My friend wants me to have his baby!

There is NO way I would do it. After 6 months their relationship is still new and unstable, it may not last the 9 months of pregnancy. Plus, you wouldn't be being a surrogate, you'd be the mother of his child. There is a big difference. If they seriously want to have a child and she's unable to carry one for some reason then they need to go the proper medical route and contact doctors and surrogates, what he is suggesting would not be a good idea. At any time he could "change his mind" and you would be left having to figure out what to do with the baby. Plus you have to think about how will the child be raised, who will pay the pregnancy related medical bills, will you be compensated, will he pay for time you miss work, will he pay for maternity clothes, etc. All of those things are worked out prior to any implantation in a healthy surrogacy situation.

i would tell them if they really want this that they need to take a year to figure everything out. because you don't want to bring a child in this world when the child might not be going to parents that will stay together cause they haven't really had a long relationship. if they want to be responsible abvout this they will have no problem waiting one year to see wheree the relationship goes. just say it won't be fair for you to go through all of that and it won't be fair to the baby until you give the relationship some time to blossom first.

That is ridiculous. You can't sleep with him..just so they can have a baby. There are other methods these days to conceive a child...or they can adopt. Then who knows what kind of issues could come up later..how would you feel giving your baby away...and all the feelings that would arise from sleeping with him..etc. No..the whole thing is ludicris..tell him that him and his partner will have to work this out themselves.

I think y ou are a wonderful friend to even think about doing this for your friend..But this is gonna be more complicated than you think..Do you have any kids of your own? If you dont you will have a much greater chance of changing your mind and wanting to keep the baby..maybe not at first..but towards the end when you bond with it..and that is even so if you have children of your own.And..6 mths is hardly any time for him to know her..I would wait till they are married..and then wait a year or 2 after that..just to make sure..either one could change there mind at any time,.and then what?also..its not as easy to sleep with someone and get pregnant..the more you try the less likely you will get pregnant,,its just the law lol lol..So my advice of tell him to wait till they are married..or at leats with each other a few years living together..And.,.YOU will have to rethink and make sure you will be able to give up your child..especially since it will be half your and his..a piece of you will always be there,,,i wish you the best luck..

First off fabwisp,I would look into this very carfully,I have known women who have agreed to be serrogate mom's,and thought it would be great,but after carrying the baby for nine months and seeing it for the first time after birth,they found they did not want to give it up. be sure you can look after a new one before even thinking of helping him. 6 months is a short period of time to be together to ask you this. and there are adoption agencies that are always looking for good parents.

I wouldnt do it. There are several reasons why. 1... To carry a child and feel it grow inside you and then give it away, what happens if you become attached to this baby and decide to keep it? 2... you could potentially loose your friendship due to problems which could arise, you may not like something they do. 3... What happens if you decide later you want to be the babys mum. When you give up the baby you are giving up the right to be his/her mother.You could end up fighting for the custody of your own child. Becoming a mum is very special and even if you are fine with it now there will be a time when you may regret it especially if you dont already have children. 4... Also having a baby changes you emotionally and physically, are you prepared to do all that and not reap the benifit(the baby) 5...I dont think its fair for the unborn child. AND YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THIS WILL BE YOUR CHILD 6...what happens if they separate, who gets the child then????? Last but not least i think in a way your friend is asking alot of you, if he wants to be a dad maybe you can have his child and keep it yourself. MAYBE THEY SHOULD CONSIDER ADOPTION. THERE ARE ALOT OF LITTLE ONES OUT THERE WHO NEED A GOOD HOME AND A LOVING MUM AND DAD

Yeah 6 months is definitely not enough time to know someone well enough to make your friend want to have a baby. Besides, there are always other methods of fertilisation, such as test tube babies.

Honestly I wouldent sleep with him I would insist on doing things the proper way. Plus I would tell him that I wouldent fo it untill they have been together for 2yrs and are married first. That is just what I would do. Hope this helps.

I dont think thats a good idea..so donot let him do so..i dont think that they have had enough time to get into this decision...cos its only 6 months and i just do not get digested by the type of question he has asked...I would say you should never allow that....tell hiim to adopt a child and this isnt a way to get a child...

I would not recommend this. I have seen sever news programs that this causes a lot of problems down the road. I dont know what to tell you, but avoid this.

well watever u r thinking right now is true.... and you are right on ur side.... you are asking the question and then giving the answer by urself.... tell thenm to wait.... i mean it has been only 6 months.... they should ask for ur help after 1 or 1.5 yrs.... when they are sure of it..... and besides a very learned scholar has once said...........' Patience is the virtue'....peace

don't decide anything in a hurry.

No way, It's a baby you're talking about! It's not a pet like dog or cat but a child. And I couldn't bear to see somebody else's having my child. If they want to have a baby then they should find an institution for adoption.

Well this is a very complex situation.If you dont really know the patner of your friend, then just wait for sometime till you get to know her.Then decide whether its worth to sleep with your friend and let them adopt the baby.If shes a nice person i think you should not mind doing this favour.Although it would look strange to some people but as long u are comfortable with it, go ahead and do it.

i think you better insist to him that its you who he should be married to and not to him, anyway its your decision, since you like him very much and a friend long time,maybe you two can developed good relationship and be a good family,,

Oh that's a real tough one. I would definitely say no. Now I am speaking from the stand point of being a mother. You would see that child all the time and the feelings you would have might overwhelm you. I just think it's too close for comfort if you know what I mean. And like you said it may be too soon for them although that is their decision. I would say no but that's just me. Good Luck with your decision.

fabwisp i think you should have the child but you need to think do you really want to turn it over to two people who will certainly give you the cold sholder at some time in the future!!

O wow. This is something different, isn't it? From what you are writing, you must have feeling for your friend that you would be willing to go through this to make him happy. I wish you the best with whatever decision you make. If I were you, I wouldn't do it knowing having kids it's just a big thing. I would rather marry my friend or ask him to marry me and have a baby with him, instead of 'helping' him with another person having my baby. (after all that should be my baby, too)

Oh,my god.!!!!!!!

I cannot tell you what I'd do as I'm a boy. But let me tell you this.... imagine you are given a pup to raise and train for nine months. You adore the darling little thing and do so. In time you get attached to it, and it to you.... then you are asked to give back the pup because the training period is up... but you've grown on to each other. Imagine how hard this will be... I can only say giving up your baby will only be a thousand times harder from the way my mother loves me.