What do you think of the trend to have a baby without being married

I was hoping that this was a trend that was going away, not increasing. I think that it is an awful cycle, I had a sitter, she lived in a nice apartment, one day, she finds an eviction notice, and all utilities were turned off. SHe was not upset at all, she went to welfare, they paid her rent, had her utilities turned back on, gave her money to live and paid for her and her kids and paid her rent. Her husband had done this several times before. She divorced him that time, but welfare made her go to school and got her a job with benefits. Her kids were both in school and I guess it is harder with babies, but I agree, I should not be paying for people to do this. I went in the service, put myself through college, got a good job and then had a kid, I do not expect everyone to do things in the order I did, but the point is, I knew what needed to be done and I did it. I would think in our society, where kids seem to know so much more, so much younger, I am surprised that we still have teenage pregnancy and such. There is no excuse these days.

I don't beleive that a child should grow in an environment that is incomplete. I beleive that the childs welfare is at stake when he grows in a single parent. I guess the only thing that could discourage that kind of practice is to abolish that system were they are being given the benefit of getting money from us working. In my place there is no such policy that is why were not paying anyone that have a child without being married. Although it is common in here but then we don't support them financially.

I prefer to have ababy after getting married as you can give the name to it properly. Why to have a baby first when one get the same after married. OK if you had a baby accidently before married then you can get married later and grow the child

I do not think that there is anythign that you can do to stop this from happening or to stop repeat offenders. Not all people who have children outside of marriage are on welfare though. My husband and I had our son before we were married yet we were together the whole time and many years prior. We never recieved welfare, We both worked and went to school to provide for our son. We got married when he was almost 6 months and have now been married for almost 3 years. We now have another child and are still not relying on tax payers for help. My husband has a wonderful job that allows me to stay home with our children. I think that even some of the best people can hit rough spots and need a little help sometimes. We shouldn't look down on them. If your child had a baby out of wedlock wouldn't you want someone to help support the child and baby if you couldn't?