents and the thought of losing them. makes me cry. damn it!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
You are so welcome and you should consider yourself very lucky as I have no living grandparents!!!! I really miss them so much - and really wish they were still alive so that our boys could have known them and how wonderful they really were!!!!
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
sad to hear that, anyway thats life, we will have another oppurtunity for that when the time comes and well just make up for it. im sure ur boys would be very happy to meet them
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• United States
8 Feb 07
We have a different kind of culture here. Most of us have lived in many different places far away from our families. Personally, I prefer to live by myself until I'm too old to care for myself. I don't want to live with my children, and in any case, they don't have room for anyone else in their houses. Also, most people here work full time and don't have the time and energy to care for an ailing person.
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
well i guess it just boils down on how we think other people should live, and me and u live differently so thats that. thanks fo giving your response though. and ill always have the time and energy to take care of the ones i love :)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
We don't send our old folks to carehomes because we are family oriented than Westerners. But don't judge them for doing that coz for sure they have their own reasons. One reason I think is that noone would take care of their folks for they are busy working. We have different lifestyles and different way of living. Sending folks to carehomes doesn't necessarily means that they don't love them.