Interracial Dating

@audraac (109)
United States
February 8, 2007 8:41am CST
What are your thoughts and beliefs of interracial dating. I belive that if you love that person it does not matter what race they are. And I also believe that if your family does not like interracial dating that that is more a personal problem and not a personal problem for you. If they love you they will stand by your decision.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I see nothing wrong with it at all. I see no color when I meet people. When I wish to date or fall in love I still see now color. I look at the person and who they are & how they make me feel. As for my family, Ive always let it be known that I was a strong smart person who makes good choices. Ive asked them to put their trust in me and accept that I can pick & choose my own partners. If they have any problems with the person I am with they can keep their problems to themselves. If they wish to not accept my partner into their home that I will not go into their home either as he is a part of my life. :) Things have worked out just fine though for us ;)
@audraac (109)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I'm a interracial child and growing up was really hard on me growing up in a state that was mostly of white and or mexican people. I was called a zebra etc. I have grown out of the confussion of being mixed. For the longest time I was told that I would switch from races because I was confused. I'm not longer confused about who I am. I got out of that stage as a teenager. I have three children and I refuse to let them see color. My oldest child has a mexican father and my two youngest boys father is african american and Irish. The ratio in that state of african americans is still small. This whole world is a BIG melting pot I have told myself and we are all unique in our own ways. I love who I am.
• United States
8 Feb 07
thats awesome! Its good to hear there's another person out there who is secure in who they are & can fully love themselves! thats a great thing :) I am mexican who is with a filipino man & we have 2 beautiful children...when I filled out my sons registration for school when it asked what he was we just put declined to state. There was no option for mixed & proud or simply "human" so to not ruffle feathers I declined to state. I dont want my child to be used as a case study or some crap like that. Be proud of who you wherever you came from :) & always teach the same its what I do :)
@stephg (48)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Interracial dating is never an issue with me.I agree with what you say that it doesn't matter what race you're dating as long as a feel a strong connection with that person. I know many people who have boyfriends from different race.
@audraac (109)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I have dated different races and I don't see a problem with it. I'm proud to be a mixed child. And I would support my children as well.
• United States
11 Apr 08
I'm not going to say that Love has no color and we're all one race blah blah blah b/c you've probably heard that already. i do believe that once you've fallen in love with a person, race should be irrelevant. It's all about openess. A lot of people have been brought up in an environment where they are told to stick to their own kind (that phrase always confused me). My family has made it clear that they don't want me bringing home anyone but a strong black man. They get mad at me when i question that. Quite frankly, it's my life, not theirs. I think you should be able to date and love on whomever you choose. i have no problem with confronting my parents' racist views in front of everyone. Whoever God lets me fall in love with, that's whom I will go with. i wouldn't mind at all dating a white,indian,asian,latino man as long as they treat me right. I think we should all stop being so intimidated by our attractions to other races. Parents will eventually lose their ability to make decisions for you and you're gonna have to live life on your own. I love seeing interracial couples walk down the street, it looks so jenesaisquoi. So if you're an interracial couple and you see someone staring at you, who knows, they might just be admiring your bravado. i would. I also don' think it's right to abuse the fact that you have an interracial relationship. For instance, when a black man dates or marries a white woman, he might start a habit of putting down black women.Calling them all kinds of degrading names . I think this is thing only thing that bothers me about interracial relationships. You should never put down one race just because you're dating another.
• United States
6 Mar 07
As a child of interracial dating ( and marriage as well), I can tell you if it wasn't for interracial dating, I would not be here. I also had a 10 year interracial relationhip with a man from Italy. I can tell you that overtime as he grew older, something happened and he just changed. He went back to being with his own race. I think interracial dating is fine as long as you are not being used as a novelty and the parties are truly in love or are serious about dating and it is just not for jungle fever reasons.
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
6 Mar 07
As I have a vietmanese son-in-law I guess you could say that I don't mind mixed racial marriages. The only concerns I have is for the couple because it places an added strain on the relationship and for the children born out of that relationship. Unfortunately not everyone is accepting of this practice. When two different races are raised in the same country and have the same cultural values then race shouldn't really matter. What concerns me more is when two people of different cultures marry. Note I said cultures not race. Someone of the same race but raised in two differnt cultures would find it hard going. My son-in-law came to this country when he was around five or six from vietnam with his father. His sister din't make it here until she was around fifteen. Even though they are brother and sister you can see the cultural difference. One basically raised as an American the other as Vietmanese. This has caused problems with in the family group because the parents are still into the vietmanese culture, my son-in-law is into the american culture and his sister is stuck between the two. I won't go into details but it has effected her relationship with her parents and her husband who is American. I guess you could say that I would have more problems with intercultural dating rather then interracial dating. Again not becuase of the people themselves but because of the problems it brings to relationships.