Can Long Distance Relationship Work Out?

@mishang (498)
Philippines
February 11, 2007 9:47am CST
i've really been doing a lot of thinking right now, my boyfriend had a job overseas and he'd be leaving this month, i'm just feeling low right now, and i feel sad of course, but other half of me, still wants to be happy becasue i know he got the job that he really dreamed to have. in your opinion, will a long distance relationship work out, or will it depend solely on the two people involved in the relationship.
5 responses
• Malaysia
28 Jan 09
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries
@mypeace (393)
• Nigeria
9 May 07
it works for some people and doesnot for others. l think what matters is the two individuals involved, but one of the key of relationship is really communication, even if you are apart and communicate often, its likely that the relationship would work, however, sometimes out of sight is always out of mind, lol.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
It is difficult but I think it can work out and it will solely depend on how strong you two are. It will take lots of patience and trust between you two. There are many ways you two could enjoy each others company since there are cellphone, and the internet where your communication needs could be met. It will cost a little but if that will make your relationship stronger why not? Its true it will depend on how strong were your relationship when he was here. How much attached are you two to each other. If both can say they would stick to one another then continue with what you have started. But if you start having doubts if this relationship cannot withstand long distance then obviously you know what to do.
• United States
11 Feb 07
I have the same exact situation as you. My fiance and I are apart for 10 weeks. I have 7 weeks left and there are days when it's hard and you really miss the person. It will depend on the two people in the relationship. Don't allow your feelings and memories fade away. Make plans when to talk online, the phone and meeting in person will give you something to look forward to. And try to keep yourself busy, that will help you not feel so down. I've found that not doing something gives me time to dwell on missing him. Good luck!
• United States
11 Feb 07
i guess it all depends on the two people in the relationship. in very few cases do you see long distance relationships work out. without that physical contact and seeing the person you're with, it's hard to maintain the faith and interest in the person. it also depends on how the arrangement is. does he get to visit you often? is this a permanent thing? what are the circumstances that are keeping you from going with him? it all depends on how much you guys mean to one another. i hope everything works out fine.