Mylot etiquette!
By freesoul
@freesoul (3021)
Egypt
February 12, 2007 12:21pm CST
Here's a few rules, please feel free to add to them or comment on any.. You can also criticize them or give different view about any if you like:)
Friends requests:
Sometimes someone gives a good response at your discussion and you want to have them as a friend.. When you request someone to be your friend you should first respond to one or more of their discussions, this way you show them you are really interested and they will not hit the "deny" link.
Friends Discussions:
You should always look at "discussions my friends started" and respond to some of your friends discussions daily, many people complaining about not getting any responses while they are doing the same to their friends.
Rating:
Rating takes less than a second and it helps others, rate everything you read especially your friends posts anywhere you come across them.
Best responses:
Many mylot members are not giving best responses, you owe it to other members to "resolve" your discussions, check "my unresolved discussions" regularly and give "best responses to those who deserve it.
Discussions:
Don't start 10+ discussions daily, they can never be of good quality and your friends will hate it.. only start good discussions when you can think of any, or just respond to other people's discussions and you will be making the same money, less started discussions means better quality and more responses to everyone.
26 people like this
32 responses
@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Oh this is awesome!
Ratings are a big one for me. Don't rate negatively because you don't like someone's opinion. If you really can't give them a positive because they disagree with your opinion and state it in thoughtful manner, then just don't rate them at all!
6 people like this
@HollywoodCole (17)
• Saint Kitts And Nevis
13 Feb 07
So, when would be a good time to rate someone negatively?
2 people like this
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
You should rate people negatively when they use abusive language, insulting you or anyone else, they spam the discussion with unrelated text, they respond just by the title without actually reading the discussion and missing the real point, writing one or two words, etc.. all these are abuses but disagreement or opposing your views doesn't deserve a negative rating.
2 people like this
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
12 Feb 07
These are excellent suggestions, freesoul. I especially like the one about not trying to start too many discussions. Some of the ones you see on here are absolutely ridiculous and you can tell that the person starting them put no thought into it at all.
I would rather see one or two good discussions a day than 100 trivial ones.
6 people like this
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
12 Feb 07
Yes, sadly we all complain about getting zero or few responses to our good discussions but if less discussions are started more people will arrive to them especially our friends.. I try to respond to all my friends but as some start too many discussions they make it hard for me to do so..
5 people like this
@25th_Stargazer (887)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
thanks for all these suggestions. i am more particular about starting a discussion. why not myLot limit each user in starting a discussion. or to prevent redundancy of topic, remind the user that it has been discussed for the nth time... something like that?
2 people like this
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Great post freesoul!
I agree with all those points.
Some people posts discussions like posting responses. It is hard for friend to reply all of them.
About friend request, some people just never learn. They never reply to your post but they will send request again and again after you deny them. What is most irritating for me is some people with 0 post just send you request. In what basis you will choose them as friend?
5 people like this
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Excellent post! I would love it if mylot decided to take your words of wisdom and add them to the official mylot FAQ. I would love to add one more item to this list, if I may:
Please don't post discussions complaining about how your ungrateful friends never respond to your topics. A good friend will review your topics regularly and give a thoughtful, quality response to those discussions that they can relate to. Not everyone has the same interests, so please don't expect every friend to reply to every topic every time.
:)
@25th_Stargazer (887)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
yes, that's right! i am new to myLot and sometimes i think that i should be adding a lot of myLot users as friends so they can rate me positively... hahaha! it gives me the impression that if i can scratch their backs.. they can scratch mine. i guess users should only respond to discussions they can relate to or have a strong feeling about... not because the ones who started the topic is their friend and they are obliged to respond so that they can get the same gesture when they need it.
1 person likes this
@randomosity_prevails (1112)
•
12 Feb 07
I always try to reply to the discussions that my friends have started, but sometimes it's hard to keep up, plus I don't see the point of contributing to a discussion that I don't really have anything to say about. I too rate everything I read, it's only fair, and it's a nice way to give a little something back, to say thank you to someone for a good post.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
Yes we are not supposed to respond to all of our friends discussions, just the ones we can relate to and have something to say but "discussions my friends started" is my favorite and main place I search for discussion to respond to before I go anywhere else and everyone on my friends list will get a response from my every now and then but not to all their discussions.
@Bizziebod (3497)
•
12 Feb 07
Just a quick one to add, please check that your discussion hasn't been covered already by putting it into the search engine! People are fed up with the same discussions coming up again and again!
5 people like this
@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Well - one thing you have in your posting is already something in the MyLot help files, the one about giving a negative rating just because someone responds to your discussion disagreeing with you.
Perhaps another one is don't post one-liners of "I have no idea what you're talking about." I think the moronic mylot marauder got himself completely wiped off the face of mylot, but someone had posted in my discussions the same line. He had also proceeded to go into my friends' discussions & was doing the same thing to them. Those responses have all vanished, & that guy is gone. Something like that would be a great inclusion, being that it's a good way to suddenly find yourself delted & all earnings forfeited.
I also agree with sweetlady10 about friend requests. If you have not started a decent discussion or repsonded to decent discussions with decent resonses, unless you actually know the person, don't just send friend requests. If you get turned down after sending a friend request, particiapte some more & then try again a few days later maybe.
2 people like this
@manzician (4727)
• India
13 Feb 07
Ok. The tips which you have given here are quite useful. Thank you so much. However, I still doubt if these tips are really as useful in practical as they seem... I'll have to see that if they really work for me. But aneewayz, thanks a lot for taking an initiative.
2 people like this
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
They are just "etiquette" the more people who use them the better the mylot community will be, many people post these tips in different discussions all of the time but I though i should group them here to give more people the chance to read them all.. thanks for your comments and I hope they will prove useful for you in the long term :)
1 person likes this
@sunshinecup (7871)
•
12 Feb 07
Wonderful!
I want to add, don't respond with some off the wall rubbish that does not pertain to the topic, then ask not to be rated with a "-".
That one kills me.
4 people like this
@scarfaceboston (869)
• Romania
13 Feb 07
I do this thing every time I enter on to myLot.
I try to reply to as many discussions started by my friends as I can but some of them start more then 10+ every day. Some of them start discussion that you can reply with only one word: "Yes" or "No".
If we all do like the rules that you wrote myLot will be a more interesting place.
Take care.
@aprilten (1966)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
i think yu've covered just about anything that we need to know of mylot etiquette.
i particularly don't rate anyone '-'. if i don't like the response i just don't rate it.
oh, may i also add that authors of the discussions should make it a point to read their discussions and respond to some questions that may be asked along the way. i suggest that we thank each and every respondent.
on the other hand, we should also understand if the author cannot thank each and every respondent especially when there are so many responses to his discussions.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
Yes it's a "mylot etiquette" to respond to people who asks you questions or demand explanations, etc. it's bad manner to just start discussions and never read what people respond to you.. It's no necessary to thank or comment on everyone's response, only those who need a response or those who raise important points like you id here :)
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Amen - I think you did a great job with this list. I always set my friends to automatically notify me when they post a new discussion that saves me time "hunting them down". I've also dropped a few friends because every day I was responding to several of their "so so" discussions and didn't see any sign of them. I also automatically deny friend requests if they have not posted responses to any of my discussions.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
Yes this is a sign that they only want you to respond to their discussions and they will never do the same, i accepted many who never responded to my discussions and gave them time waiting for them to do so but eventually I delete them without a note. If they don't like any of my discussions why they want to be my friend? I hate it when people just want to use you:(
@bkfuels (1603)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
How do you know when you get a negative response or a positive one? does it show up somewhere? Also The way I have selected my friends is I liked what they had said. When I come on to mylot I check my friends discussions first before I move on to others.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
13 Feb 07
The +&- ratings you get reflects on the number on your star and it can fluctuate from day to day. You can't know exactly how many - you got or who gave them to you but when you give good quality responses you receive more + and your star rates improves with time.
1 person likes this
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
13 Feb 07
You did a fine job composing this discussion. It would be helpful to the newbies and the novices here at MyLot. Thank you.
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Wonderful job freesoul! With regards to friend's request, I do accept everyone because it is very hard to find for a topic that I will respond to in a day. I go directly to discussions my friends started so that I will not have a hard time scrolling down on topics.
I also agree with quality discussions because it is worth it to respond with good quality. Best responses, I wait for others to respond to my discussions before I give best response.
The bottom line in mylot I think is "Respect others because everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion"
2 people like this
@Indiffer (287)
• Norway
13 Feb 07
The rules are great.
I also agree in not giving a response to your friend unless it gives you something. Or have questions.
But one thing id like to add is to not post your fabulous link unless someone asks you for it. I have seen loads of
"lure"posts where they say: do you need to/have you heard about/and so on, and then: just go to my site/blog and find out. That is fishing for referrals! Isnt it?
2 people like this
@astroo13 (963)
• India
13 Feb 07
Great job with the list. Some of the people here have more than 100 friends and they are sending out requests for more friends.How can they manage 100 friends? You won't have people responding to your post for long if you don't respond to your friends posts.
