what should i do when dad and mom start fight

Thiruvananthapuram, India
February 12, 2007 7:32am CST
hi i am 17 i live with my parents. i used to see my dad and parent fight since my childhood. when i was small the fight was restricted to their rooms alone but still i could here it. but for the last few years the fights are nothing new in our house. i feel very bad when i see and here this. do you thing there is anything i can do about it.
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@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Well because they are not pressing charges themselves and keep the fighting in your home there is very little the law can do. If they were abusing you...other thant he mental abuse....then you might have something to work with. Because you are a minor and not living on your own you will not be able to get a lawyer for advice. I would hope a lawyer will see this post and give you some free advice. Most girls in your situation have little recorse but to put up with it. No one likes to have the two most important people in thier life fighting. It is very hurtfull to you. But if you can just understand that what ever they ae doing has nothing to do with you and just keep on doing your best to talk to them I think you will come out fine. Sorry I can not give you the advice you would like to hear but just keep living your life so you don't end up in the same problem. That can happen to you very easly.
• United States
13 Feb 07
I agree that you should just get out of the house (if possible)when they start arguing. And when you leave, tell them calmly that you're leaving for awhile because you don't want to be in the house when they are fighting. That would get the message across a little bit, I think. Then, when things have calmed down, you need to talk to one or both of them and express your feelings about their fighting, tell them how it's affecting you, etc. Blessings to you!
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@f3rcho (258)
• Argentina
12 Feb 07
Hey, my parents argue sometimes too. Whenever they do it, I ignore them. That way, they realize how much it annoys me, and in the end they always reconcile. I know it's the best advice, but it works for me...
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Well dear i hate you are having to listen to all that fighting...I am much older than you ,i have grandchilren your age..i think that when a couple fights that means that they should have never kelp that marriage togeather..Thats why if a couple gets married and cannot live in peace that they should separate.It is very hard on the children as well as your father and mother to live with constant tension and stress within the home...really sweetie there is nothing really that you can do,as much as i would like to give you an answer..All you can do is just love both your parents and try not to take sides,its so clear that both your parents are miserable,and just there and not much more..I hate divorce but sometimes it is the only answer...I would suggest that if possible when this fighting starts maybe you could go outside or to a friends house so you could distance yourself from it..I just hate so bad that you are going through this..You may not know this now but this will affect you when you get into a relationship,you will dread that it could happen to you too..Just hang in there is all i can say...By the way your Pic is adorable...Take care..Just another Mother
• Italy
12 Feb 07
let understand them how much you are in pain for it! sometimes soons have to reproach their parents when they behave like children!!! I'm sorry I can't suggest you nothing else at the moment! Good luck and smile first of all.
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@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
:( I'm sorry to hear that you have to listen to it. I don't really think there is anything you can do about the arguments, your parents should be mature enough to take their fights elsewhere and actually they shouldn't be fighting all the time anyway. If possible, perhaps you could leave the house when this is going on, just go for a walk or something so you don't have to listen to it. If you are close to them, maybe you could try and talk to them and tell them how it makes you feel when they do this. Sounds as though they could benefit from some counselling.
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