Is anyone else here in a long distance relationship?

@Starline (681)
United States
February 11, 2007 6:51pm CST
I am Swedish and my husband is an America and we are in a LDR for another 5 months. No matter how much I dislike it it does bring us closer to eachother. I truly believe that relationships that make it through a LDR are stronger and more true than the average relationship. If you disagree I would like to hear other opinions, but my experience is that if you talk as much as you have to do living far away, you couldn't get away with staying toghether because it's comfortable. Does anyone agree with me?
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• Romania
12 Feb 07
Hello! I must tell you i fully agree with your oppinion about LDR, because i`m in the same case too . Unfortunately me and my boyfriend meet only once .. or in good cases twice a month . I know that`s not enough .. but i can assure you our love is growing day by day .. because we keep on talking .. we talk about everything .. that makes us happy or sad .. or just chit chat .. it doesn`t matter ..as long we hear each others voice every day .We also have almost 5 months left apart .. but i think that if we survived 1 and a half year in a LDR .. 5 months will pass quicly and distance will surely won`t break us apart . When love really exists between 2 persons .. it doesn`t matter the distance .. the year difference or the social statute .. because together everything can be solved .
@Starline (681)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Absolutely! I don't undersand friends who resist getting involved with a person because they live far away, sometimes as little as an hour away! it's like conveniency is more important than who it is! I for one plan to spend my life with this person so a few months is not much in comparison. In a LDR you get to know eachother so well, it's not exactly like you can start making out or watch TV when you don't have anything to talk about, you have to really get to know eachother this way.
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• Romania
13 Feb 07
That`s for shure .. I`m convinced that those who aren`t able to maintain their relationship in a LDR aren`t really inlove .. or the one who gives up isn`t inlove enough to stand up for his or her partner . My whole relationship was and is at long distance .. and i can tell for shure that i`ve never known a person so well as i know my boyfriend ..when we`re together we don`t even need to say what`s on our minds .. because we know eachother so well that practically we speek with no words .. and this is because when we`re apart we get to talk about everything .. and i`m shure that this wouldn`t be happening if we were in the same city . Now i can say we can move together with no second thoughts because we both feel we`re ment to be together and that together there are no obstacles we can`t pass through.
@Starline (681)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I recognise myself so well in your description. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
12 Feb 07
yes i agree i was in an long distance relationship for almost a year, we was 800 miles apart. i also agree that the longer you talk the better of you are. if you can hold the love threw a certain amount of time and still be together thats true love love. altho it does have its down sides like going crazy wanting to put your arms around each other or holding each other tight at night which you cant do. im glad i held out because hes the sweetest more wonderful man ive ever met.
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I have in along distance relationship we keep as strong .we are on this 3 months,we keep on sending emails and greeting cards everyday.We dont forget to responseto our messages. We have plans to meet and be together.i know that we miss each other.
@Starline (681)
• United States
12 Feb 07
One of the reasons why it's worth it is that I don't think my husband and I will ever take eachother for granted. We have to struggle so hard now and miss eachother so much and in the future we will probably look back at this year and be reminded of how much we mean to eachother. Thanks for the support, it's nice to know that there are other couples that go through the same thing as I. I tend to forget because I don't have anyone around me that have been though a LDR, everyone is just complaining for example if their bf have to go away for a weekend or so.
• United States
12 Feb 07
I'm in a LDR. My fiance is in another country and I'm here in America. I went with him to his country for about 3 months. Now I'm back in America and it's hard not being with him everyday. I have 7 more weeks left until we're together again. But you no doubt must be having a harder time since you have more time to wait :( Hang in there!
@Starline (681)
• United States
12 Feb 07
It is really tought! I try to do a lot of things to make time go by faster, but it's not very easy all the time. I have a widget that count down days, only 46 days to go now. The only comfort is that not all couples get to experience a second first kiss, it's so special to meet again after 4 months apart.
• Canada
13 Feb 07
why dont u two live together? and does your husband have the esame feelings towads u? about not liking the fact that u are not living close to eachother? if he felt the same way, should u two not discuss a way to solve this problem? I think u guys should...
• United States
15 Feb 07
I am in a LD relationship. It's my first real relationship and it has been less than a month. We definitely do miss each other and he doesn't know when he's coming to visit, soon i hope. It is kinda hard being that its my first relationship but i hope we can grow together and become closer.
@Starline (681)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I hope that he can visit you soon. It's always easier when you have a date to countdown to!
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
yes, i agree. constant communication is key towards a stronger relationship, whether it is LDR or not. i used to be in a LDR myself and it lasted for 6 years. i think the main reason why we got that far was we always made sure we talk to each other every day. but a LDR is very challenging as well. it's not for everybody. i still prefer what you call the average relationship. i love seeing my bf every other day.
@Starline (681)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Hmm, I don't think anyone would actually say that they prefer a LDR. It's more of a 'It's worth to go through it' kind of thing, if you don't have a choice at the moment :)
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I'm also in LDR. We've recently just met in person for the first time and it was the most wonderful week we've had. We live in the same country but an hours flight away, and we can only meet every couple of months or so. But we're happy this way and I've never had a better relationship with anyone else.
@Starline (681)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I'm happy that you met someone that is right for you! Love conquers everything.
@hafiz74 (268)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
I have been threw it... Its hard... and costly too... we met through email... and get to know each other for 1 year by sending and reply email... 1 year after that, we continue with talking each other through phone... from that time my phone bill started to increasing rapidly... i meet her after a year then... finally, we got married and i move into his place... lucky for me, i had been transfer to my wife place 6 month before we got married...
@Starline (681)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I agree that it's costly. I wish it was cheaper to fly than it is, I'm moving from Sweden to NY now so I'll probably just afford to visit my family once or twice a year.
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am also in a long distance relationship and I agree with you 100 percent. We have been doing this long distance thing a long time, and though it is tough at times it is very worth it. I think that if you don't get to see the one you are with all the time like normal relationships it can make the relationship stronger. When you do actually get to see them it is so special, its an amazing feeling. It makes being with each other so much better. Thats how I feel at least! I do dislike being so far away sometimes, but if you love someone and it is worth the wait, than I don't think long distance relationships are a problem. Good luck with you and your husband!
@Starline (681)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Thank you so much, good luck to you too. Yeah, there is nothing better then meeting again after having been apart.
• United States
12 Feb 07
My husband and I are apart, too. he is in Florida and I am in Texas. We won't be together again for at least 5 more months. In our situation, we hardly talk at all since he works 18 hour days right now. he calls in the morning and then calls at night to tell the kids goodnight. That's about it. Our relationship is getting stronger, I do believe that, but we don't talk much. LOL We have also been toghter for over 10 years so we pretty much know everything there is to know. LOL It's hard, but it's worth it in the end. Hang in there. 5 months isn't all THAT long...seems like it sometimes, but it will be over soon.
@Starline (681)
• United States
12 Feb 07
It IS hard, but don't you agree that the meetings get more special when you do meet? You have been through something that differents you and him from other couples. I hate when people say that 'LDS, they never work out' because how many non-LDR don't work out?! But the ones that do work out are in my opinion stronger.
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
i agree with you ^^, People tend to ignore the things that LDR can bring. You become your won person. You manage to gain some time to contemplate your feelings for you significant other. And when the day comes that he's at your side already, even for just a limited time, you tend to spend more QUALITY TIME.
• India
13 Feb 07
yes i accept withy ya.. cuz its the LD that makes the lovers want each other even more and thats one vital reason they stay commited
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
i agree. just like the saying goes... absense makes the heart grows founder... i guess having that kind of relatiobship will help make strong bonds with your loved one. your trust and honesty and faithfulness to each other will be tested.