boyfriend/girlfriend: who rules?

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i have had two boyfriends in all my 24 years of living. my first boyfriend was dark, tall, thin, and not really what you might call handsome. plus he is a fratboy and feels as if he is a very important guy. my boyfriend now is tall still, fair, good looking, has a good body, well mannered and is two years younger. i was the underdog during my first relationship. guess you could say it is the opposite in my present relationship. feeling hurt before, you could say i always have my defenses up now. which leaves my boyfriend the emotional one. i cant say i rule or i am the man in 'us'. but the thing is i've learned. who gets followed and who follows depends on what you do. if you act like a pushover, chances are he/she will boss you around. respect. i say that's the key. but of course, it does feel fun to get what you want every once in a while right? ^_^ guys don't always have to rule. things like this should be give and take. it takes two to tango remember? who rules? both! happy hearts day all! ^_^