marriage or living in ?

@julie0825 (1415)
Philippines
February 10, 2007 10:46pm CST
which would you prefer ? marriage is very serios and more real bigger commitment that you can sure off ? living in together your family look down on you - but you can have all the benefits without the problems associated with in laws and messy divorse , separation and so on ? so what do you think ?
6 responses
@apsara60 (6611)
• Israel
11 Feb 07
If you want to have children in your life then you better go for simple marriage. If you want to keep changing your boy friend from time to time and enjoy freedom in life life, without making any adjusment or sacrifices or getting bored sometiems, then you can choose the other option. If I was in your place, I would go for marriage.
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
i am happily married now - this thread is just a test or poll for everyone i am curious what every person prefered ? thank you for responding
@apsara60 (6611)
• Israel
11 Feb 07
you are a good girl. take care.
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
thank you -
• Pakistan
11 Feb 07
i dont think tht avoiding marriage is a solution at all. if one is tru and sincere then minor irritants in a marriage can always be resolved and overcum. living 2gether on the other hand is not an ideal solution to me coz its not only agst religion but also agst nature
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
and disobeying god will as well thank u
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
well,i would prefer just living in.because i am in a relationship that my parents wouldn't allow.and because i cannot leave my boyfriend,i have thought about just living in with him.our relationship is quite rocky,so i don't think i would ever consider marrying him,but i cant imagine myself with someone else either.so when the time comes that i would be able to provide for myself and have a job,i'll just live in with my boyfriend,and if we have kids,then it's fine.and if in the future we break up,it doesnt matter either,i would be very happy with what i did with my life.
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
practical is what on your mind and i admire woman with that opinion the key is you did what you think that made you happy - good luck
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I'm most prefer to live in. Not because i'm trying to keep away from commitments or responsibilities when i got married. It's because i want to know if my girlfriend loves and willing to be with me for the rest of our life even though were just a live in partner. Sometimes it seems like womens (no offense)wants a marriage to secure their self financially and legally. They're protected by law after a marriage. But since i love my girlfriend, i will marry her because it means a lot for her if she get married to me. And i am willing to accept those commitments and try to be a good husband for her.
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
yes many womans want to get married for their own security financially and emotionally - good luck to you have a happy family
@mishald (176)
• India
11 Feb 07
i would prefer marriage for the simple reason that with marriage, u know that there is someone for u to fall back on. even if there r problems, u and your partner will try your best to work them out before calling it quits. on the other hand with a live-in relationship, as soon as the person gets bored, or finds someone better, he/she is out of your life and u r left to pick up the pieces
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
and sometime a person cant cope with the loss and end up killing he or herself thank you for your view
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I may be conservative but the right thing is marriage. why? because if you love the person and you want to live with him for the rest of your life then you must marry the person. it marriage you will embrace all the good and bad things about your better half and I belived that if you will make God the center of your relationship then you can survive all the problems/ obstacle that may come along the way. However it is an advice that you must be sure with your decision of getting married, sure that all aspects to be considered are discussed very well. It is also a comon things in life that one of the problems in the relationsghip is about it laws.... Remember you marry the person you love and not them, if you're not in good terms try to reach out at least you did your part. and when you got old and still together you can see and reflect on your journey and its fun and worthwhile
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
thats abso;utly right - whenever you marry a person you accept the good and the bad about him thank you