What would you do if you were the Subject of Office Grapevine

Philippines
February 12, 2007 2:18am CST
I always manage to make waves no matter how much I try not to. SOme of my co-workers are bad-mouthing me for the unfounded offenses. What do I do, appear non-chalant and indifferent or come up to them for a face-off? Has it eer happened to you?
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@yanjiaren (9050)
12 Feb 07
tell me about it..i have always had that kinda effect..i think we have to make affirmations and change the way we feel about ourselves..there are usually some innate insecurities that others can see and they feed off of that to make themselves look larger..i often tend to ignore them so they are not important in my life..they mean less and less..if it affects my career then i would stand up for defending myself..but in a calm way..or make a complaint in writing to head office..reporting time and place of incidents..
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
i came on too weak for their strong vulture appetite. They think I don't have what it takes to get there and so it was just OK to badmouthe me. Judging by their looks, they're badly needing something to help them feel better about them. They're a bunch of discontented mothers and maids.
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• United States
12 Feb 07
I would address the issue. I think once rumors start, you need to take care of it before matters become worse. I figure if they want something to talk about, I might as well give them something REAL. Trust me, most people don't like confortation and once they realize your not going to tolerate it, they will find someone else.
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
it's like tilting windmills. It's not easy as that. But thank you for the response. Sometimes it's good to be a war freak.
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@nw1911guy (1134)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I would ask them directly to stop. If that fails, then I would talk to a supervisor.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
that's not the way we do it here. We avoid any nasty face-off. the offender will just deny the accusations. Besides, they do it in army and nobody will believe me. I'm trying to avoid troubles.
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@willocfc (965)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
I would not even acknowledge that it is happening as that way they are getting exactly what they want, they want to upset to you and try and break you so just ignore them, people like that are just not worth your time, and if it becomes unbearable then go to your superior and let them deal with it
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
thank you for the advice. I won't let them know I'm affected by their wagging tongues. But i won't let my superiors in. THey won't believe a lone girl without anyone to back me up. Thanks. That's priceless.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
Been there, done that. Start wearing short skirts & high heels. If they're going to talk anyway, might as well turn em green while they're running their choppers, eh?
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
i love your idea. I'm going to get in shape and start wearing miniskirts and sleevelees tops.
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• United States
18 Feb 07
Enjoy the attention :) The better you look, the more it will burn them up. Works every time :)
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
26 Mar 07
i would just ask them what there problem is and why are they running me down. I hate people like that. espically people that act nice to your face and then talk about you when you are gone.