Father/daughter dances
By oddball123
@oddball123 (125)
United States
February 10, 2007 12:18pm CST
I'm asking this question for a friend of mine because she would never think to start it herself. She called me the other day and told me about a father/daughter dance at her daughters school. She is recently seperated and her ex doesn't want a whole lot to do with the kids. Her daugher is very upset at not bieng able to go to the dance. It would have been her first dance ever. My question is why do they have these types of dances, are they just another way to seperate the kids and make some feel bad? With so many different types of families these days should they really have dances like this? Let me know what you think and any suggestions on how my friend can help her daughter through this.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
10 Feb 07
About 60% of kids in America is from divorced parents. Your friend daughter is not in minority. School supposed to think before they start somthing like this.
I don't have any suggestions. I am single mother and I know how she feels. Just let her focus on something positive.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Well, maybe the child has an uncle or a friend of the family that can take her, just because there are so many different types of families, it does not mean that the traditional relationships should be ignored.
I am tried of having my life dictated by minorities, when my son was in 2nd grade, he was not allowed to have birthday parties, halloween, christmas, valentines etc because there was one jehovah witness (I think) in the class.
The child should have left the room, and the other kids been allowed to have their party, but they did not want the child to feel bad, instead, 25 kids felt bad because the rest of the schools had parties and they didn't.
Why don't yo try and help your friend to accomodate her daughter's needs.
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@oddball123 (125)
• United States
10 Feb 07
My friend is my sister in law and if my husband was home and they didn't live 3 state away he would take his niece to the dance. As it stands she moved and has no family where shes at that can help with this. I was just looking for other peoples oponions. As far as your life being dictated my minorities , I am sorry you feel like that and I am not trying to downgrade the "traditional" family just say that there are other types out there. May you should be a little more tolerant of other people and there needs!!!!!!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am tolerant, my son was also one who did not have a father around when he did father son activities. One of them was a father son hockey game. I went in there, first time on hockey skates and made them change the name to parent-kid game.
I always tried to find a work around.
When they had grandparents day at school, he did not have grandparents. But it was explained to him and he understood for the time he was at day care, he never had a parent at grand parents day.
I never once felt that because he could not fully participate that they should not have the event.
Sorry.
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