7mos Preg and he left me

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I considered myself happily married for 7 years. We had been together for 9 years, which was approx 1/3 of our lives. We were best friends and we already have a 3.5 year old daughter. He has a demanding job and then started school which left very little time for his family. We both work, but because of his desire to advance at work, he left me to handle everything. Of course I was human and displayed my frustration, but I never saw this as anything more that a stressful phase of marriage. Then I found out he stayed out all night probably drinking with his buddies (or that is what he says) and claimed that he was at work all night. After I busted him - he said that he was unhappy for over a year, but we had planned the pregnancy 5 mos before. He stuck around for 2 mos and we went to marriage counseling twice. He canceled out of three appointments saying that he couldn't get out of work. Then 14 days after our house sold, he left me 7 mos preg and with a toddler. Luckily I am with my parents, but I really want the husband that I had for 7 yrs. He doesn't want to face the discussions our our relationship, but is more than willing to discuss the financial responsibilities. I had waited for 3 weeks thinking he was just having a melt down, but he is insistent that he wants a divorce. He says there are no other women. None of this is normal behavior for him. Other than being a tad bit lazy at home, he has always been a devoted husband and father. I want him home...and I crazy for still hanging on to the the idea that he will open his eyes and come home. If kids weren't involved, maybe it would be easier to accept everything, but I would still find it hard to believe that he doesn't miss the woman he has slept next to for 9 years and his best friend. Any advice?