Should Lovers Keep Secrets Of Their Past From Each Other

@mikekire (146)
Nigeria
February 9, 2007 8:37am CST
Should lovers keep secrets of their past from their lovers especially when they know that i might break up the relatioship...
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8 responses
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
My boyfriend and I are very open about our past relationships. I don't think there's something wrong with it. Knowing each other's pasts can make you know the person even more especially on the way he or she deals with a certain situation. Well, if there are lovers who are not comfortable with each other in sharing about their past relationships, maybe they still need time to get along. Or probably they just want to keep it by themselves. BEing open or being secretive is actually a choice. :)
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
In the first place, they should have laid all their cards before entering into the relationship. Life has funny way of revealing to our partners the things that we are trying to keep. So to keep it less stressful, all relevant things about ones past should be made known to ones intended partner. If its really love then it wont matter and any relationship should be founded in trust, honesty, communication, acceptance and transparency.
• Romania
13 Feb 07
I think a relationship based on love should be based on honesty and trust too . Truth hurts .. but it`s better saying the truth , than base you relation on lies , because you never know when a lie could be found out . And one lie needs another one .. and another one .. and so on .. your whole life will consist of lies . I think that if you decide to share your life with someone .. that person has to know everything about you .. and you about him/her .. because in this way you both know how to treat the other one in specific cases .. and how to be more understanding and careful in delicate situations .
@thess11 (81)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
If both are ready to discuss about their past, then why not? however if this will just ruin the relationship, it would be better not to say a word about it..If what we will say will not do anybody any good then we might as well keep quiet.
@mannari (110)
• India
10 Feb 07
nop in my opinion lovers should not hide anything from each other be it watever, be frank and truthful is wat i think
• India
9 Feb 07
depends on the kind of person ur partner is.. if he is someone who will understand n take it easily u may... otherwise not....
• United States
9 Feb 07
I dont think so, I have a bit of a shady past and when my hubby and I werent feeling so close I felt compelled to share it with him. May seem like a scarry thing but it realy helped. I felt much better and he didnt care at all. If your partner truely loves you than the freedom that comes from being 100% honest will be so healthy for your relationship. Knowing what eachother has been through brings you closer together and helps build on lasting love. You will find comfort in your partner understanding why you are the person that sits before them. It helps in more ways than you can imagine, after all would you be the same had you not experienced what you had in the past.
9 Feb 07
I THINK THAT USUALY SECRETS between lovers shouldn`t be because its realy is dangerous if the other lover discover ur secret fron another person and not from u. But if its a realy big secret and it could realy mess up all the relationship and no one exapt u know about this secret u dont have to tell ur lover unless u wish to do it.