i think my boyfriend is cheating me!

@naadia (830)
India
February 8, 2007 1:53pm CST
i have a deep relation with my bf.it started 1 year ago.he was my best friend once.they we take that relation to a step ahead.everything was fine till last month.now he is not caring me,he is not talking much with me,but always have time to talk with other girls.when i saw him with a girl,he trying to avoid me and he will ran from me.what is the problem.is he getting bored with me?nowaday he is not the person i knew before!
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207 responses
• United States
8 Feb 07
Whether or not he is cheating on you, I can't say. But the fact of the matter is, if you can't trust him, then there's really not much of a relationship. Even if you are wrong, there is obviously a problem that needs to be addressed.
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
i trust him and still i love him!thanks for your advise!can i ask you a question.what do you expect from your girlfriend?don't take it as negative.i just want to know.may be it will help me!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I dunno that I really 'expect' anything. I don't need some girl going out of her way to please me, I'm just glad when she shows up!
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• India
11 Feb 07
we will expect her love towards me.... dont join my gf to ur discusions.....otherwise she will leave me........ bye-bye......
@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
You may love him but is it really worth getting hurt over andmade to look like the fool? How old is he I see you are only 17 still so young, you will find someone eles that will love you for you... Don't change yourself for somebody eles to like you...
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
he is just 1 year elder than me!we are family friends and living in same villa!i can't avoid him.i see him everyday,but he just avoiding me!
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Try talking to him to see what is happening Don't seem pushy though show him you can enjoy yourself without him even if you can't. You will in time... He may get Jealouse and come back to you.. You look like a very pretty Girl if that is your real pic? You should have nothing to worry about. :)
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
this idea sounds good.but i don't think i can avoid him for more than 2 days!i cant be very rude,at least i don't know how!thanks for your tip.i will try that!
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@coffeeshot (3785)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
You need to get him out of your life. The worst thing you can do is to make him think you still care. Act like you don't care. It's obvious he's not into you anymore, so just say "look, I get the feeling you don't like my anymore. Do you want to end it now?" Let him know that you're in control and you're not going to sit back and take his crap anymore. Girl power!
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
you are right.but still i love you.we were good friend one year ago.we know both each others like and dislikes.i want him back!can i?
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I think you're not going to listen to sound advise. You just want to vent. Some of the information given is good. Mine is the best. You shouldn't care- you will and you will do whatever it takes to get him back and HE'S NOT WORTH IT. How strong are you? Are you a baby? Are you stupid? Dry your tears and get a back bone. LEAVE HIM.
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@gharinder (2044)
• India
9 Feb 07
see you love him lot that's ok but afterall you have your own self-respect, i think even if you try hard your relation with this guy is not going to take you any where, instead in long run you may feel deceived, cheated and being used. if he really loves why doesnt he has the time to talk with you, its sure you are deeply in love with him but i dont think he is pretty serious about you, just ignore him and let him start the topic, if he really loves you ,then let him come forward and admit it. otherwise go ahead in life its much more beautiful why to waste it on such a guy
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@naadia (830)
• India
10 Feb 07
i will keep trying to him back.if things don't work out i will wait for him,but i don't know how long.i am not that type of girl when losing one ,try to make a new one.i cant do that!or i cant forgot him too!
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
9 Feb 07
Don't worry my dear, You are so fortunate that you realised a devil early, who pretended as your friend, you came out well before any mishap. The God has saved you from the disaster. He, who can fleed away, never is a friend but a rouge. I understand your feelings, I even can feel that you may not be able to forget him so soon, I know what the first love is, but dear naadia, the events always have some good fortune in the future. belive me! I am sure you have some happy life ahead hence only the almighty has saved you from this pit to fall. Hence forth beaware of dogs like these one. Spend your life in, carrier making and grow great. I wish you all the best.
@naadia (830)
• India
9 Feb 07
thanks for understanding my feeling...you provide some support to me...thank you very much!
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• India
8 Feb 07
Did u physically relationship with him... coz some guyz after did the relationsship, again search for a new girl. else if u r adament or high possessiveness its also getting irritated him.
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
no,i don't.i think it may cause him to breakup this relation.but he never ask for that!thanks for your reply!and i don't care about talking with other girls!i care only about avoiding me!
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• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Gosh! You said it yourself! He hangs out with other girls and runs when he sees you. He clearly is cheating on you. Boredom could be a major reason. It always is. He just doesnt want to be the one to break up with you that's why he's hurting you so you will break it. Alot of guys are like that.
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@zerbite (83)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
"If you love someone, set him free... if he comes back he's yours, if he doesn't, he never was" I know it's hard to forget someone you really love, but you said "nowadays he is not the person I knew" if he's liked that why do you still want him badly? He's not the person you knew, the person you loved before. So I suggest forget him and try to moved on. Try to do good things and make yourself busy it will help you forget.
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@itgalary (633)
8 Feb 07
If you think so then its better to forget him. If you are still sticking on to him that is not good.
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
but i love him very much.i am not that type!i want him back.what can i do?
• Greece
8 Feb 07
Hello Nadia!!!i think ur boyfriend is stupid...sorry about that...if he is a man he must tell u that cheating you and not hidind...You must speak with him and ask him to say u the truth...if love u or not...(i think not)...u must make him to say u the truth and after follow your hurt if he loves u or follow ur mind if dosent!!
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
i want to talk!but he excuses every time i started this topic!thanks for your reply!
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• India
8 Feb 07
Dear naadia, Today onwards try to avoid him and try to enjoy with other boys infront him and show him u can enjoy without him. Himself get Jealouse and come back to u(if he is a true boy friend of u). If not u must speak with him straightly and express your feelings if is not understanding your feelings better u gorget your fool boy friend. "if relationship is not good u con't success in your life". I am wishing u to get your boyfriend back. Take care,have a great day:)
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Feb 07
someone already give me that idea!anyway thanks and read comments.i write those many times.i want him back,i cant avoid him for more than 2 day.what can i do?what is the reason?he get bored of me?
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• India
9 Feb 07
Now u are in painful condition. Better u should not waste your efforts and valuble time who doesn't care for u. How much love him evidntly not coming from your boy friend. Don't think bad, i will say clearly he gor board of u. Godd luck:)
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@kool78 (490)
• India
8 Feb 07
he is bored of u! he got what he wanted. forget him and move on!
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@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
can i ask you a question.don't take it as negative.what you expect from your gf!be honest.
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@kool78 (490)
• India
11 Feb 07
SEE u asked me what i would want right i would look out for the same things what you are looking out for. But if she cheats me for how long will i cry about it. I am not being offensive what if u find him doing wrong things with other girl? Will you forgive him? There must be commitment from both the person and not just 1. Did u tell him how u feel? Communication is the key in all good relationship. Will wait for your response
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@amitntpc (55)
• India
9 Feb 07
oh No!!! how lucky you are that you know that your boy friend is cheating.you know most of the people dont even know about it.i think you are beautiful.have you tried to find out why he is cheating you?
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Feb 07
i don't think i am very much beautiful,may be i am cute(that is he used to say every time).
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• Australia
9 Feb 07
I dont know what his reason are. One way to find out is of course to really talk to him about his feelings and where he wants to take this relationship. A few ideas that may be the based of his actions: 1. He may be bored with you and what I mean is that if the relationship is stale, not much romance in there, no sparks anymore, it is a monotone relationship then he will bound to get bored What to do is to get that romance back, give both of you a lot of quality time, laughing often, go on dates, surprise him, romance him. 2. He may be not in love with you anymore.. well I cant really help on this, if the love is not there anymore.. you could try to regrow his love, but a bit hard, or you should just let him go he is not meant to be for you. 3. You changed too much and he wants you back to the person he loves before. What i mean is that after a while girls tend to get high maintenance (i admit it I do act like that ahah) and force their guys or nag their guys to do something for them or many times we took our guys for granted and not appreciating them enough. If this is the cases then you reflect on yourself and change a bit for him, respect him, love him, and lower your maintenance. But as Ive said before, one way to find out is to talk properly to your boyfriend, discuss this like an adult, and solve it like an adult, make a compromise. Find out what he is on his mind, and then you can find the solutions. :) good luck and let me know
@naadia (830)
• India
9 Feb 07
may be you are right!i think we not even went for a cinema for 1 month.may be he get bored of me!thanks for your brilliant reply.may be it help to solve my problem!i will analyze myself!
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
do you really think he is avoiding you? have you cleared this out with him ? there must be something that he needs to settle or anything you guys must talk about. i think he has his problems and people who have issues want to solve them by themselves. the least you can do is think that he is cheating on you, unless proven...
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Feb 07
i am sorry for that title "cheating".actually i am very frustrated so that i started this discussion!i am still love him. may be your reply help me.i don't know he have any personal problem.may be that is the problem.thanks my friend!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
If I were you I would talk to him, find out whats going on and tell him if he continues to treat you bad, that you will move on. Some people change and you dont deserve to be treated badly, you deserve honesty and happiness and if he cant give it, find another guy who will appreciate you! and welcome to mylot!
@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
i tried many time to talk!but when i get this topic he simply refuse to hear!he simply rolling without any answer.i cant be very rude to him.finding another guy is easy to talk.why don't understand my feeling.i love him,..still.sorry,thanks for your reply.
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@Bbilal (1998)
8 Feb 07
You know what? the missunderstanding is the thing make a relation come to an end. It is my personal experience I've suffered from. You know how my relation breaks? She said bilal since you'r having alot of issues with our relation we better broke this relation. And my issues are the same as you have, do not ever create missunderstanding between you and your boyfriend it will come in a horrible action in the future. I recommended you what I think is right people are saying he is so stupid and all but I know what you must be feeling right now, as I am feeling the same :)
@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
i dont think he is a stupid.he is really good,but i am afraid he get bored of me!
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@shineison (874)
• Uganda
8 Feb 07
so leave him and don't make boyfriends till your marriage its not fair for your life, many will make you fool when ever you try to make boyfriends. do your study and forget your fool boy friend, boys cant be serious in these days of their life. so you cant also. be careful.
@naadia (830)
• India
8 Feb 07
thanks for your kind response.he is my family friend also.my parents will not against this.but they don't know about this yet!
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• India
9 Feb 07
see according 2 my assumptions ur relationship was 1 yr old n its not neccesary that it was love from his side may be it was just an attraction which ended in 1yr of time and now he has no interest in u.
• United States
9 Feb 07
i don't really know what you could do in this situation. i mean, if you ask me, if this guy is cheating on you he isn't a very good guy and you should leave him. but i see that you don't want that. so talk to him. don't try, do it. make him listen to you. maybe he's going through a weird stage and needs space. just don't be too clingy or he'll try even harder to avoid you. if he refuses to talk to you, then you should just break up with him
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@vladmire (28)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
talk to you bf presonally and ask him if he still feel something for you. but make sure that when you do this, you are prepared for anything that might happen. some people tends to keep things by themselves...
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