would i buy my son every thing he wants?

Philippines
February 9, 2007 7:41pm CST
my son loves toys so everytime we go for a shoppping he always wants me to buy a new toy for him.You think its right that i buy him everything he wants?
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• United States
10 Feb 07
If you start doing that now you will have to continue to do it. There is a thing as too much! Yes, you do still love him even when he doesn't get his way. But you are the adult and he will start controlling you if you allow him too. It may be difficult to see him upset, but you have to start when they are young so that it will get easier for you as he gets older. Let him know at the door of the store, we are not getting a toy this trip and then YOU have to stick to it. Tell him at the end of the week on Friday/Saturday you will get a toy (or once a month or as you see fit). You have to stick to what you say though. It wont work if you keep giving in to him. Best of luck to you
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I don't know-but When I worked as a cashier Some mom's told me that they would have there child use some of their own b-day money or christmas money...ect. to buy what they wanted on a shopping trip, usually a toy. It seems like a really good learning experience. My mom use to always say that when you buy something yourself you appreciate it more.
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@deedles88 (297)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
I dont think its a great idea to buy him everything he wants. He could become selfish and greedy. He will just expect things from you all the time. He needs to learn that toys are for birthdays, christmas and sometimes as a reward for doing such a great job at school, your report card, or just being really good.
@Capulet (32)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 07
absolutly no. i think it's not good to taking care your son by bough him a toy he wants. it's not educate.. give him some explaination that he can't get everything he wants. You should to select which toy you bough for you son.
10 Feb 07
hey there, i dont think you should get him everything he wants, but if i have a son, what i would do is to set a a scheme where he will get a gift if he earns/deserves it. say he gets a good mark at school, if it is a small test you give him a star, and a big test maybe a few, and once he has a sertain amount then he can get something he wants. fair is fair.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
No, not everything. Make him earn every toy he wants. By this way, you kid wil learn how to appreciate things or toys given to him. In my observation, kids who gets their way most of the time doesn't care much if their toys break or get lost.
• Canada
10 Feb 07
no i don't think this is right. . . it's okay to buy him stuff once in awhile, but if you buy him everything he wants, he'll grow up and expect everyone else to cater to him all the time too. . .he has to learn how to accept you saying "no" once in awhile too.