What would you do?

India
February 9, 2007 10:55pm CST
If your daughter/sister had a chid and was having a very hard time in marriage?Would you tell her to get out of the abusive marriage and move on or would you tell her to stay for the sake of the child?
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• Canada
10 Feb 07
I would never tell anyone to stay for the sake of the child . I would tell her that I would support her in whatever decision she chose but that I was worried about her and the child and would help them out any way that I could . Ultimately it is her that has to decide if she is willing to move out or not and we cannot make this happen as much as we may want to . Telling her to stay for the sake of the child would be doing no good to the child as the child would see this and it would be very hard for the child to have to deal with not to mention the fact that abuse is a cycle and the child would probably end up with someone who did the same abuse or would be the one who did the abusing . Another thing I would like to add is that if the mother is not happy this will not make a happy place for any of them to be in and no parent can remain just for the sake of the child because the truth is , it will never help the child as they will grow up being just as miserable with seeing how their parents fight all the time .
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• India
10 Feb 07
I agree with you.But so often ,the victim carries on with the hope that some day things will become better........Sometimes you need to push a person to get out along with supporting her.