whats wrong with the world today?i mean a girl cant walk alone anymore these day

@PIITZY (749)
Romania
February 9, 2007 2:10pm CST
last night i went out with two friends,we went skating after i got tired i left them on to skate and i just sat down and i was looking at them i noticed a guy get to close to me he was a freak after he followed me a while and i thout i lost him i took the bus home and i noticed that guy again..i got home safe anywya but sometimes im scared to get out on my own.did it happen to any one else and this wasnt the only time these kind of thing happened...........what abotut you?
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• India
9 Feb 07
its only that due to overpopulation the corruption is increasing. now-a-days people get more corrupted and psychic by watching tv. the media is to be blamed to some extent. charity is no longer beginning at home.
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
9 Feb 07
ya but what can ii do about it im only 16 and im agirl so im quite a easy "pray" i mean what cani do in self-defence
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
If it EVER happens again, turn and yell at him! Men like that like to keep hidden and follow girls thinking they are unnoticed. Generally, just confronting them with a very loud "Why are you following me?" is enough to get others noticing and will scare him off. The last thing they want is a witness.
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@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
If you find your self in trouble, it helps if you scream "Fire" instead of "Help". People will look out if they think their car is on fire, but not if they think they have to get involved in a court case. Just scream "help, there's a car on fire!" And see how many people come to investigate
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
9 Feb 07
what if i dont have time to scream help i started to read a book about self defence the big problem is that i have an afternon program at school so i get out of classes at 7-30 and its realy dark out side and i make about 30-45 minutes till home by bus and all alone,im just afraid
@nicolec (2671)
• United States
9 Feb 07
actually the best thing would be to turn and ask "don't I know your mother?" If he thinks you know some one who might tell on him or that he will be recognized, he will leave you alone.
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@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
10 Feb 07
yah, its really scary. when i was living in france, i had these 2 guys follow me halfway home...and it was in the middle of the day too! they were sitting at a cafe when they noticed me walking by, so they both got up and started following me. all this time, they were saying things to me and trying to get my attention but i kept ignoring them because i knew what they wanted. i tried to walk faster but then so did they. at one point we were supposed to cross the street, so i let them cross first..and then i crossed behind them. they started walking the other direction towards the train station but then saw me walking the other way towards the tunnel, so one of the guys literally started running after me and shouting at me. i was sooo scared, so i called my friend freaking out..and told her to call the police if something happened. after a while, he stopped running after me...and went the other direction, but i was so scared!
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
i know what you mean once a car stopped near me and the guys that were in started to ask me my name and then one of them wanted to get me in their car so i started running i ran as fast as i could but they were folowing me and after a while i got in a public place were there were more people and got in the first buss that came if i wouldnt have run faster or if i had panict i dont know what would have happened.....
@emarie (5442)
• United States
10 Feb 07
of course as women we always have to be on guard and notice things like that. if he started to get close to me i would have started yelling out "is there something i can help you with" or "are you following me" and of course its nice to learn some self defense moves. it also depends on what area you're in. some areas i feel safe walking on my own, some places i don't. but it is something that it pretty scary. women just have to be on guard because people tend to think we're easy targets. thank god you got home safely, just next time, be more prepared. =)
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks but what boters me most is that that guy was30 or so i mean oh my god he could be my father ....thanks fore the advices anyway...:))
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
you see if he would have been a teenager or close to my age i would have easier turned around and tell me are you following me ???but with this guy i dont know i got panict...
• India
10 Feb 07
I think yous hould have yelled at the guy or complained about it to the polie station. This matter could have possibly been worse. A girl is not safe in the world today and should not go alone specially in isolated areas. I think you should make it a point not to go alone in dark areas as these areas are the most susceptible.
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks but i just prefer to live him alone so he wouldnt want to get revenge ....
@Anniedup (3651)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
10 Feb 07
I don't think it will ever stop,this is the reality that all women face these days. I understand your predicament not having time or transport, the best is to get yourself some pepper spray, even ordinary deodorant spray will do, but that you normally keep in your bag, and you don't want to fiddle to much, pepper spray you can attach it to your wrist accessible in seconds
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks for the idea ill try to buy pepper spray but i dont know where to find it:)..........
• India
10 Feb 07
Today's world is all corrupted and physical desires have grown very much high...in this era i think its better if u be careful while travelling alone late in the night...better take a company of someone if not possible do inform ur dear ones that u've started home nd update where u are to keep urself tracked...sometimes this might keep the stranger away from u too...also i advise u to learn martial arts to protect urself!!
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks oo and buy the way he wasnt a teenager like me he was 30 or so
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Feb 07
Yes, I have had this happen when I was in my early teens. I was with two of my sisters. We were chatting and walking home from the store. When a guy on a motorcycle stopped in front of us and said something to us. We all three ran..But were chased. We did end up loosing him. As we ran through yards and hid in a friends garage til we thought he was gone.
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
9 Feb 07
this made me remember of once when a car stoped next to me and asked me my name and wanted to get me in the car i ran as fast as i could and went where there were a lot of people.....
@ygkchaitu (387)
• India
10 Feb 07
This is was the same since the ages but never have you observed in this modern world because you have taken into shape yet.. but now you have and you know what it is you get a question of this sort. You cannot do anything about it this is how the chemistry works between men and women and because of which the world is growing. But ofcourse these incidents have been on growing spree which have to controlled only through quality counselling and nothing else.. and one more thing that girls be alert of these things and always have an alternate solution to protect yourself.
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
hmm let me put it this way tha guy was like 30 or less i dont realy care and i think he was a pervert and back 100 years ago or more these kind of things werent so often i mean women didnt get attaked during day time........
@shineison (874)
• Uganda
10 Feb 07
Yes this is happening every where in the world in all societies in all cultures in all groups of life. its why because we are going so far from humanities. Our Media, our thoughts, our needs, our thinkings, and our decisions are making us so bad. Our Media is improving all this, our thoughts about women is being changed, we say that this is modern world but we are behaving with women like dark ages. But one thing you know there is no security for women in any religion but in the ISLAM. ISLAM gives the total security for women in life. thats why only in USA women are becoming Muslim more then MEN. This is Universal Truth if you cant believe it you can read the teaching of ISLAM about women. You will Find it more better then any religion. In all Muslim Cultures there is no Old Homes for any Old men or women.( but for those old people who dont have children ). Why is this, Because we really care our families and we know the importance of Women in our Families, and in our lives. for example ___ ISLAM says that " Heaven is in the feet of Mother ". You know that we gave full respect to our mother and we are not allowed to talk in loud voice before Mother. ISLAM gives more respect to Women then any other religion. I said all this because its true. i don't want to blame any one. ISLAM teaches to respect all religions of the world.
@bonbon50 (659)
• United States
9 Feb 07
As a female, one should always be aware of their surroundings. Men don't even have to think about these things. I was almost abducted from a roller rink as a child. I have twice been exposed to by strangers as a teen-ager just walking home from somewhere. I had one man follow me into a ladie's room (luckily my boyfriend saw this). Another followed me all around the mall until I got a security escort to take me to my car. Another one followed me and my girlfriend to my car where I quickly pushed the power locks and then he started to pound on it; we never even saw him until we were getting in the car! This was all in the days before cell phones which I think every female should have now! Always keep your cell phone in your hand while walking to your car and such so you can quickly dial assistance. Also, in your case, you could have turned around and snapped this guy's picture and loudly stated 'quit following me!' This alerts anyone within ear shot that you are in potential danger and your follower will know you can produce a picture of him.
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
9 Feb 07
belive me i can still remember his face and his sick smile i dont have a car im only 16 and i go to school i get out from school at 730 its realy dark and scary i take the bus home and i make about a half hour till home and all by myself,alone,and belive me a lot of sickos followed me or tried to do something over the years.......i just hate it that women cant walk alone anymore these days without looking everywere and being aware of everything ......
@ster1234 (80)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Fortunately, this has never happened to me. I would try to carry pepper spray in case this happens again in the future. Try to walk around with another person since it seems like people walking alone are a bigger target. Also, if you feel nervous or scared, call a friend on your cell phone to let them know where you are.
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks i hope if anything like this happens again ill think clearly and not get panict,if i get panict its even worse,i mean once a car stopped near me and a guy asked my name he wanted to get me in the car but i ran as fast as i could and for a while they followed me.....if i would have panict i would have been in the car..
• India
10 Feb 07
I have a 21 year old sister who guys seem to find attractive. I suggest that you wear clothes revealing the minimum amount of skin because perverts are turned on by virtually everything. Next... always carry pepper spray with you and know how to use it. U never know when it may come in handy. Also if in close combat or assaulted from behid... stamp on the assailant's foot with your heel, kick them in the shins and knees and elbow them in the guts. Go for biting and scratching if only desperate as these tend to increase your panic levels. I hope my information has been helpful to all the girls and ladies here. Cheers Raghav
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@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
10 Feb 07
thanks for this information i hope ill never have to do that but i just cant belive how meest up the world is i mean the guy was 30 or so im only 16 ill try to keep in mind what you told me and hopefully i wont get panict if this happens...
10 Feb 07
i think its more to the fact that the world is moving in a all together different direction. if u look at tow generations back, there was less number of divorces, more commitment to relationship and you wouldn't see girls going out in the night late. Life is changing, people are becoming more insecure, and more things like this has to be expected.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
10 Feb 07
I had a discussion 2 days ago where I tld the story about my brother beeing beaten up by 4 guys for no reason at all. The world is a dangerous place and I have no idea how we can change this =(
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@threena (131)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Present times are getting scarier by the hour. Being only 16 does make you an easy prey. The sure thing you can do is never walk alone, especially at dark. Arm yourself with self defense devices like pepper spray. If something like that would happen again, walk in a crowded place and ask for help.
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