Inappropriate punishment for a child by a parent.

@kgwat70 (13395)
United States
February 9, 2007 6:52am CST
I was just reading in our local news website that a mother punished her 10 year old son for disciplinary problems by making him take his clothes off and stand outside in the freezing cold. She could not take his poor behavior anymore and made him go outside in the cold with nothing on. How terrible is this? Earlier to this happening she had called the police to have her son removed from her home because he was behaving poorly. Both her and her friend were arrested and one of them was released on bail. Here is the link to this horrible situation. http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070209/NEWS/702090327
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• United States
10 Feb 07
Sounds like a certified whack job to me! The sad part is... we can't stop certain people from populating the earth. People like her should be "fixed" for life and never allowed to have kids again.
• United States
10 Feb 07
as the parent of a rather difficult child i am speaking from experience. he tests my patience on a daily basis, at times on an hourly one. however, i would NEVER do that kind of thing to him, not matter his behavior. i have removed privelages from him, i have made him sit in his bed the entire day, only getting out to use the bathroom (in the bathroom) or to eat meals, my son has been suspended from school for any numerous acts and offenses, however what that woman did is NOT the way to treat a child. it pleases me a little to know that child abusers are not well liked in prison at all, so she will get what is coming to her, if a jury can only see the truth of the matter and not allow "psychological disease or disorder" disrupt their view
@resasour (378)
• United States
9 Feb 07
What is really sad is that unless she has been arrested before, chances are she will just get a slap on the wrist. Maybe go through some classes and get him back, since our judicial system is built on trying to keep families together. Personally, I think he should never go back there, and she should sign her rights away as his mother. I am sure there is a long time pattern of abuse. This boy is 10 years old. It seems like the mother over reacts to his behavior, as well as her so called "friend" that lives with her. He needs to be put into a better home. And he needs counseling.. As for the two women... they both need some serious counseling as well.. and I think they both need jail time... I am astounded at how many adults nowadays don't have a clue how to "parent" and how many turn to extremes instead of learning a different way.. We are in the information age... simple searches on the internet and you can learn alot about a child and how to handle behavior issues.. What is alarming is that they thought they were doing the right thing.... that's why they had no qualms about calling the police, or even about telling the police how they made him stand outside... Gee, I bet they were a little shocked when they got arrested...lol I would not want him back in their care.. I do not think this will make them behave any better.. it will only make them go through more efforts to keep quiet about the abuse they dish out to him...because getting arrested is not likely to teach them anything different... they still don't know how to cope with his behavior, or to discipline him without it being extreme.. This saddens me... There are more and more parents like this already... what is the world going to be like in another twenty years? when all these abused kids grow up and become parents, and become world leaders and stuff... we hear about so much abuse its mind boggling...but what is even more mind boggling is that there is so much more going on that never gets reported... so many that get away with it... and even the ones that get caught barely get punished for the pain they put those kids through.. and then they get out and go right back to doing it again... if not with that child, it will be another... The world is becoming a really sick place....
@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
What craziness is this? Having children should be a priviledge that some do not deserve. Obviously these people are out of their minds!! I don't even know what to say except that it just sickens and disgusts me knowing that I have to share the planet with such idiots.
@gberan (4)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I am a firm believer in disipline, but I am against abuse! I believe in spanking children in the early stages of life, and punishment in the older stages maturity. Young children are not born with a sense of reasoning. It has to be learned. It takes some children more time to learn and some children learn more quickly. Punishment and abuse have a fine line of seperation but I do not think that the government has any business making laws that dictate how parents should raise their children.
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@elby79 (17)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Wow, that mother is pathetic! I hope she gets a nice long prison sentance and it is horrible. That poor child will be scarred for life, he may overcome it but he will always have emotional issues because his mother was unfit. It stinks, there are so many kids being treated like this and in a lot of cases the foster parents they are sent to are no better. I hear stuff like this and it makes my stomach turn. We live in a country where abortion is legal, (hopefully it stays that way or we will see so much more of this)birth control is easily obtained and you can get it for free. Why did this women have a child if she couldn't handle it?
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
9 Feb 07
someone needs to beat that woman with a very large stick then strip her and make HER stand out in the damn freezing cold!! I cant IMAGINE how embarrassed and horrible that poor child feels! what the hell!!!...Thats just terrible.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
9 Feb 07
"He's very quiet, very well-behaved," she said. He wouldn't accept anything to eat or drink, Bassett said. "He just sat by the window and watched his mother's house. He was very afraid of getting into trouble for going into somebody else's house" I hope they take him away from her and put him somewhere safe and loving ya know...ppl like that shouldnt have kids mainly because they are sick, twisted psychos but also because they dont DESERVE to be blessed with a child or have the honour of being called mommy....Stupid ignorant *insert long string of profanity*...damn it I HATE ppl like that..it infuriates me!!
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
9 Feb 07
"Also as punishment, he was forced to sleep on a box spring on a basement floor and given a bucket for a toilet, Navarro said." ggrrrr...the angrier I get the more I add..sorry bout that....HOW IS IT NOBODY DID ANYTHING?? I mean I understand the childs fear etc but as soon as you think repeatedly that something isnt right THATS when you step up and speak for the child ya know... I could just scream right now!
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@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't blame you at all as I was very upset when reading this earlier this morning. I feel so bad for the boy as he must feel embarrassed and hurt. I can not even imagine how he is feeling or what it was like being treated like that by his own mother. She is a horrible mother and person for doing that and should stay in jail permanently. Using a bucket for a toilet is absolutely horrendous as well as it is apparent that she does not care about her son at all and hope that he can be put in a good home where the people will love him and take care of him much better.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I guess the mother doesn't bond with her son and has higher expectations that she forgot to realize that her child is just a kid. I wished that woman would have some sessions with a psychologist in order for her to have a grasp of what is she dealing with. I pity the son.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
its not sesions with a psycologist she needs it is to lose her children and to go to jail!there is no punishment bad enough for someone who would treat a child like that!
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Wow, that is unacceptable!! I am glad they were arrested. Nothing like punishing someone for doing something wrong by having them do something illegal. I wonder if she did it knowing that someone would call the police and thought they would just take him away because she could not handle him. It is just totally crazy.
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
9 Feb 07
People like that do not deserve kids. I hope they hang her. I can't imagine living that way.
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@sihanik (119)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
i think a kid needs guidance and love in their growing time. Punishment alone will not help them to understand the value in our family and socialty if they are not thought and make known the reason behind. Punishment alone is going to be successful in bring up a child, proper guidance is rather the right way to do it.
@MagusX (1099)
• Brazil
10 Feb 07
Hey, i don't agree but i am not against, i mean, sometimes some childs needs to get punished, but not that hard, i mean, if a child break something, like a plate or a glass, they should be repreended, but if they broke something like a Radio, or something more expensive, or even if they are "fighting with someone or even with the brother or sister" ( sorry, i dont know a word for it ), they should get punished, bad behaviors must get corrected.
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@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
10 Feb 07
I just can't understand this behavior! This is your son! Your own flesh and blood! How could someone do such thing to his own kids? No matter what he have done, no one derserve such punishment. There are other ways to punish your kids, and to teach them some discpline. Not by making them suffer. I hope that things like that won't happen again! EVER!
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@rubypatson (1842)
• India
10 Feb 07
How can a mother do that, she must be sick mentally, Yesterday i read about a father who left his daughter to die in the freezing cold, who is not even 2 years, I really feel sorry for the children who undergo these kind of tortures, but how can it be prevented
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@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
this is really outrageous... i am so mad at the mother after i finish reading the story... how can a parent (especially the mom who give birth to him) do that to her own son... she can kill him... if she doesn't want anybody to disturb her or give her touble, why have a child at the first place??? she should have known the consequences of having a child before deciding to become a parent... and i don't think her son is so bad after reading the story... in fact, i think he is a good and obedient boy... well, a child is a blessing from God and there should be no reason at all that a parent is allowed to do what she does to her son...
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• United States
10 Feb 07
oh my god that is just horrible, why would anyone do that to a child, I am a mother and I could never do that, I think she should have had the smarts enough to get this child some help, thats not how you handle the situation.
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@venigalla (191)
• India
10 Feb 07
i i think it is a more petiable situation that the parent is themselves doing like that the parents are the best friends that a person can have in my view it is a very bad thing that cannot be excused that is i have no words to say about this type of action
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@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Would that be child abuse? That is a horrible thing to do and in no way a punishment.
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@Sawsen (795)
• United States
10 Feb 07
That is just sickening. I'm glad they didn't get away with it. I feel so bad for the boy. No matter how bad a child acts, they should never be punished with such harsh punishments. I think if people don't want to deal with their children, then they should give them to people who would love and take care of them. It's really sad to read these kind of things.
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
Do you wonder what goes through some parent's heads. Also why didn't the police do something substantial when they were called to the house originally? There seems to be better parenting techniques than this around.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Oh this is horrible....I want to cry for this child..I would never punish my child like this.Even if my kids are naughty I would never do this to them no matter how bad they behaved..This is unacceptable..They should be charged for child abuse and never allowed to post a bail..Maybe his son is acting this way because he needs his parents attention and love...God this woman is insane to treat his son like that...Children are Gods gift to us and we were given a purpose to take care of them. Grrrr..I am so angry with this woman.
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