my husband's ex threatens to stop him seeing his children

This is so babyish. I cant believe adults resort to such behaviour. Try to keep her outside of your life as much as possible. Remember that she has no right to stop him from seeing his kids so what she is doing is simply empty threats.

The best think you can do is try to get her to understand that no matter how you adults feel about each other, the children will always love both their parents. And to keep them from their father is not going to hurt anyone but the kids in the long run. I have been through two divorces and I made every effort to make sure I never used the kids as pawns or go betweens. I will never like the way my ex spoils our daughter, but I also know that she chose her daddy for a reason, and if I don't let her spend time with him, she will not get from him what she needed for her journey in this lifetime. It's not for me to decide what her lessons will be, that was decided before I became her mother. I can only be supportive for my daughter when daddy lets her down, but still explain to her that he loves her the best he knows how.

He needs to have an agreement drawn up by a lawyer so she can't do this anymore. It's very unfair of her to do this, and by having a legal agreement drawn up between the two of them, it should put a stop to it. Plus that way everyone knows where they stand and who is responsible for what. This is what I did with my ex (although the children live with me, but we share joint custody). It is also part of our agreement that we cannot bad mouth the other in front of the children which I think is a great clause as too often I hear of parents doing this. I don't see any need for this kind of childish behaviour and what she does falls into the same category.

sometimes some ppl think that only men are the ones who do bad things. Unfortunately sometimes some women use kids as weapons and since they're the ones who normally get custody of children, they use it to pressure against their ex. i think its a shame and hope your husband has the chance to keep on seeing his kids...anything different from that would be a shame. Good luck

That is not good to make the children suffer because of something that the ex doesnt like. If she has custody and your husband has visitation rights the only alternative if she trys to keep the from seeing him is to go back to court. You cant give in to her just because she threatns you. Someone needs to tell her that the only ones she is hurting is the children. That is not right