help needed..
By etheljeah
@etheljeah (98)
Canada
February 10, 2007 6:03am CST
ok,so this is about my bestfriend.. she has her boyfriend for like five months now. and then she went to another place and his boyfriend was left but still waitin for her but they didnt broke up. so they continued their journey even if theyre not together promisin each other that will still be together after two years because that's the time that the girl will be back. after a few months of happiness and contentment,the girl became busy and she just found herself breakin up (but not vocally,just insinuatin) with the guy whom she loved the most.. reasonin out that she cant give the guy so much time and that she wanted to be fair.. the guy resist,but after few times he gave up. he agredd breakin up. and the girl was stunned, she was really hurt.. suddenly she just felt that she doenst know if she did the right thing.. and she wanted the guy back,but it seems that the became tired even if he told the girl that he'll still be waitin even if they broke up. but the guy was not respondin to the girl's msg.. and this girl,my friend, doesnt really know what to do.. and i really need to help her that why i posted this because she's a very close friend of mine and i want to help her..
4 responses
@sweetstacy (160)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
well your friend should have thought about really breaking up first.she has seriously hurt her boyfriend,and when a guy says its over,they really mean it.i don't know if the guy would still be willing to be with her,i doubt it.and considering that they are far away from each other,i think the guy have decided to move on with his life,got traumatized with what your friend has done to him.well if your friend really loves the guy,then all she can do is to communicate with him.that's all that she can do,since she was the one who broke up and just didn't care bout the relationship.just advice her that the next time she gets into a relationship is that she must think about breaking up a thousand times,coz she might regret it in the end.but still i hope they could fix things up,and be back together once again.good luck!
@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
yup,i agree.. but i guess i cant blame for her for deciding that way because she wanted to be fair with the guy. she told me that shes feelin useless because of havin no time for his boyfriend considerin the fact that the guy is doin everythn for her and so into her.. my friend called me awhile ago askin me to talk to his bf, but i cant say yes because i duno what im gona say.. im jst afraid i might tell him the wrong things and be the cause of much problem..
@unishwetabh (1031)
• India
10 Feb 07
First of all, maintaning a long distance relationship is the hardest of all. Suppose if a guy makes some mistake and then he has to apologize to his love then he can't do that by simply calling her or by writing letters. Now the only solution for you (as I feel) is that you meet the girl and then meet the boy separately and try to understand their problems. And then if you think that things can be worked out then make both of them meet at some place. I think that there meet is the answer to the question.
@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
but theres no way of makin them meet.. theyre seperated by oceans.. and it'll take too much for that. for the time being,i guess its not possible..
@sazzy29 (63)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
the girl should talk to that guy in person! msgs, calls.... it doesn't work that much. she have to see him and talk to him honestly what she feels. it's better to lose your pride than to lose your loveone because of your useless pride! good luck!
@Critter028 (77)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I think that she did the right thing. She was not able to give the relationship the time and attention that relationships need in order to flourish, so for the time being and until she returns, it is probably best for them not to be together. If they truely love each other, when she returns, they will be together again. Until such time, as her friend all you can do is be compassionate, understanding, and offer her a shoulder to cry on.
@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
yeah i guess that's true.. but seein my friend like that,im so worried about her.. its like im feelin that sumthn good was wasted,because me knowin the two person who definitely love each other.. i cant stand thinkin that its over and theyre both hurtin inside.. i wish i can do anythn more than that..but thank you for the advice..
